I did it to myself, and I knew better. That last cup of late night coffee created my self-induced insomnia, and now I was dealing with its effects. Isn’t it something how our bed becomes this magical place where we suddenly remember everything we were supposed to do — problems to solve, relationships to mend, closets to clean — as soon as our head hits the pillow?
Over the course of the next hour, I simultaneously had a brainstorming session about a work deadline, confronted a difficult parent over an ugly team sports situation, cooked my bulk ground beef in the crock pot for tomorrow’s taco casserole, and basically solved our nation’s immigration issues, all without opening my mouth and from the comfort of my bed.
I fluffed my pillow a few times, tossed and turned trying to get comfortable, and then began a slow descent. Doubts about my ministry calling, frustrations about my church, worrying about my kid’s choices, and even pondering my lack of goals slowly crept to the surface.
Eventually sleep lured me in, and with morning light, clarity surfaced. My thought life had become all about me.
I stumbled downstairs to start a fresh pot of coffee (I know, I know, that’s what started this problem), and as I glanced toward my kitchen island, the first sun rays peeked through the clouds. It felt like it had been a month since I’d seen that beauty. It filled my heart with anticipatory joy of things to come, a celebration for the new day. And as I rounded the corner, I noticed the words illuminated by the rays.
Others.
Written just the day before as a reminder of my focus, I smiled at the Lord’s gentle nudging. He personally highlighted it for me.
Others, Jen. It’s as simple as that — others.
Sometimes we spend all our time looking in vain for some spectacular event, some larger-than-life calling, when it’s right in front of us.
Others.
I started being purposeful in my everyday interactions and even writing reminders on my calendar. Did I actively seek out the best interest of one new person today? One stranger with whom to interact? One lonely woman hiding in her cubicle?
We never know the impact one exchange might have. It’s in the small, seemingly ordinary of our every day that we are called to be faithful. It’s not just through flowery phrases or scripted reflections that He finds favor. When we live alert, with our hearts turned toward those around us at the grocery store, in our child’s school, or in our workplace, He multiplies our ministry.
Oh Lord, use my small, ordinary offerings to bring You glory. I know You’ve ordained them for Your purpose. Remind me, Lord, that You are the Potter and I am the clay. Each day, carve out a little less of me so that people may see more of You.
As I finished up a church conversation, I saw a gentleman waiting. I recognized him from our congregation, and he asked if he could speak to me a few minutes. Nearly ten years ago, during one of the most devastating times in his life, I shared a personal word of encouragement with him that impacted his choices so greatly that he wanted me to know.
I could scarcely breathe. He walked away, and I stood stunned. Tears rolled down my face with disbelief, but a new understanding washed over me.
I thought back to my life stage ten years ago and pondered what I could possibly have said that mattered. I was a young mom with five little ones. I had no “life.” When my days consisted solely of changing diapers, blowing noses, and a beauty regime that routinely included breakfasts’ dried oatmeal in my hair, my availability mattered.
During my invisible moments, God used me. I don’t even remember our conversation, which leads me to believe that nothing earth-shattering flowed from my lips, but I was available, present, others-focused. I was fully present in the moment with no agenda, no set course for that conversation. I listened, and he felt heard.
This wasn’t about a notable platform or words I had written. It had nothing to do with leadership roles held or some lofty goal attained. It centered around a small moment, a seemingly insignificant exchange with a stranger that profoundly impacted how he viewed his next steps.
The ordinary was used for His glory, and that can only be of God.
to bring to nothing what is viewed as something . . .
1 Corinthians 1:28 (CSB)
Bev @ Walking Well With God says
Jen,
So true, it’s not the profound things we think we write or say…it’s the simple moments of putting ourselves aside and showing up for others. There have been so many people who have prayed for me, made a meal, sent flowers, while I’ve been recuperating from a back injury. Thank you for the reminder that it’s time (past time) to pay it forward. There are so many people silently hurting. All I have to do is pick one and make a meal or invite them over for coffee and just listen. I think I will start with taking some fresh flowers to a friend/neighbor who has been there for me. She loves flowers. Another friend just moved two children into college over the weekend….I think a meal to come home to would be nice. Thanks for the nudge I needed.
Blessings,
Bev xx
Michele Morin says
Bev, this is so sweet and encouraging–and it’s good to hear that you are up and about and beginning to feel like yourself again!
Blessings to you!
Bev @ Walking Well With God says
Thanks, Michele! It’s good to be up and about again!
Bev xx
Jas says
So glad to see your comment here, we’ve missed you- glad to hear you are getting better xx
Bev @ Walking Well With God says
Jas,
So nice to know I was missed. Praise that I am on the mend.
Bev xx
Jen says
Yes , echoing all the other sweet friends here. Your bright light of encouragement was definitely missed. 🙂
Beth Williams says
Bev,
Glad to hear you are able to get up & walk some. Praise God for this healing. Missed your comments. May He continue to heal you & have you feeling great again!
Blessings 🙂
Bev @ Walking Well With God says
Beth,
My sweet prayer warrior. Prayers were heard and I’m praising Him with you! It’s been a long few months. Thanks for your continued prayers!
((Hugs)),
Bev
Michele Morin says
A favorite Elisabeth Elliot quote popped into my head as I read:
“Sometimes obedience means willingness to do the apparently useless thing, in order that God may do the great thing.”
I loved your story about the man who thanked you for an encouraging act you could not even recall. We really have no idea what God will do with our least offering to Him.
Jen says
Oh Elizabeth Elliot is one of my very favorites and that quote is her simple, yet profound wisdom shining through.
Jas says
Ladies, I wasn’t sure how or when to break this news but you all…Bev, Michelle and over the posts many of our community have prayed for me about this practicum and FINALLY God showed up with 5 offers! Amazing!!! You all have done so much by praying for me and God revealed his next step. I am going to go to Cambodia to help organise the Annual Peace Practitioners Conference. It’s not just this as unbelievable as it sounds God provided a connection with the former administrator of the UNDP through LinkedIn that led to a meeting in person with her and her husband in Auckland- i had to go there to renew my Australian passport …long story short this meeting and the way it happened and everything providing the money for the flight, the passport I just happened to be there and She just happened to be in NZ and we met – it had JESUS written all over it! I’m still in awe at the power of God, I know he is powerful of course but I saw his power, felt it, was a receiver of it! There are still a lot of parts that have to work out and come together but I am completely trusting God, it’s not me, it’s HIM…all him. So very grateful…thanks so much for your prayers. You all have had a hand in this and to think your all on the other side of the world, beyond grateful THANK YOU!!!! I love this community, I feel so at home here x
Faith says
Thank you Jen and thank you Jesus! This simple offering of your experience and His faithfulness is so encouraging to me. As I wait a call this morning to determine next steps to remove a large mass in my leg, God has been reminding me of all His truths. Your sweet and simple prayer to our Potter to carve out a little of us so more of Him shows through is a literal and figurative prayer for me! I don’t know what my future holds but I know the one who holds my future in His hands and as I journey through this unknown health trial I am going to have countless “ordinary “ opportunities and moments to be present for others. Open the eyes of my heart Lord to the needs of others, fill me to overflowing with peace, love and joy.
Beth Williams says
Faith,
Praying for God to heal you. May He guide the surgeon’s hands. May you feel His love & peace in your soul. Keep holding on to those truths. He is faithful & will be with you every step of the way!
Blessings 🙂
Jas says
Praying the Lord provides a clear path for you to recovery and healing Faith!
Beth Williams says
Jas,
Praise God He has provided a practicum. I pray He will heal you from the pain you have. Been praying & now can thank God for this answered prayer. I pray this will be what you need & enjoy!
Blessings 🙂
Jas says
Thanks Beth! X
Jas says
Thanks Beth…yes I am so grateful for your prayers xx May God continue to bless you!
Bev @ Walking Well With God says
Wow, Jas!! When God shows up, He does in a BIG way!! Praise for the way He orchestrated this all!! God is good all of the time! Sounds like you are going to be on the journey of a lifetime!! Happy Dance here in NC!!
Bev xo
Jas says
Bev, I’m joining you in that happy dance!!!
Jen says
Jas – that is such wonderful news!! Rejoicing with you for all of God’s fingerprints over every step. 🙂 Keep us posted about your trip.
Jessica Sommer says
My parting word to our kids every morning – ‘make someone else smile today!’
Cheryl says
Jessica…I love this idea… Though I am now a grandma in my 70s ..I can adapt this idea for myself… Even at my age I can “go out and make someone smile”. THANK YOU… I like leaving little notes I carry handmade in my purse .. To waitresses or dropping them on a counter of salesclerk or in washrooms etc… Telling the person who finds them… ” you are valued and special – have a great day- God loves you”
So to you Jessica I say… Go out and make a great day.. God loves you.. YOU are Special ❗️
Jas says
I love this Jessica! Im going to try it with my own children.
Jen says
Can you even imagine the ripple effect if every single one of us put that small act of kindness into action on a daily basis? LOVE THAT!
Cindy Bratton says
God has recently been speaking to me about the little things. After 29 years of full time ministry, my husband retired, knowing he had some health stuff going on. What it turned out to be is an early onset dementia. What we had thought was exhaustion from living and ministering in the tropics for 11 years was actually exhaustion from his brain trying to find work-around as it was slowly degenerating. Because this is not Alzheimer’s Disease induced dementia, the diagnosis was long in coming. Anyway, that lead to a very early retirement for me too, and a profound drop in ministry for me, too.
Even though I read my Bible faithfully, often God will use music to speak to me. Again this morning I woke up with the song, “Dream Small” going through my mind. When I first heard this song, I rebelled! Haven’t we all heard that we are to have big dreams and to pursue them with all our might? But, I went online and looked at the lyrics, and realized it’s not about big dreams or small dreams, but about faithfulness in all things, in the mundane things of life. Your blog reminded me, confirmed to me, this concept once again. Thank you.
Beth Williams says
Cindy,
Just listened to that song. It speaks to me right now. We need to let God use us right where we are. Praying for you both. This road can be hard. I’ve been there with both my parents. May God bless you both with more good days. I pray you feel His peace & comfort in your soul. Remember He is with you always on this journey.
Blessings 🙂
Jen says
Oh Cindy – After decades of Kingdom Purpose ministry, thank you for all your years of pointing others to Him. I can’t imagine what a challenging time this must be with such a life change but I know that some of the most meaningful times of my ministry have been those small moments that no one else knew anything about. I’m off to listen to that song. Sounds like one I will love.
blessings,
Jen
Mary Bonner says
Oh, Jen, thank you!!! This is such a timely reminder for me today.
Jen Schmidt says
You’re so welcome, Mary. It’s a reminder I often need.
Lara Sadowski says
Welcome back, Bev! So glad you are feeling better after your back injury.
Jen, what a great post and a wonderful reminder that God does amazing things in all circumstances – big and small. I admit that I have looked at my life and compared my circumstances to others and thought I didn’t measure up. But then I read your amazing post. I love it when you said,
“The ordinary was used for His glory, and that can only be of God.”
WOW – I needed to read and hear this!
Father, please use me each day to spread Your love, grace and mercy to others. Help me to focus on others and not on myself.
Jen, your words were right on time for me!! Thank you, friend!
Praise God from Whom All Blessings Flow!
Joy in Jesus,
Lara
Bev @ Walking Well With God says
Thanks Lara!
Bev xx
Beth Williams says
Jen,
This world clamors for big audiences, huge platforms, leadership. large followings, etc. Their motto is dream big & work hard to achieve all your goals. God’s ways are diametrically opposed. He applauds the little, unnoticed things we do daily. My nature is to be a helper-not leader. No huge platforms here. Yesterday I sat with an elderly neighbor who just lost her second & “final” child to cancer. She is alone in the world now except for a granddaughter. This week I will make cookies for “Feed the Multitude” which helps less fortunate people & I will serve them also. I will also gather food for my neighbor & her family. I don’t do big things, but you never know what kind of impact you are making in someone’s life-just by being there for them. I am reminded of a quote by John Wesley that sums this up: “Do all the good you can, By all the means you can, In all the ways you can, In all the places you can, At all the times you can, To all the people you can, As long as ever you can.”
Blessings 🙂
Lucretia Berry says
Yes. When we are mindful towards others, God transforms our ordinary into ordained. Thank you for sharing!
Kathy Cheek says
I love this story and another shining example of how God works in our lives, so mysteriously in and through us.
Nancy Ruegg says
Such WONDERFUL encouragement here, Jennifer. If all of us (in)courage readers determine to “live alert, with our hearts turned toward those around us at the grocery store, in our child’s school, or in our workplace”–think of the multiplication by God of all THAT ministry! And thank you for that heartfelt prayer in the middle of your post, about our small, ordinary offerings bringing him glory. Amen and hallelujah! With you I ask him to carve out a bit of me so that people see more of Him, day by day. Thank you, Jennifer!
Leslie says
Here is something small and easy. I send Valentines cards to people whose spouse has died in the past year. The 1st time I did this, one lady (with 3 adult children) told me that was the on,y card she received that day. So glad I listened when God spoke.
Michelle Stiffler says
Yes, Jenn, YES! More and more I find that when my thoughts are me-centered, God is quick to pull my focus outward. He’s always gentle and encouraging about it, but that’s grace, isn’t it? Thanks for this today.
Amanda says
This is so what I needed to hear.
Becky Keife says
Others. It’s that simple.
So loved your encouragement and challenge to be on the lookout for way to bless others in ordinary moments. xx
Summer Rae says
Thank you Miss Jen.