Christmas is a really important season for many businesses both large and small. Sales from this time of the year can make or break the entire year. Then, on top of that, good ol’ social media adds to the pressure because it’s the way many businesses advertise, promote, and sell their products. Our inboxes and feeds are filled with it — especially in this season. So I’m not surprised it all sets my comparison into overdrive when it comes to my work as an artist.
I know I shouldn’t be comparing myself to others. I know better, and I really don’t want to. But if only it were that easy! Unfortunately, I still do because I’m human.
I see other amazing artists, talented creatives, and so many incredible business owners doing well — or at least what I perceive as them doing well — and at times, I can’t help but feel less than. Don’t get me wrong, I’m actually really happy for them. I want them to do well, and I love being able to cheer them on with excitement from the sidelines. But that doesn’t stop my mind from comparing, from thinking they’re somehow doing everything better than me — better art, better ads, better marketing, better social media, better business.
I see them as having and doing more, and I can feel inadequate and somewhat capable. I worry I’m not doing enough or not working hard enough or not producing enough fruit. I feel like I’m lacking in some way — and well, I feel just real ordinary. Too ordinary.
Then, God, in His amazing ways, reminds me about ordinary. He reminds me of the most beautiful example of what ordinary can do. Mary, an ordinary girl, was asked to do the most extraordinary thing — to become the very mother of God. With a heart for Him and with one faith-filled yes, this ordinary girl changed the entire world.
We may feel ordinary. We may see our days and our lives as too mundane. We may feel that God cannot produce fruit through the little we feel like we have to offer. But God doesn’t see us that way. He doesn’t see us as lacking. He already sees us extraordinary. He sees us as a gift. He made us just as we are and uses everything we have to offer for His glory. He chose us to do His great work in both big and small ways, and it’s all important to Him.
God can take our faith-filled yes and multiply it in unimaginable ways.
I know deep down inside that I’m not defined by numbers and sales. I know I’m not defined by social media likes and followers. I have a purpose, and God has equipped me for it. So I continue to give my all to the One who chose me to do the work I do. I give my yes to Him — my heart-filled, faithful yes — again and again.
This Christmas season, may we follow the example of the ordinary girl who wanted what God wanted for her — a heart for Him. May we remember He will use our passion, our faithfulness, and our yeses to do extraordinary things and produce the most beautiful of fruit. And may we continue to say yes again and again!
I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing. If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you. This is to my Father’s glory, that you bear much fruit, showing yourselves to be my disciples.
John 15:5, 7-8 (NIV)
Suse Fish says
Such a brilliant reminder! I’ll be saving this piece to read whenever I feel that pull to compare xxx
Jennifer Ueckert says
So grateful to hear that, Suse! Thank you!
Ruth Mills says
Comparing myself to others, thy name is Satan. God using ordinary me in His plan, thy name is underserved redemption. Yeah, God wins!!!! Thanks for this reminder of who we really are & whose we really are! Blessings upon blessings to you!
Jennifer Ueckert says
Yes, Ruth! Yes!
J JJ says
Thank you for your spirited words and a reminder to follow God first in.my ordinary ways and not what “everyone” else may or may not be doing.
Jennifer Ueckert says
You are very welcome. Thank you so much for being her today, J!
Jessica says
great great great – love to read your writing – always hits a note in my heart – thank YOU!!
Jennifer Ueckert says
We love to hear that, Jessica! Thank you for reading along!
Jeni says
This was a message directly from God through you to the deepest part of my heart! Thank you for letting Him use you!
Jennifer Ueckert says
Oh that is such a beautiful, touching compliment, Jeni. Thank you. So happy you are here today!
kimmieg says
I keep telling myself that anyone who can work at an elementary school isn’t ordinary. Sometimes little kids get me down and I feel like I’m not helping.
Sally says
We all need to read and reread this!
Kimmieg my dear sister in Christ,
I KNOW you are extraordinary! I remember teaches and principals and the whole staff being some ‘stars’ in my life. If you are helping one child along you are special, so very special.
I’m 66 now and still think I’m 30 lol!!! I have some amazing people to thank when my feet (and here, right now) hit Heaven!
BELIEVE!!!
Love,
Sally <3
Jennifer Ueckert says
Thank you, Sally! And thank you for encouraging your sister in Christ!
kimmieg says
Jennifer Ueckert says
He is doing extraordinary work through you, Kimmieg! Some of which you can see and much of which you can not see. But always know He is working through you. You are making such a difference!
kimmieg says
❤
Beth Williams says
Kimmieg,
Nothing done in the name of Christ is seen as ordinary in the eyes of God. He can & will use everything you do. They changed my unit at work (hospital was ICU step down clerical) to a Covid unit. Most days there isn’t much to do. But I can clean the whole area, stock gown, gloves & bags, help answer the phone, restock supplies-you know the little things. While I was doing that yesterday one RN said thank you. It meant a lot for her not to have to go get bags or other items. We may never see the results of much of our work–God does & He will reward you. Don’t feel down & less than. You are helping greatly. Teachers, & other staff couldn’t do their jobs without your assistance.
Blessings 🙂
Jennifer Ueckert says
Very well said, Beth! Those “little” things are big!
kimmieg says
Omigoodness….thanks!
Anna says
I love the awesome simplicity of this. We just need to say yes. I complicate this so much. I needed your reminder thank you
Jennifer Ueckert says
It really is so easy to complicate things, isn’t it, Anna? I know I sure do it! lol Thank you for being here today!
Esther says
Jennifer, your words were right on target. Thank you for sharing what many of us feel, but are unable to express. You are a blessing!
Jennifer Ueckert says
Thank you for such a thoughtful comment, Esther! Grateful you are here today!
Julie says
Beautiful words! I really needed to hear that. And yes it it very hard to stop the comparisons and I guess we just need to work on our hearts and believe we are just enough just the way we are.
Jennifer Ueckert says
So glad it met you, Julie! If only we saw ourselves the way He does! xo
Sandy says
Hi Jennifer,
Great reminder to be ourselves and not play the comparison game! This time of year we can feel so uncreative when seeing our friends homes or leafing through a decorating magazine. But at times these can be overdone, and very expensive. Sometimes less is more and spending time with family and friends making wonderful memories is the best way to avoid those comparisons.
Praying that all women around the world feel they are extraordinary this holiday season!
Shalom, Sandy
Jennifer Ueckert says
Beautiful reminder for us, Sandy. Thank you for sharing your heart and truth!
Catherine Albert says
Sometimes that narrow road of love can be lonely because we live in the world. I have been doing a project called http://www.extremechristmasmakeover.com and have always “wanted” the “church” to make it a priority, to give unconditionally, but that is not the reality. Jesus’ followers are remnants and God will be faithful, no matter how the road feels, we are together sharing in His incomprehensible love. We say “Yes” to the God-sized assignments, things we cannot do without Him. We will always face a crisis of belief when we say “Yes”. What we decide to do after that, says everything about what we believe about Him. Together, we can walk with Him on that narrow road of love, Catherine
Beth Williams says
Jennifer,
Thank you for this Godly wisdom. It is much needed. We tend to compare ourselves & feel woefully inadequate. Add to that society applauds those with big platforms, lots of followers or those who visibly do good. But God has an up side down theology. He values even the smallest of gifts. Nothing done in His name is forgotten. Remember the widow that put in 2 small copper coins? Jesus said that she put in more than any other person. God sees our seemingly small gifts/acts of service done willingly. Use the talents God has blessed you with & He will generously bless you.
My dad was living in assisted living. I was visiting at lunch. We were in the middle with two men on either side. Dad has tremors & it was hard for him to feed himself. I asked if he wanted me to feed him & he shook his head yes. As I was doing this the man on the right said “you will get stars in your crown for this”. At that point I knew I was doing God’s will & where He wanted me. You see every small gift or act of kindness will be rewarded by God.
Blessings 🙂
Jennifer Ueckert says
I love this story! Thank you for the beautiful and truth-filled reminder, Beth!