A few weeks ago, I got sick with a fever that wouldn’t go away. On one of the worst nights of my sickness, I slipped away to the couch, so that my tossing and turning wouldn’t wake up my husband.
I tried ibuprofen. I tried Tylenol. I lit a fire in the fireplace. I tried cough drops and hot tea. And finally, the very last thing I tried was prayer.
I am not proud to say that prayer was my last line of offense.
I know I’m not alone in this. Sometimes, we don’t pray because we overestimate our self-sufficiency. Other times, we undervalue God’s concern to tend to the little things in our lives.
It goes like this:
We tend to grade matters by their seeming significance. Grade-A Matters are things like war, injustice, kids with cancer, and failing marriages. Those things are important and deserve our attention with prayer. But the truth is, even when the world at large is suffering, we’ve all got something going on – right this very second. And it all matters to God, even the things you think are Grade-D Matters.
Know this: God’s hands are large enough to hold all the Grade-D Matters – the late-night fevers, your concerns over your kids’ grades, that plumbing problem in the basement, or the fact that your friend hasn’t returned your texts.
So I have a question for you: How are you really doing right now with “the other stuff” going on in your life, the Grade-D Matters?
When something big happens in our world or our community, we tend to minimize “the other stuff.” We don’t want to burden our friends, or God, by letting them know what else hurts right now.
I’ve said it before, but there have been times in my life when I’ve been reluctant to share with my Bible study girls about an emotional struggle because someone else was just diagnosed with cancer. I categorized my pain as Grade-D, and hers as Grade-A.
I’ll tell myself things like, “I shouldn’t be this sad or worried. It could be worse.”
It’s also possible that you’ve been the victim of the “my life is harder than yours” game. It happens when you share your hard, but according to someone else, it isn’t hard enough compared to what they’re going through.
We do ourselves a disservice as sisters when we track each other’s pain along a scale, as if it can be easily categorized along one of those smiley-face charts on a doctor’s office wall.
Here’s the thing: God doesn’t stop caring about your “other stuff” just because other people, this nation, and this world are walking through really big trials. Hard things in other people’s lives do not negate the pain you are carrying personally:
With your finances.
With your baby’s erratic sleep schedule.
With your anxiety.
With the disagreement you had with your dad.
With the pressure of those deadlines.
With your ANYTHING.
Recently, I read Paul’s second letter to his buddy Timothy. He spends most of the letter writing about the big stuff: godlessness in the last days, suffering for the gospel, sound preaching. And then, toward the end, he gives Timothy a final instruction: “Bring the cloak that I left… also the books, and above all the parchments” (2 Timothy 4:13, ESV).
It’s the cloak that gets me.
At this point in the biblical narrative, Paul was an older fellow getting close to dying while locked up in a cold prison — and his only coat was many miles away.
I don’t know why that bit about the cloak is in there, but I do believe that Scripture is God-breathed, and that every word is there for a reason — even the hardest and weirdest parts of the Bible. Every word has something to teach us about God or ourselves.
I wonder if that tiny sentence about the cloak is one way that God is letting us know that the little things matter. Little things like coats, new tires for your car, your class schedule, your job, and a fever that won’t let up.
God is big enough to care about the little things.
Nothing is too big for our Lord. And nothing is too small either.
Ruth Mills says
Amen & Amen! I was vacillating praying between the deadline for the mountain on my desk & a friend’s heart surgery in a few hours. I was pulled to label his surgery as more important than my deadline but then I read your post. My deadline & his surgery are not any more or less important to Him or beyond His care. Thank You Lord for loving us each perfectly. Forgive us for our inaccurate assessment of You! Thank you for your perfectly timed post, Jennifer! Blessings (((0)))
Jennifer Dukes Lee says
Hi Ruth! This is such a great example. God cares about our work, our health, our friends, our deadlines, ALL OF IT! Thanks for sharing!
Denise says
This really resonated with me! I also do the ‘grading’ thing and think God is not interested in my aches and pains because they are probably not serious anyway. I pray for others when I am asked to and it doesn’t matter what they ask prayer for, but when it comes to myself it’s much harder to ask anyone to pray for me, or even go to God myself.
So thank you for the reminder that God cares for all the ‘things’ happening in my life, no matter their size or grading!
Jennifer Dukes Lee says
I resonate with this so much! Thanks for sharing here in the comments!
Twyla Franz says
Always appreciate your honesty and wisdom, Jennifer! I struggle with self-sufficiency too. Think I can fall back on my stubbornness and ability to learn quickly. Best gift God gave me was something clearly can never do without Him because I need to grapple with it daily.
Jennifer Dukes Lee says
So true, Twyla! Thanks for sharing!
Dawn Ferguson-Little says
Yes God is big enough to care about the little thing’s. I took 3 seizures on Friday past. I am person I don’t like to bother people with my health problems. I believe people have enough problems of their own. Especially my husband who is saved and worries about me. I get no warning with mine. I go on. I say to myself I am able to do my 83 year old Dad’s Home Help Monday to Friday for him do the things he can’t do for himself. I do it for the Love of the Lord and the Love of my Dad. My Dad is not saved I pray for his Salvation. He knows I am saved and I pray for him. But you can’t tell him he needs to get saved or he tell you to stop preaching to him. I hear people say Dawn your way to caring for your own good. You do way to much for your Dad and others. I always been like that caring. I say as long as I can and am able to do it for my Dad. I think one day he will not be alive for me to help him. I think why didn’t I do more for him on to the Love of the Lord and the Love of my Dad. But I know sometimes I have to slow down and say no more. Just do what I do for my Dad. But I believe our God is big enough to give me the strength to do my Dad’s. Do no more just do all I do for my Dad and no more. Think of myself at the same time and my health also. As if I don’t it’s going to affect my health and I will end up being no good to my Dad. As tiredness will set in. Then seizures and that no good for me and my Dad as I then can’t do his Home Help. Which I enjoy and my Dad enjoy me doing his Home Help for him. God is good. God gives me strength to do it. Thank you Jennifer for what you shared by what you wrote it spoke to me. The little things really do speak to you. God cares about the little things in your life too. For example me over doing it and then being no good to my Dad my health suffering. Because then I take seizures and am no good to help my Dad. I have to slow down Love Dawn xx
KC says
Sorry to hear you had three seizures on Friday – whew. Praying for you!
Jennifer Dukes Lee says
Oh Dawn, You’ve been through it, haven’t you? I am terribly sorry to hear about those seizures, and coming at a time when you are trying to help your Dad. That’s a LOT. Pausing to pray for you right now.
Jerilyn Lowery says
This is just what I needed today, Jennifer! In the last few days, I have “lost” a couple of items. One, a precious gold bracelet given to me years ago by my husband and a key on key chain I can see so vividly in my mind. After hours of searching and no sleep over the lost bracelet, I finally prayed about finding it. Why would God care about my bracelet? He did instill in me the thought that I would eventually find it, so I kept searching. It had fallen off of my wrist at work. There it was behind a counter. For the key, I still know I will find it. For now, I will keep praying and will rejoice when I stumble upon it in the pocket of a jacket or at the bottom of a purse. Thanks for the reminders that God can do anything and hears all of our prayers because he cares about every little detail of our lives even lost bracelets and keys.
Jennifer Dukes Lee says
Wow! What a cool story! Thanks for sharing!
Susen says
“ and God is big enough to care about the little things!”
Wonderful reminder, thank you!
Jennifer Dukes Lee says
Glad this spoke to you, Susen.
Amada (pronounced: a.m.a.TH.a) says
AMEN! Praying for you!
Jennifer Dukes Lee says
Thanks for being here!
Brenda M. Russell says
Hallelujah
Thank You Lord for caring about all aspects of my life no matter what is going on everywhere else. Even at home and around Your World.
I love how God Has His Plan For My Life. I don’t know the details but I am learning to trust Him more and more and trying to leave the consequences up to Him.
I still make mistakes and I still worry sometimes even though I know it is wrong to worry. I repent and accept my forgiveness and start again.
When I was a child. I thought I had control over my own actions. Then I realized I would still make mistakes and wrong decisions. I needed God to Help Me.
As I grew up, I thought I was going to get to a point in life where I would not do wrong things or tell lies. But I still did some wrong things and I even told lies (mostly small). A lie is a lie.
I kept waiting to arrive and so far I am 65 years wise and I still need God To Help Me. The truth is that we will never arrive. We will need our Lord and Savior always. When we put on immortality, then we will have arrived and we’ll be Heaven bound !
Glory to the name of Jesus.
Brenda
Jennifer Dukes Lee says
Grateful for your insights, Brenda! Thank you.
Gail says
Guilty on all counts! Right now I’m just feeling out of sorts and a little heart broken about something. While my prayer list is very long with people struggling with much greater traumas, I will remember that God cares for my heart too. Thank you for this reminder.
Jennifer Dukes Lee says
You’re welcome, Gail.
Irene says
I love this, Jennifer! I have friends going through insanely difficult times. So I don’t want to burden them with my little problems. I just carry them around with me. Alone. But God has room in His big heart for my tiny problems! I will give them to Him. Or at least share them with Him.
Jennifer Dukes Lee says
“But God has room in His big heart…” I love that. Thank you, Irene.
Catherine says
I love this! Thank you for sharing, I needed that reminder today.
Blessings,
Catherine
Jennifer Dukes Lee says
You’re welcome. Thanks for being here!
Janet W says
Thank you Jennifer. This is a good one!!! I always think my “stuff” is a grade D. ( I love that analogy by the way) Luckily, God has given me the courage to share what I’m going through. When I finally spoke up, my sisters in Christ reminded me that God has plenty of resources for all of us going through the hard stuff, the small stuff, the family stuff and the health stuff.
Prayer is so powerful!!!!
Thank you Jesus \0/ Prayers for everyone. Friend, family, foe. \0/
Jennifer Dukes Lee says
You’ve got some great friends, Janet! Thanks for sharing your insights.
Debbie says
Thank you! This brought me to tears… I never thought about Paul’s request that way. God cares about all our concerns. How good He is!
Jennifer Dukes Lee says
He is so good!
Lisa Wilt says
Thank You Jennifer. I too try to minimize what I’m going through looking at those who have it worse. I needed to hear your message today because I spent the morning with my mom helping her wade through probate paperwork issues upon my dad’s passing. I have no legal background so it’s a learning curve for me. Ugh…but the sun is shining and its so beautifully warm for a February day in the midwest. Thank you for helping to brighten my day with your words of Biblical encouragement.
Jennifer Dukes Lee says
Thanks so much for sharing your insights!
Kimmie says
I didn’t start praying until I found myself crying uncontrollably in church. And everyone was praying FOR me. Anxiety is one of those low grade problems until it’s not.
Beth Williams says
Jennifer,
Thank you for your vulnerability. I readily pray for others no matter the situation. Usually don’t ask for prayers for myself. I have a sweet retired pastor’s wife who knows me well. She prays for me weekly. Why is it that we can’t get it through our heads that God cares for every aspect of our lives. Even the grade D stuff. My grade D item is trigger fingers. Just had 4 injections. Praying they work this time or it will be surgery.
Blessings 🙂