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Tasha is a Korean American melancholy dreamer, wife to Matt, mom to three wild and wonderful humans. She writes about everyday life and cultural and ethnic identity, and writing has always been the way God has led her towards the hope of shalom. Her first book, Tell Me The Dream...

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  1. Love that post. I understand…as I too have moved a lot. .bless you on your journey…
    Kindly.Carmel..

  2. Thank you Tasha, this was just what my heart needed to hear today…..God’s Abundant Blessings.

  3. Dear Tasha…..I read your story and it was quite unique from other stories I have read; however, your speaking about judging people and yourself, I said to myself. This is me. I constantly judge myself. I am living in a facility that has people that are mostly in their late 70’s. 80’s 90’s and even into 103 years old. I have a long and terrible situation that I won’t go into right now, but I am 76 years old, but my husband of 55 years has dementia and almost killed me before all the doctors said, “You need to get him out of the house as soon as possible or he is going to kill you and 10 minutes later, he will wonder what happened to me. I had to sell the house for money, but I had nowhere to go. My son called and told me I was a liar and he no longer considered me his mother, a very heartbreaking thing as he is 54 years old and I have 1 13 year old grandson who they will not let me see or even talk to me. This has been going on for almost 16 months now. But back to the judging. Most all people here look at me and think I am showing off by the clothes, jewelry, hair and shoes I wear. I have been a manager in a very large insurance company for 40 years. Back then, we were told to dress professionally to show that we were perhaps a person they would be reporting too, but I was always like this since I was 3 years old, my mother told me. Most of these people are deaf, have hearing loss and dementia,so everything that is said in the dining room I hear. They don’t know me. I am a very generous and Kind person. Always been that way and most people that take the time to get to know me, love me. I need to take your story and put it in my heart and stop judging myself, because it hurts my feelings so much. I have been here for 7 months now so they should be used to me, but NO. If you have any more advice for me to stop this” beating myself up”, I would really love to hear from you. Thank you, Tasha and have a blessed day……………….Betsy Basile

    • Betsy, I’m so sorry to hear about the pain you’ve walked through and are continuing to walk through.
      One thing that continually helps me when it comes to “beating myself up” is to read what Jesus said and mediate on his words and way with people. As he was in the gospels, so he is with you, Betsy. Imagine him with you speaking back to the words you carry and beat yourself up with.
      I also believe that the right therapist can be helpful too.

      • Dear Tasha…….Thank you for your advice, but unfortunately, I have been trying to find a therapist for two years now, but to no avail. They are all booked up and many of them left this area due to Tower Health taking over and they are a very bad hospital system. I would have to drive a long distance even if I could find one, but I don’t feel safe anymore driving. I have already had two groups of young men push my car off the road with their car and then give me the finger. They were laughing. It cost me over $4,000 to get the damage fixed. I don’t have anyone else to help me, but I will continue to read your story every day. Have a Blessed Day…………Betsy Basile

  4. How amazing to have traveled the world! I know nothing of other culture’s rules.

    Being a people pleaser, I can imagine the anxiety of offending people.

    I need less of caring about what other’s think and more about caring only what God thinks.

    Thank you for sharing today!

  5. Tasha,

    I am constantly telling myself not to judge others. There are certain ideas in my mind of how things should be. Trying to remind myself of the bigger picture. For instance: why does it matter what people wear to church so long as they come & hear the gospel. Working on loving everyone no matter what. Telling myself that God loves them so much He gave His son for them as well as me. I am no better. Showing love not judging.

    Blessings 🙂