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Lucretia is a wife, mom of three, and a TEDx and Q Ideas speaker (Charlotte, NC, 2017). As a former college professor, she designed the popular ‘beginners’ course and study guide, What LIES Between Us: Fostering First Steps Toward Racial Healing. She is the creator and director of the Brownicity.com...

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  1. Thank you so much for sharing your inmost heart. It’s so easy to feel less than. I love the idea of journaling about all the people who have lifted you up along the way. That’s an excellent idea for all of us when we live in the shadows. God’s richest blessings to you today and every day.

      • Thank you for reminding me of those who God placed in my life to stand in the gap.

        His faithfulness is unmeasurable, vast is His mercy.

        You are heard. You are seen. God is good.

        Amen!

  2. Thank you for your words of wisdom. I too as a child was made to feel invisible. For years I felt no one saw or heard me. It wasn’t until I found God. God showed me so much love and still does. When I feel misused, or taken for granted, I call out to God and he comforts me. I’m a widow, mother of three and suffer with fibromyalgia. My God and children look after me. I know now I am seen and heard. Thank you for opening my eyes to what really matter in life. Blessings to you and family

    • Hi Adrienne!
      Thank you for reading! I am happy to know that my words inspired you in some way. I love that you know that God sees, values, and cares for you!! Your life is an expression of His love.

      May you turn up the volume on GOD’s LOVEsong for and about you.

      Happy HOLYdays!
      LCB

  3. Lucretia thank you for sharing your very encouraging and inspirational words. I too have felt that way many times – “I am not enough, I am not worthy, it’s my fault…” I still do but I have God and he defines me and I am enough. I am blessed with a husband that sees me as beautiful despite all my ugly. I have 3 beautiful daughters who show me every day that we are strong, kind, funny, smart; the strength, love and Bond of sisters; despite their differences there is nothing they would not do for each other. I found my validation and I am enough, I am worthy, I am loved.

    • Hi MA
      Thank you for reading! I am happy to know that my words resonated with you in some way. I loved the affirming words you shared.

      May you turn up the volume on GOD’s LOVEsong for and about you.

      Happy HOLYdays!
      LCB

  4. Thank you! I needed this and your timing is perfect. Abandoned at 3. Left at a Catholic orphanage in Berlin, Germany. Foster care and kind people took care of me. There were too many. Don’t misunderstand,I consider myself very blessed. Unfortunately, I did not escape the scars from the trauma of feeling unwanted. Today, I’m married to an amazing man and my life seems perfect, however, I carry my fear of abandonment daily and never feel like I’m good enough. You’re message helped.

    • Hi Rita!
      Thank you for reading! And thank you for sharing your story. Your’s is a lesson on how though trauma may stay with us, we can still know love.

      May you turn up the volume on GOD’s LOVEsong for and about you.

      Happy HOLYdays!
      LCB

  5. Such powerful words. And I understand more than I can explain here. Long story made short but basically grew up believing that I was an “accident” ( born during a time when an my older sister was battling a brain tumor) and then raised (primarily by my maternal grandparents) in her shadow when she died at age 9 because “she was so perfect God did not want her to be tainted.” So, unwanted, unworthy was the least of how I saw myself. It’s been a long road and still have occasional moments of doubt. But I have a wonderful daughter who won’t tolerate the pity parties.

    • Hi Madeline!
      Thank you for reading! And thank you for sharing your story. Your’s is a lesson on how though trauma may stay with us, we can still know love. I love how your daughter helps you turn up the volume on GOD’s LOVEsong for and about you.

      Happy HOLYdays!
      LCB

  6. always amazing when mrs berry gives me a great devotional! i love it and needed to hear this today – especially today. thank you!

    • Hi Jessica!
      Thank you for reading and for your words of encouragement. I am glad to know my words resonated with you.

      May you turn up the volume on GOD’s LOVEsong for and about you.

      Happy HOLYdays!
      LCB

  7. “ My strife has been with humans devaluing me. I am deflated when people treat me like I don’t matter. I can tell myself that it shouldn’t matter what people think of me, that I should solely be concerned with how God sees me and knows me, but that doesn’t reconcile the countless times that in someone else’s decision-making process, I’ve been overlooked and felt like an afterthought or a pawn.”

    Lucretia – this is the place that I stand today and I wish I could say that I had positive experiences or people to help along the way but I can recall only a couple. I can recall one significant moment in my life where life giving cards were sent ahead by coworkers when I had a weeks long visit to the Mayo Clinic. I have recently moved for a job and my new boss is awful. I feel like 5 year old all over again being shamed, blamed, criticized, belittled, etc.
    thank you for your post. It at least helped me not feel so wretchedly alone today.

    • Hi Rebecca.
      Thank you for reading! And thank you for sharing your story. I am so sorry that you have experienced being unseen or feeling like an afterthought.
      I pray that in the midst of this, God shows you that you are loved, seen, and valued. I pray that you experience that TODAY!

      May you turn up the volume on GOD’s LOVEsong for and about you.

      Happy HOLYdays!
      LCB

  8. This came at a perfect time. The weight of our church “thing”. Our pastor retired. My husband and I were both on the board for the daycare and preschool. Things have blown up. My husband said things in anger. And. I just want to go to church and hear. We got an “invitation” to meet with elders to talk through the situation. I sent an email to the elder I consider a friend. My brain and anxiety will not allow me to go to this meeting OR wait a week to spill all the junk in my head. Thats what it is….junk in my head.

    • Thank you for reading!
      WOW! You are going through a lot! I pray that peace wraps her arms around you. May clarity invade your chaos and bring you deep inhales and long exhales. May you know that you are loved by the One who is Love.

      May you turn up the volume on GOD’s LOVEsong for and about you.

      Happy HOLYdays!
      LCB

  9. Lucretia,

    Thank you for a much needed devotion. Many people feel unseen, unwanted & unheard. We have become a fast-paced, throw away society. Don’t want or need/want thing or person then find a way to dispose of it. Such a tragedy. But God sees us & puts people in our paths that see & value us as humans. They go out of their way to make us feel loved. We need to ruminate on those people & journal it. Then when the lies get loud go read & change the song. Remember God sees, loves & values you.

    Blessings 🙂

  10. Bonjour, Thank you for your publications which boost

    Each article afford comfort & encouragments with kind love

    Being visible, accepted & appreciated for whom we are, it is not always easy

    This blog site is a privileged place where there are human beings who are worthy, be respected & esteemed

    Thank you for yours writting sharings

    Thank you for giving your readers a way to express themselves while respecting their sensibilities

    It is such blessings, Thank You

    Love is the foundation of life in Christ Jesus

    Although we may feel insignificant some times, it is comforting to know that our Creator has for us an immeasurable, incomparable & unfailing Love

    There are some human beings who are able to perceive that there are living beings who have wisdom & heart’s values,
    When it’s recognized & admitted, it is such a warm blessing with a thankfull heart
    “She is more precious than rubies”, Proverbs 3:15

    So, you are more precious than rubies

    Wishing you all happy holidays to celebrate Christ Jesus
    Blessings, love in Him

    • Thank you for reading and for your words of encouragement. I am glad to know my words resonated with you.

      May you turn up the volume on GOD’s LOVEsong for and about you.

      Happy HOLYdays!
      LCB

  11. Thank you for this very meaningful and beautiful message of hope. I am one of ten children. I have sibling who has always made me feel less than, like my thoughts, ideas and opinions do not matter. From children to this day she has had some kind of invisible hold on me. Well until this past March when things came to a head and I realized with the help of friends and family it was time to stop. I am strong, I am loving, I am a good person and I do not need her opinion or insecurities to define me.
    Thank you.

    • Hi Nancy!
      You’re welcome. Thank you for reading! Isn’t it liberating to know the truth about yourself!! You are seen, valued and loved!!

      May you turn up the volume on GOD’s LOVEsong about you.

      Happy HOLYdays!
      LCB

  12. Your story is so profound. Because we often feel we do not belong and try to hide it, sometimes in positive ways as you did, but sometimes in negative ways, others do not discern our loneliness. Each of us need to reach out to the people we encounter with a simple hi and how is it going and then LISTEN to for clues, so we can be God’s heart and hands. Thank you for sharing.

  13. You reminded me of one of my favorite verses:

    Zephaniah 3:17
    The Lord your God is with you, the Mighty Warrior who saves. He will take great delight in you; in his love he will no longer rebuke you, but will rejoice over you with singing.”

    … I imagine the Lord’s tender lullaby and myself a cradled child…. especially when my spirit is colicky.

    • ‘when my spirit is colicky’
      Anna, this is the perfect description of what happens when we succumb to lies.

      Thank you for reading ad sharing.

      May you turn up the volume on GOD’s LOVEsong about you.

      Happy HOLYdays!
      LCB

  14. Lucretia,
    Your posts always bring comfort to me. But this one went straight to my wounded heart. Thank you for your faith filled words. They are like a hug to my soul.Wishing you and your readers a healthy joy and peace filled Christmas season ❤

  15. Although the life story trauma is different, I’ve always wondered what the underlying lie and you nailed it… “I am disposable, replaceable”.

  16. Oh Lucrecia, how my soul connects to you and your story. Mine is not exactly like yours but close enough that I can relate. I’m 76 and I can still remember all the pain and heartache this ‘ol world can dispense. But I, like you, have been given a new name and a new song to sing through the love and mercy of God our Father and through the sacrificial love of Christ our redeemer. In my mind and heart I have claimed the whosoever in John 3:16 as my “club.” I am a whosoever and that is the only requirement for membership. The only way to join is to become a whosoever. It truly is that simple. Why do we make it so hard? What a merciful and loving God we serve. Thank you for sharing your story.

    • Hi Loretta!
      I love your club requirement!
      It’s difficult because we’ve been taught that we are unworthy. So we have to re-acclimate ourselves to the truth. We must re-member the truth!

      May you turn up the volume on GOD’s LOVEsong about you.

      Happy HOLYdays!
      LCB

    • Loretta.
      I love your club requirement!
      It’s difficult because we’ve been taught that we are unworthy. So we have to re-acclimate ourselves to the truth. We must re-member the truth!

      May you turn up the volume on GOD’s LOVEsong about you.

      Happy HOLYdays!
      LCB

  17. PRAISE THE LORD!!!THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOUR ❤️ HEART!THIS HELPED ME IN THE PLACE I AM!!!ALSO HELPED ME KNOW HOW/WHEN TO JOURNAL(I LOVE JOURNALING) I LOOK FORWARD TO BEING A PART OF THIS FAMILY

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