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Lucretia is a wife, mom of three, and a TEDx and Q Ideas speaker (Charlotte, NC, 2017). As a former college professor, she designed the popular ‘beginners’ course and study guide, What LIES Between Us: Fostering First Steps Toward Racial Healing. She is the creator and director of the Brownicity.com...

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  1. This post made me smile – Thanks for sharing, Lucretia! You probably already know this – but wow, you are SO blessed to have these people in your life. Their immense love for you is evident. Enjoy your people and please don’t take this for granted:) I know you won’t!

    Have a beautiful day:)


    • Thank you very much. This assignment helped me in so many ways. But seeing that I have a community of folks who truly see me was such a gift.

      I hope you will do the assignment.
      Shalom to you!

      • I hope so too:) A little shy I must admit lol. My loved ones regularly shower me with kind words of encouragement. I feel a little shy asking for more!:-) It would be awesome to know their answers to these very specific questions! So, I hope so too:) Thanks again for sharing this LCB! Shalom to you too sister!:)
        ~ Bomi 🙂

      • PS: I am going on a “date” with my 12 year old son this afternoon. 🙂 He has a half day at school today, so I plan to take him out for lunch after picking him up from school:) You, along with a podcast I listened to a few days ago, have inspired me to also shower my son with words of affirmation and encouragement this afternoon. In fact, I will go ahead and do the same for a few other loved ones in my life right now, including my husband and my 14yr old son:) Oooh I can’t wait!! So thankful for this opportunity!! Thank you so much once again Lucretia:)!

        Bomi 🙂

  2. Lucretia,
    Just like you, I would be hesitant to bother others to answer that question. Plus I would feel like I was looking for self-praise and that’s not very humble. Just yesterday, a wonderful friend, whom I met right here through (in)courage, spoke some wonderful words of affirmation over me. It brought me to tears. In a world where others wan’t to tear you down in order to build themselves up, this kind of affirmation is a priceless rarity. As much as I squirm to do this, I’m going to take your challenge and ask 3 people to answer this question. I predict more tears (highly sensitive person here). Kath, if you’re reading…I treasure you too! Great and challenging post Lucretia!
    Bev xx

    • Bev –
      I would say that one of your greatest strengths is the way that you reach and connect with people in such a compassionate manner. Through our interactions, I have seen the face of God.

      Love and Blessings,

      • Elizabeth,
        That was so sweet of you to say and I got a little teary eyed. Thanks for taking the time to share that. I think I will tuck your note away in my heart and pull it out when I’m not feeling so good about myself.
        Love and blessings back to you,

    • Bev,

      I have to admit that I look for your response immediately after reading the post! I feel like you open yourself completely to each one which is deeply personal yet you do it time and time again. Your replies are insightful and often help me understand and / or gain new perspective. When you don’t comment I always hope you’re ok! Bless you for sharing your walk with God!

      • Thank you Indiane for your uplifting words. “Words” are my love language and you just spoke a whole lot of lovin’ to me here. I think that insight comes with time and continuing to open yourself to the Holy Spirit’s leading, but believe me, there are plenty of times in which I recklessly bulldoze forward, but God is so merciful. Thanks for caring about me when I don’t comment. Usually, I’m just fine, but my day just got off to a busy start.
        Bev xx

    • Bev, Elizabeth, & Indiane,
      What a beautiful expression of LOVE — truly seeing the essence of someone and allowing ourselves to be truly seen. Your exchange is thick with the presence of God — love lived!

      Thank you!
      Shalom to you!

  3. Wow, thank you God for this timely message. I’m getting ready to resign from a job I love and the best coworkers I’ve had. Have felt I’m being slowly pushed to the door by my boss and feeling misunderstood. It’s time to move on and see what Gods plan is for the next chapter in my life. Been memorizing Romans 5:1-5, 2 Cor 2:14-16 and finding peace in that truth. “I’ve been and will be by Gods Grace and expression of a generous and loving God.

    • YES!!! You are the expression of a generous and loving God! Regardless of where you are in life, there God is also, wholly in love with you.

      Shalom to you as you walk through doors that have been open exclusively for you.
      Thank you for reading.

  4. Lucretia,

    God blesses us with amazing friends who speak truth & love to us. He wants us to know how He sees us. Around Christmas last year I received nice cards from friends & co-workers. A few had lovely sentiments in them. I cried when I read them. I had only known one person 10 months. She thought that highly of me. I continually hear those great words at work from others. That in & of itself blesses me so much. One of my love languages is words of affirmation. Tell me why you like me & that I’m doing good. God’s way of affirming us in this otherwise hostile, unloving world where hatred is spread so easily. Glad you took the time to do the challenge. God loves to surprise us that way!

    Blessings 🙂

    • You wrote: ‘God’s way of affirming us in this otherwise hostile, unloving world where hatred is spread so easily.

      Especially in this context, its so important that we hear loving affirmations about about ourselves. We need to not get lost in the hustle and bustle of our commodity-driven society that places value on ‘doing’ more than ‘being.’

      Thank you.

    • Kathleen,
      I am honored that my/our words touch your soul. LOVE draws us in and allows us to touch each other.
      I am grateful.

      Shalom to you.

  5. definetly…we are supposed to think of others better then ourselves and encourage one another ! in my life I would wait till the evening to ask friends , day time is so busy & after supper is better ! thanks for the message . my one friend gave me a necklace over Christmas that says warrior on it , with a card thanking me for standing so strong in her life with prayers all these years.

    • Krissy.
      Thank you for being a WARRIOR in prayer for your friends. The world needs more friend like you!!!

      Shalom to you.

  6. Thank you! God has been blessing me with affirmations this week – quite unexpectedly. He is helping me to see myself as He and others see me, not the distorted view I have of myself. I am praying to be bold enough to step into this blessing, accept it with thanksgiving, and live it out.

    • You wrote: “He is helping me to see myself as He and others see me, not the distorted view I have of myself.”
      May you have God’s eyes to see yourself and the world.

      Shalom to you.

  7. I going to comment and say this. People that know me say. I am too caring for my own good. I know that myself. My late Mum I can see her point on this. This person is also passed away her Mum wanted me to be friends with her daughter. I know today if this person still had been alive. I be her friend. I think this person was a year or two older than me. You know by her she had not that really bad a disability of some kind. That never got to me. I really really like her. I always wanted to her Friend. But I can see were my late Mum was coming from. As she didn’t want me hanging around with her all the time. My late Mum in my time when alive was not saved. Unless she said the sinners prayer quitely too herself before she died. My late Mum was just projecting me as did not want me labeled thinking because I hung around with this person I had the same disability as her. Now I look back on it. As I was not saved then either. Only doing what Jesus would have me do. Want to be friends with someone people hardly anyone else wanted too know. Like Jesus was with people in the Bible no one else wanted. I so much like this young lady. If she been alive still today her and I saying my Mum not here today. Would be friends. As that the type of me. I like be with friend like that. I would not care what people of the world think. I would be her friend because I want too and because Jesus would want me too. Also my Husband says. If I see someone in Hospital like a person our Church Husband with cancer. This is how caring I am. He says Dawn your too caring for your own good. I been like that even before I was saved. That just me. I said saying the wife and Husband going through a rough patch with Husband going through chemo. They like a certain coffee shop. I said why don’t I go onine make them a special Christmas Card. Put their names on it. Then say here is a we gift for you both to enjoy sometime together. From Me and my Husband. We put in a voucher for their favorite coffee shop. Plus said we where which we are praying for them and the family. It made their day. They said we where too kind. Like the kids song I learnt at Sundy School Jesus Hands where Kinds hands doing good to all. We as Christian are all if we can be kind like this Winners in Jesus Eyes. Excellent Reading. I will sometime get people to ask me the question you have asked in the reading. Love Dawn Ferguson-Little xxxxx

    • Hi Dawn,
      Today I just heard a teaching on how kindness makes you more intelligent. So I hope you will continue to center on kindness and shine your light brilliantly for the world to see.

      Shalom to you

  8. Lucretia, I love everything about this! I love not only what your closest people said about you (especially: a strong voice in the darkness, but it is not shouting with hate but holding steadfast with love and humility. YES!) but also that you took the time to sit with it, soak it in, believe it and celebrate it. You are her!! Even when the chaos and stress and mess is all you feel, that is not all of who you are. I’m not great at celebrating my in-progress winning either. This is making me pause and think. xx

    • Isn’t it interesting how we can’t see our process and progress as worthy of celebration? We must do better!
      I think sometimes, I get a little too focused on meeting the goal and lose site of the journey and all that it gifts me!

      Shalom to you!

  9. What a challenge you set Lucretia! I will text that message to a few people I know and see what happens.

    • Thank you!
      Yes, their affirmations were so life-giving. I must continue to pause and see myself as God sees me!

      I hope you will do the assignment as well!

  10. What a beautiful challenge. Thanks for being vulnerable and sharing. I wrote the question down. I want to accept the challenge and send out the challenge. It reminds me of how often the story I tell myself about myself and my life is often in conflict with the story God tells about me. In the end our greatest hope is to focus on Him and refocus on Him. Blessings, Julie

    • “focus on Him and refocus on Him!’
      I like that. When I am focused on Him I am charged and recharged by Him.

      I’m glad to know you are taking the challenge!