Becky L McCoy
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Becky L McCoy lives on the Connecticut coast with her two precocious and hilarious children. Having struggled with depression and anxiety and experienced several seasons of grief and trauma - including being widowed at 28 - Becky is passionate about exploring ways of living that embrace trauma, grief, mental health,...

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  1. Becky,
    What a powerful and heart wrenching post. I know when I read others’ stories, like yours, I think how on earth would I ever get through that?? I could do anything, but that. Your post answers the question so perfectly. We can’t. We can’t get through anything on our own, in our own strength. When life comes crashing in we have nowhere to run, but into our Father’s arms. He can handle everything – even our anger with Him. He didn’t give you grace in the imagining of being a widow. He gave you grace the moment you became a widow and your testimony, here, tells us that His grace is sufficient. I am certain it hasn’t been easy, but by God’s grace alone, you can still see goodness. Your story gives us ALL hope. Lifting you up in prayer sweet mother and sister.
    Bev xx

  2. What an incredible story of God’s severe mercy. Thank you for this glimpse of your surrendered life–I’m sure this happens moment by moment, and I can just barely let myself think about how hard the past few years have been for you.
    Blessings and love to you and your sweet children.

  3. You sure can do hard things. This is so deep. I love and dread new beginnings but they happen all the time anyway but God’s grace like you so aptly pointed out is well sufficient for us. Very well put together and thanks for the reminder. Cheers!

  4. I am so, so sorry for all you have been through. God bless you for being able to experience joy despite the tragedies you have faced. What an amazing testimony.

  5. Thank you for your words today. I will resist the urge of telling you my hard story, because I know the reality of how everyone feels the need to do that in our desire to be known and heard. Blessings as you live out the pages of where your story is taking you. I am checking out your website and blog.

  6. No words, Becky. What a powerful post! We can’t, but our God can! < I will be praying for you and your sweet family.

    Praise God from Whom all Blessings flow!

    In Him,
    Lara <

  7. Thanks for sharing. I just couldn’t stop crying after reading your story. May God continue to strengthen you and give you the grace to raise your kids, they are indeed God’s blessings. God bless you.

  8. Wow, what a testimony! We can do NOTHING without the help of our Lord and Savior. Bless you. You are such a model of the Christian life for your children

  9. Life is not at all something we can plan or control. You have done an amazing job in leaning on the Lord. Perhaps you know how to lean more than most of us do. Perhaps you have grieved more than most of us have.

    There is a bible ver which says, “to whom much is given, much is required.” Luke 12:48.

    I believe the opposite is true as well, or at least, it has been in my life – to whom much is required, much is given. He gives us what we need to not just survive but to thrive. When he requires a lot he gives abundantly.

    You would not have chosen this path of losing your husband, but having journeyed it, I believe you have seen Christ in ways you might not have experienced any other way.

    Knowing this doesn’t negate the grief. It’s real, it’s hard, and for most it’s a companion you learn to live with. A companion you learn to be the boss of, in time.

    Thank you for sharing your testimony of Christ in your crises. Many will be strengthened.

  10. Becky,
    I viewed your words & imagine prior to reading your testimony.
    Bless you for sharing all the details of your experiences and how you have been given
    the grace & strength from the Lord to live with such love, faith, joy & purpose.

    Thank you !

  11. I read your story with tears and though I am much older than you, what you say about change never coming without loss and have struggled with that, arguing with God, asking why and knowing why will never be known in this world. So I look at what you have gone through and just feel less alone with the pain. I pray that life will continue to bring some sunshine and always the realization that you are strong because of your faith and will find your way through. You are truly inspiring to those of us who also deal with such pain and loss. Thank you.

  12. Thank you so much for this! I am currently facing the possibility of losing my daughter and I pray everyday that God would spare her, but if it’s plan to take her home to be with Him, I hope I can be as positive and inspiring as you have been.

    • When Keith was sick, we talked alot about how God promised to heal him no matter what. God chose to heal him in heaven instead of earth, but He is still the healer of our bodies and hearts.

  13. Thank you, Becky, for sharing your brave with us. “I can rely on the strength of the One who spoke the universe into existence.” …that we can tap into that strength is such a huge encouragement! Thanks, friend 🙂

  14. I so understand. My husband was killed in an industrial accident leaving me a widow with 4 young kids. I thought I might die too.
    But God…He turned out to be bigger than I could ever imagine! He carried me, comforted me, strengthened me, and gave me His ability to carry on.
    Thirty eight years later, I can say He gave me a new life. In time He sent me love again. We married and had a child. My new husband adopted all my kids. Today they are all grown and serving the Lord with their lives.
    Be encouraged. He is with you.

  15. I can’t tell you how much this post meant to me in this season of my life! The verse too, along with others, have been sustaining! WoW! Your sharing has helped my perspective on new beginnings in so many areas of my life that I once could not imagine. Your story, your life has not been easy BUT GOD has proven Himself to be a VERY PRESENT HELP! He’s the same yesterday, and today, and forever (Hebrews 13:8). Since He’s no respecter of persons (Acts 10:34), He’ll do the same for me! I thank Him for you and may you continue to enjoy the gifts that He’s blessed you with! Pour your memories into them as they grow and never let them forget those “men” who planted seed, allowing them to come forth! Bless You Becky!

  16. Becky,
    Thank-you for sharing your heartbreaking but hopeful story, it deeply touched me this morning.
    2 Samuel 22:29
    You Lord, are my lamp; the Lord turns my darkness into light.

    Blessings to you all,

  17. I am just thinking… God, You are so GOOD!!
    Thank you for sharing, Becky. : )
    Many Blessings,

  18. God takes the most heart-wrenching things and makes them new. If someone were to describe your beginnings they might only see the endings attached to each one. But you, instead, have shown us how God truly took your weakness, stayed by your side and loved your through it. Thank you for this beautiful testimony.

  19. “And wing my words, that they may reach The hidden depths of many a heart…”

    Who knows how many hearts you reached to console and inspire with hope, Becky through your words and your courage.
    May He bless and continue to enrich you and your family.

  20. Oh my. Thank you for sharing your story, Becky. I love the image of your daughter hugging your son when he gets off the bus…and your daughter being “pure sunshine in a little human.” Your little ones, your mama’s heart, and your faith are absolutely beautiful. God bless you!

  21. Oh, Becky…I’m over here in California and wishing we weren’t separated by a whole big country because I would just wrap my arms around you and weep with you for both the grief and beauty of this life. I hate that you have to mother your two precious ones alone, that you have to live with the ache of losing your husband, and yet this testimony of your deep reliance on the Lord and trust in His unending goodness infuses my heart with courage. Yes, we can do hard things! Because of His strength in us! Thank you for sharing your beautiful words with (in)courage today.

  22. You truly have been through a lot, Becky. God bless you and those two children. If you need any help with depression, I recommend the book, Hope Prevails by Dr. Michelle Bengston. She is on FB.

  23. Dear Becky,
    Your courageousness in traveling and sharing your journey is inspiring. Thank you. You may not feel strong or courageous but living each day and being open to what God has in store for you and your children is strong and courageous indeed. It would be easier to hide or pretend but you have not. I am so sorry that this has been your path, but happy that you are seeing God’s grace throughout it. Continued blessings to you, friend!
    Most sincerely,

  24. With tears in my eyes, I read your heart-wrenching story. So sorry for your loss. May God grant you strength (I know He is) as you care and provide for your children. I pray HE will also provide you with another soul mate, if you so desire. love and hugs!

  25. Becky,

    Kudos for sharing such a powerful testimony. God’s grace & mercy is supernatural. It is only through Him that we can push through the hard life trials. God blessed you with a little ray of sunshine to brighten your days. My story is about dementia & it’s ugly rein on my parents. Mom had sun downers & was bedridden two years before she died. My dad had multiple dementia & psych issues. It wasn’t fun living day by day never knowing when phone would ring. I had to hospitalize him twice (severe dementia). It scared me so that all I could do was rely on God’s strength to get me through. My prayers were mostly God help-take him-what must I learn through all this?

    Thanks for sharing a glimpse of God’s grace

  26. Thank you Becky for your beautiful life story of God’s unfailing love and how he will never leave us, even though, it might feel this way or we cannot grasp understanding of the things that happen in this life. This has touched me, ministered to me and given me strength. Thank you, Thank you…..Thank you for sharing… God bless you and love you, surrounding you and your children with perfect peace and joy.

  27. Becky thank you so much for sharing. God bless you and your children. God is using you in big ways ❤️

  28. Becky,
    Thank you, thank you, for sharing this! I needed it and thankfully went back to read it! Thank you so much!! Hugs to you! God Is Great!!

  29. Becky I “know” you from Hope*Writers and somehow I did not know this of your story. My heart wants to hold yours. My heart has underwent similar unexpected trials and losses in the past decade. Sometimes these stories of ours seem so unreal. And yet, they are very real, and very complicated, and very painful. But God is faithful and I am so glad for your faith and to be your sister in a Christ. Thank you for opening your heart to women. Blessings, Kristin

  30. Thank you for your heart wrenching and beautiful story. ~A story you have lived and felt bone-deep. I’m a fellow Hope*Writer and did not see this in the Friday shares. I saw it because my friend Natalie had a link to it in her newsletter. Blessings to you and your sweet family!