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Mary is a writer and speaker who lives for good books, spicy queso, and television marathons – but lives because of God’s grace. She writes about giving up on perfect and finding truth in unexpected places at MaryCarver.com. Mary and her husband live in Kansas City with their two daughters.

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  1. Thank you for these words today. I wonder if your lingering knee pain is so you could write this? Your words give comfort and hope. Thank you for sharing

  2. This resonates with me in so many ways- I am dealing with a possible torn meniscus and have been in pain for months now, Just when I think it is better, I do something simple like getting into bed and I twist it again. I have been so discouraged. I have prayed; I have offered my pain to Jesus; I have read Scripture; I have accepted the help of others; I am in Physical Therapy. I find I am saying no to doing things with others because I get so tired walking and can’t easily go up and down stairs. And like you, I think is this what I have to deal with for the rest of my life on top of the arthritis in my feet, the back pain, etc? What is frustrating is that it all began with overdoing the yoga and pushing the mower. So, I look at the growing lawn as I wait for my neighbor to come mow- an added expense I do not need, and just accepted an invitation with friends to visit another friend who is home from the hospital after a life threatening surgery. I know her health and recovery is so much more serious than my knee and I am thankful she is healing but I ask how long will it take for me to heal physically and spiritually.

  3. Definitely needed to read this today. We have had so much happen in the last year and a half and finding any kind of normal seems impossible. I have 4 boys, 3 of which are teenagers and I struggle because I wasn’t parented much at their age. I keep saying I don’t like this season because I feel so unable to handle what’s being thrown at me. I know God has me and he sees and hears my prayers for help. It can be so exhausting and make you weary after a while. I don’t know if it’s a season I’m, in
    but I’ve been thinking that this whole time and maybe I’m just being taught something new. Prayers for all of you who feel just as confused about what you are doing or facing right now!

    • I hear you, Kayla. It’s so hard to make sense of our “seasons” when we’re in the middle of them! Praying God can give you discernment and peace today.

  4. Mary,

    I shared your devotion x3 because I think it will encourage so many women in similar circumstances

    have to smile as I have a heating pad on my own knee. I’ve had to sleep with it up on a pillow, so my back is killing me. I’m finishing up the last of my antibiotic for an infection in a tooth. And I just put Prednisolone drops in my eye, (I had eye surgery exactly 3 weeks ago.)

    “This season” is one of healing ❤️‍ and I’m ready to be whole and healthy.

    Thank you for your encouraging words, Mary!

    Sending you summer joy,
    Lisa Wilt

  5. Hi, All of a sudden these are not coming in my email. I didn’t get one for Monday, Tuesday or Today.

  6. Madeline,
    Your comment resonated with me. I had 2 surgeries for meniscus tears in my left knee, so I know what you’re feeling all too well. It was a tough decision to opt for surgery both times, but the season just went on way too long and was debilitating physically and mentally. I won’t sugar coat it — surgery recovery is not easy, but it did make the pain go away. I’ll pray for your discernment.

    I have been clomping around in a boot on my right foot — I’ve already had two surgeries on it and I’m back in terrible pain. My MRI could be titled, ” This Foot is a Trainwreck.”

    I hear your heart saying, “Lord, enough already.” Please don’t shame yourself by saying it could always be worse. That is denying your struggle.

    It’s difficult when we are called to suffer as Christ suffered because it builds our character and calls us to lean in,hard, to the Lord. Just know I’m leaning in hard with you and you are heard, loved, and are not alone.

  7. We are in a forever season. An adult child with a traumatic brain injury has taught us much about accepting what is our new reality. The challenge becomes being able to keep focus on the blessings in our life as well as the challenges. Being thankful for all that has been given as we accept the reality of the new normal with the things that cannot be changed.

  8. The story/article you shared. I believe it home for many.
    We all struggle with something in our lives and I am definitely a culprit of wondering if whatever I’m experiencing will last forever or how will it change my life or what will I do if…. I am so proud of the community here who as women we realize to turn to God first and turn to His word. It isn’t always easy when we are experiencing pain and or suffering to follow what we know we should, but I say that even if we find that one scripture that resonates with us and we focus on that/apply it to our life, that will help us to get through whatever we are facing. Some thing that works for me is in addition to God’s word in the form of the Bible, I will go to some of my favorite pastors and specifically search for what’s bothering me, and sometimes hearing the word of God spoken through someone else helps make all the difference.
    One of my favorite scriptures to recite each morning during my Bible study is from Psalm 143:8 “show me the way I should go for to you I entrust my life.”

  9. Come Lord Jesus….soon please.
    I pray for all these wonderful women. I pray blessings over all of them. Lord turn Your face towards us.
    Our adult son has mental health issues and has been living in his car for 10 years. He works part-time for which we are grateful.
    Our ‘season’ is life long . We ask for Your favor upon us all.
    Amen. Come soon Lamb of God.

  10. I am in a “season” of denial in accepting the fact that I am getting older and aches and pains are here to stay. I am in a “season” also of a crushed heart and spirit from relational hurts. At this point I am willing to accept the physical pain, but not the emotional pain.
    Thank you for your encouraging words. I know that God has a plan for me and He will see me through this. I think, as I believe most of us do, that the word “wait” is not in our vocabulary. Instead, the word “when” keeps popping up.
    Patience is one of the Fruits of the Spirit I am working on. Never-the-less, I pray and put my trust in God and this is where the fruit of peace takes over.
    One day, we will know the reasons behind our pain. For now, only God does and He will fight our battles!
    God bless all!

  11. Hi Mary,
    Greatly appreciated these words today. Your scripture references were very helpful reminders of God’s protection and comfort, through prayer and His Word.

    Praying your season of discomfort will soon be ended.

    Also praying for all the women who replied to this post with their own pain and struggles. May you feel the loving arms of Jesus holding you, comforting you and giving you peace, as only our Saviour is able.

    God Bless, Sandy

  12. Thank you for writing this Mary! “Seasons come and seasons go”, so they say, but sometimes the pain comes to stay! My husband and I have a new saying, old age isn’t for sissies! Lol somedays the big accomplishment is being up! Leaning into Jesus is key. Thanks for the reminder. Hugs and prayers ❤️

  13. “What if it’s not a season?” Those words hit this morning. As did “if you’re just tired of the word season ” .
    As an autism mama, this journey isn’t a season. It’s real life. But I relate to your wondering about the next flare up.

    Thanks for the Romans 8: 38 & 39 reminder this morning.

    • I hear you, LaCinda. As another reader mentioned above, the “forever seasons” we find ourselves in are so hard. Praying for you to feel God’s presence today.

  14. Hi Mary,

    Thank you for sharing with us. I still need to be reminded of this as I deal with MS. That’s my season. I still get irritated because of my limitations now. I was first diagnosed in 1997. After recovering from that first major attack, I did quite well! Was still able to go for hikes and walk my Golden Retriever, Ranger. It slowly becomes apparent that I’m unable to keep up and do what I used to. I’m thankful for the times I had and experiences I was getting to do. Every once in a while I get irritated and down on myself. Why did this happen to me? That’s when I need to stop! Read some of your writings, and the Bible. I know there is a reason for everything, and I’ll find out some day. Until then, thanks for the reminders and support you give to all of us. Bless your Heart!

    • I’m so grateful this was encouraging, Peggy. I have a good friend with MS and know how challenging that journey can be. Praying you feel God’s presence and love on the good days and the harder ones too.

    • Peggy, I hear you. It’s so easy to go down the road of “why me” and “it’s not fair.” Praying for you and me, that God will reveal Himself to us and make His love felt even when we’re in pain.

  15. Mary thank you for your reading. I was not Married at the time. I think I was still at Secondry School. I could have left school and working. I can’t remember what age I was. But my late Mother was still alive. I was before I got Married a lively young lady. I haven’t even met my Husband. No notion of having a boyfriend or getting Married. I would when lived at home in our family home. Bonce about. I couldn’t ever sit down. I was just one of those young adults or kids. My late Mum said Dawn stop bouncing around. She said it a couple of times. I didn’t pay any attention to my late Mum. Then before I knew it I hit my knee bang on our back kitchen door with such a bang. The pain was horrendous. My Mum said maybe that will teach you to do as your told stop bouncing about. I was in so much pain my late Mum had to take me to our A&E. They x-ray it as it was swollen quite badly. But that’s all I had done to it. I hadn’t broken anything in my knee. Thankfully. So I was told I had bakers knee. Then I can’t remember what they did or said now all theses years later. As 53 now. But I never did anything like that again. But now my knee you can hear and feel it creak at times when you move it. So it reminds me. You have to listen to people especially your Parents like me my Mum when alive or people telling you something for your own good if they tell it to you in a nice way. To help you no matter what it do with. So it has taught me a valuable lesson even to this day. That when through the Holy Spirit God speaks to us to help us for or own good. Tells us to do something we have to obey for our Good as follower of Jesus. As God is Heavenly Father to us. Telling it to us because he loves us and cares for us. Parents tell their kids things in love to help them and we might not always like what they tell us. The same with our Heavenly Father. Like it says in Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the way he should go And when he is old he will not depart from it.” That is what our Birth parents do because they love us. Like our Heavenly Father. We as kids should obey our Heavenly Father as well and do what he says. Like our earthly Parents. I say Amen to this. Love today’s reading. Excellent. Love Dawn Ferguson-Little Enniskillen Co.Fermanagh N.Ireland. Xx

    • Dawn, I’m so sorry you suffer knee pain too! But I’m grateful for the encouragement you’ve received and now shared through that experience. Thank you for being here!

  16. Thank you for these words..you’ll never know how much I needed to read them today. Been really struggling with anxiety and depression and being alone..and it’s hard, and overwhelming, and feels defeating. But it is a season, like everything else. I forget when I’m in this place, there will come good, happy again. My sould feels so down and alone, and unloved…but I’m never alone because God is right beside me thru this all. Take my hand Lord and walk with me Father.

    • Denise, I’m so glad these words met you where you are right now. Nothing on this earth lasts forever, but His love does. Praying you feel that and can rest in Him.

  17. Oh Mary, thank you so much for this one. I know I am not alone in this struggle. Last year, I went through Triple Bypass Heart Surgery. But, the Lord showed me the need for the surgery and it was discovered BEFORE I had actually had a heart attack. I was still strong and relatively healthy before I had the surgery, so my prognosis and recovery was much better. I know the good Lord was (is) with me all the way. My body will never be the same again. Different aches and pains plague me everyday. I don’t know if some will heal over time or not. I think sometimes we just trust in the Lord that he is protecting us from something else. I just try to stay thankful for my blessings. Sending healing prayers your way! Hugs!

    • Christine, your perspective on this is so encouraging. Thank you for sharing it with us! Praying God makes His presence and love felt every single day.

  18. Thank you for your words of encouragement. Although I am truly grateful and joyful for all my blessings, I sure do hope and pray that God would remove this thorn from my side–pretty literally.

  19. Dear May….WOW, was this the story I needed today. I am 76 years old and I do have pain in my feet and knees due to 5 foot operations and I of then mas really messed up and that doctor was fired not because of me but many others. The second foot surgeon I saw was really good and he said he would try to fix it. He did my left foot and it was fine. He operated 2 more times on my right foot to no avail. He told me ” Betsy, this is totally up to you. You need to make the decision as to whether you want that second toe on your right foot amputated. That is the only thing left we can try. I agreed, but you don’t want to see what that right foot looks like now. The pain in walking is very hard. I use a cane. Now, I need to tell you why I had to give you this information, before I got to your story.I live in a facility as my husband has dementia (The violent type). I stayed with him for 3+ years and tried to convince him that he was sick. Every night for those 3 + years I was abused until one night he almost killed me, but this time I got the 911 call through before he nailed me again. He did not know that the 911 dispatcher was recording everything that was going on and the police arrived in 5 minutes. I am getting to my point slowly I know, but you need this to see what I need to relate back to your story. I was leaving VM to my 54 year old son and he kept telling me I was lying to him. It’s just old age. It was not. I read him the written report from 2 neurologists. He would never call me back. Finally one night , he did call me and he said you are a liar and I no longer consider you my mother and you will never see your grandson (13Years old) or talk to him. With that, he hung up on me.The pain was heartbreaking and 16 moths later in my season it still is. What I have found in this place who runs a “Prayer Share and Care Meeting” is that they don’t take prayer requests for something like this, only physical problems, another heartbreaking thing for me and I have stopped going as they only pick people they like to put on the prayer list. The Woman who runs it is 91 and has multiple physical problems. In your experience, Mary, have you even dealt with people like this? I pray and pray and pray some more, but the season is still here. My husband will not sign the divorce papers and he has all our assets from 55 years of marriage only in his name. I need some of that money to live. It is very expensive to live here. I don’t know what else to do. I worry about my grandson as his parent intercept any cards I send to Carter, ripe them up and trash them before he gets home from school and then they tell him, “See, Gram doesn’t even care about you as she didn’t even send you a Birthday Card. I sent him 2 cards and in one card was a check for $100. it was ripped up with the cards. It never was cashed. My grandson and I had a very close relationship before all of this happened. I pray that maybe Jesus can try to tell Carter, are you sure they are telling you true stories? I have no way to find out. Sorry for such a long email and there is much more to it, that I won’t bother you with. I usually do this in the early morning, but I overslept and then had a lot of things to do. Thank you ,Mary. Hugs and prayers go to you from me. What you women do are beyond precious to me. It is what is keeping me from hurting myself………….Betsy Basile

    • Oh Betsy, I am so sorry for the pain you’re enduring through this horrible situation. I don’t have answers but I will pray that God moves in your life and in your family, that He will make His presence felt, that He will give you strength and peace. I know He weeps for us, that He is near the brokenhearted. So I pray that is some comfort, knowing that the Lord is with you, even in this dark time. Praying for you…

  20. Mary,

    About a month ago I fell at work. Scraped my left knee & got a pump knot on that leg. The last two weeks my left neck & upper arm have been extra painful. Advil & Tylenol are helping some. Finally went to see NP. She thinks it’s bursitis or arthritis. Gave steroid dose pack & some PT exercises to do at home. At least it is nothing major. There are many others out there with worse pains. It throbs & hurts especially at work when I use it.

    Prayers your knee feels better soon! Asking God to help everyone in their “season of trials or pain.” May God bless you all!

    Blessings 🙂

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