“You can go get your son if you leave by Saturday,” announced our social worker. This was Monday afternoon, I had four days to pack our family of five, soon to be six, for a month-long trip to South Africa.
We climbed onto the plane after a frantic week of packing and prayer, and after a month, we were back on the plane to come home. The most extraordinary part of my life led straight back into the ordinary days of home life.
From the random comments in Target to the well-meaning smiles and nods at the local playground, I know people think we are still living out an extraordinary story.
My ordinary looks drastically different than many people. But honestly, walking through my daily life looks more like Ruth the Moabite than the miraculous story of Mary.
Ruth gleaned wheat, met and married Boaz, and had a baby. I worked as a nanny, met and married Dan, birthed three babies and adopted one.
Ruth was a foreigner and she stood out; our adoption has made our family stand out.
But just as God worked through the “coincidences” in Ruth’s life, He has worked in ours. And it wasn’t the extraordinary month in the middle of our adoption that made the biggest impact. It was all the small moments living life before and after.
Before we made our way to South Africa, Psalm 139 was woven through my ordinary moments of devotional time, church, worship, and books. It was a constant comfort in the unknown of waiting. God was faithful to use it to bind my heart to His, going so far as to put it in my devotional the morning we left on the plane.
After was harder. Four children was overwhelming, and I started living frantically instead of faithfully. It was only through a brutal depression that God was able to work His peace and rest into me again and lead me to healing and surrender.
Now I wonder, What if extraordinary is tucked into the folds of ordinary, only found in the quiet places of rest?
The world loudly screams that bigger is better, and a simple lifestyle instills dread in the hearts of our success-driven society. If we, or our children, aren’t pursuing greatness, then society says we must be missing out. Living a hushed, ordinary life is somehow wrong, and pursuing extraordinary to the point of exhaustion is praised.
But I’m not going to believe what society says.
God doesn’t call me to be busy. He calls me to be still and to rest. And just like Boaz calls Ruth to rest over striving, to trust in his protection, God doesn’t call me to be overwhelmed. He tells me to trust and to pass my burdens on to Him.
Ruth and Boaz lived their lives trusting God was in control, and their baby continued the line to Jesus Christ. I want to live my life like them — not needing to know what God is doing but trusting that He is in control. I want my life to move forward, living slow enough to be centered on the gift of the Holy Spirit and His nudging in my soul.
That doesn’t mean I won’t mess up. Parenting is hard, and life is hard. I will get overwhelmed again, but instead of succumbing to a frenzied pace and society’s demands, I’m going to do the counterintuitive thing and slow down. I’ll begin taking small steps of faith again and again no matter how many times I fall down.
My life may look different — maybe even extraordinary to the world — but I know it’s the small steps of faith taken in the middle of my ordinary days that brought me to where I’m at.
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Jas says
Amen. After even witnessing the miracle of Gods handy work last week in his plans for me, once I arrived back home I have got caught up in being a mum and the crazy busy life that entails. My eyes have not drifted from God but I’ve been busy as it’s so easy to do with 3 children and being a wife and mother. Thank you for this reminder to slow down and refocus on my loving Father as I really can’t do anything without him!! 150%!!! What a timely post and I’m glad it’s only one week in!!! Thank you x
Jen Fletcher says
I’m so happy you were blessed by these words!! It’s a post I will keep coming back to as well in this season of motherhood!!
Jen Fletcher says
I’m so happy these words blessed you!! It’s so easy to get caught in the busyness of this motherhood season, but I always feel better when I slow down and refocus on the quiet times with the Lord. I’ll be rereading this post myself from time to time!
Michele Morin says
“What if extraordinary is tucked into the folds of ordinary, only found in the quiet places of rest?”
Oh, the wisdom of this thought!
Jen Fletcher says
Thanks Michele!! It’s where I find it!!
JANINE says
Dearest Jen:
Thank you for your gentle, committed, quiet courage in reflecting on the provision that comes with slowing down …and for fragrantly sharing it. I could almost smell your words baking deep in my heart! It actually helped me immediately to HALT in my recent strong temptation to GO full-speed-ahead with “what are you gonna be when you grow up” world mentality.
Major personal life upheaval and huge life transitions in life arenas (marriage/teen children/moving) were propelling me into “igniting the transmission” on joining the RUSH to become – – as the life transitions were pulling me into frenzied anxiousness.
Now, instead of being pulled into the world performance arena, I will choose to be pulled closer into the Lord’s embrace and private whispering – in my significant small steps he will lead me in – if I allow Him.
Your personal sharing helped me hear the Spirit and see myself in the lineup of life in the world.
The temptation to perform, prove or improve.
The RUSH to become something that needs applause or approval.
Thank you for your sharing that helped me to hear the silent loud word “HUSH” (be still) over …RUSH!!
HUSH…Peace, be still.
Thanks for the reminder that we are enough when we REST in His Everything. He is the One who whispers we are everything when the world may perceive that what we do or are doing is nothing.
Just like each one of Ruth’s gatherings brought sustenance for her, it mainly led her to the Priceless Provision that God had led her to.
As I write this, I hear the Spirit tapdancing through my thumbs. And my heart dances to His sweet song!
It is amazing what the written and read word can do to our hearts – even the Spirit uses other stories to tell us to “Peace, be still and know I AM.”
Trusting God’s voice and His leading takes us in different directions the world cannot fathom. It takes us on a journey into ourselves and allows us to journey inward and onward in strength, one step at a time.”
Many thanks for blessing me with your sharing – bless your family and especially, your personal journey with the Sweetest friend ever, our Living and Loving Lord.
Jen Fletcher says
Thank you Janine for your kind words!! This is so true, “Trusting God’s voice and His leading takes us in different directions the world cannot fathom. It takes us on a journey into ourselves and allows us to journey inward and onward in strength, one step at a time.” Be blessed!
Gwen says
So easy to be overwhelmed as a parent -especially of small children! Thank you for the encouragement to focus on God’s daily work and blessing. The truth is there is always more to do- we have been blessed to have many options- but we still have to choose what we give our energy to. -a SAHM who often feels like others expect more
Jen Fletcher says
Yes, choosing what we give our energy to is the most important!! Be blessed!
Jessica Sommer says
So many nuggets of awesome in this devotional!! Thank you!!
Cindy says
Thank you. These words were exactly what I needed to be reminded of today.
Jen says
Thank you! God spoke to me through your words today! I am a type A/rushing/list person and feel guilty when I sit and rest or listen because I’m not “doing.” I need to change my expectations of success to meet God’s, not the world’s. I need to give myself permission to rest and listen to Him! Praise be to God!❤️
Jen Fletcher says
So glad you found hope in these words!
Becky Keife says
Jen, the beauty and depth and lived-out honesty of words are a blessing to read. “I want my life to move forward, living slow enough to be centered on the gift of the Holy Spirit and His nudging in my soul.” Yes! Me too! Thank you for giving voice to the beauty of ordinary and gift of slow and assurance of God’s presence with us through it all. It’s a joy to have your words at the (in)courage table today.
Jen Fletcher says
Thanks so much Becky!!
Kathy Cheek, Devotions from the Heart says
Ordinary life with an extra-ordinary God is a life with much to savor and find delight in. That is why I like to slow down because I don’t want to miss it! Most of us live in the every day flow, but that doesn’t mean it is ordinary, it is where God shows up every day!
Jen Fletcher says
God certainly shows up whenever I stay slow and leave margin. Thanks Kathy!!
Francee Strain says
Thanks for writing, and thanks for adopting your precious son! I recently published a book where I spend a few chapters talking about resting and the extraordinary (No Ordinary Invitation: Called to Live a Life of Eternal Purpose). I utilized a different theme passage than you have in your article, so I enjoyed seeing the concept from a different perspective. It was also great to be reminded to rest because I am prone to busyness. Once again, thanks for sharing. How exciting to see Psalm 139 unfolding not just in your son, but in each one in your family. He is knitting you into something extraordinary to bless the world and glorify Him.
Jen Fletcher says
How exciting that you published a book!! I’m going to have to look that up. So glad you enjoyed my perspective and thanks for your kind words!
Dee Lundgren says
Thanks. Love that the extraordinary Cavan happen in the midst of our ordinary days
Christie Dennis says
Love this! Right on point!