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Mary is a writer and speaker who lives for good books, spicy queso, and television marathons – but lives because of God’s grace. She writes about giving up on perfect and finding truth in unexpected places at MaryCarver.com. Mary and her husband live in Kansas City with their two daughters.

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  1. Your transparency in sharing your life experiences always resonates with me and my frequent struggles in life. Thank you for reminding me how to respond!

  2. This resonates with me so well. I feel like I’ve had seasons of no good, very bad, horrible days. And I know the 2 things that help are remembering God is there and talking. I also know I am so close to having another one of “those days/seasons ” but I am determined to give it up to God, place it in God’s hands. Just reading what you wrote is cathartic, once again.

  3. Oh, thank you for this, very true, but also very hard. It’s always good to be reminded of those things we know, but push aside. Prayers for all of us, everyone is going through something.

  4. Thanks for this Mary! I feel like God has been speaking to me about this very thing lately. I do have a tendency to hide, but I’ve been trying to connect a little more. I hope things are better for you!

  5. I too, feel this way lately. I want to hide, stay away, in my own little world. I need to trust in the lord, listen to him. Trust in him. Amen

  6. Oh, how I needed these words today. I feel like I’ve existing and not living for the past 2 years. I don’t anyone sees me unless they need me for something. I didn’t get out of bed unless it was absolutely necessary. I neglected my home and my relationship with my son. I won’t give up, for I know that God loves me still. Please pray my strength in the Lord.

    • Jan, thank you for being here and sharing your heart with us. I’m praying that God will make His presence and love FELT today, that He’ll send you a friend who seeks you out and supports you and loves you for you.

  7. Mary thank you for this reminder…..”Don’t hide. Don’t stay home or stay quiet in your pain. Reach out. Connect.”
    I love the women’s study at our church! The times I tried to talk myself out of not going…
    I’m tired
    I don’t feel like driving that far
    I can’t relate to this chapter
    Blah blah blah
    ….Are just the studies and women I need most. Thank you Jesus \0/

  8. Thank you, Mary, it’s so encouraging as women we need each other to support, encourage and pray for us when we feel so alone in our walk. I know God hears our prayers, it’s just nice to know we have someone walking with us when we go through diificult times, days, and seasons. I really needed to hear this today. Thank you.

  9. Mary so true what you spoke on today. You part of you probably felt guilty going to Bible study meeting new friends . People you never new or met. Because you felt after your horrible day you should have been there for your kids and spent the time with them. I don’t have kids. Yes Married. I had offal days. Some been my fault as I done silly things I not meant to do done them by mistake. Other I been blamed in the wrong for saying things and been taken the wrong way. My words have not been said wrong at all. That the person has thought I was being not nice. I was not been a all I shared it with my Husband. To see did I say anything wrong to them. My Husband said no you didn’t. I wondered why did I bother. So I prayed to God I said God I forgive them. If I said anything wrong to them I sorry. God said no. Just forget about let it go. I did but it hurt at the time. How I could have let ruin my day. But I didn’t. Thank you for this reading I needed it. Keeping you incourage in my prayers xx

    • Dawn, I hear you! It’s so tempting to let the guilt or fear or hurt overwhelm our knowledge that God can use community to minister to our hearts. Praying you and I both can keep finding the courage to reach out!

  10. I was sitting in my living room crying out to God, and my husband. Someday, people, family make you feel so discarded and unworthy. I read your story and my heart burst with knowing God’s got me. I’m not meant to fit in only with HIM. Blessings and love

    • Oh Cathy, I’m so sorry for your pain. But yes! God’s GOT YOU. I’m grateful this story reached you at the right time and praying today’s a better day.

  11. Mary,

    We were made for connection. Women often forget to do self care. They think they have to handle & care for everyone else. Lysa Terkeurst put it best in her book Your Best Yes “Saying yes to everyone & everything won’t make you Wonder Woman. It will make you a worn out woman with nothing left to give.” We need to recharge our batteries & fill up on God’s word.. Bless you for going to the Bible study.

    I find going to Bible studies not only fills me up spiritually, but emotionally also. I can share my problems & have others pray for me.

    Blessings 🙂

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