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ALIZA LATTA is a writer, artist, and pastor who is a huge fan of telling stories. She creates content for Canada’s largest youth conference, Change Conference, and is a church planter in Ontario, Canada. Her artwork and writing have been featured in publications for LifeWay, Dayspring, and (in)courage. She is...

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  1. Aliza,
    I believe the enemy know where every young women’s Achilles heel is located – in her doubts as to whether she is enough as she is. He lures us into the comparison trap and gets us looking around at the slimmer, better dressed, more successful, more popular, prettier women and the disappointment and discouragement gets a foothold. It’s not long before the enemy no longer has a foot in the door, but is all the way in and convincing us that if we only tried harder, strived more, did better or more, worked at it, we’d be enough. Like you so truthfully pointed out, we can’t trust our feelings (and most women ooze emotions and feelings) because they lie. We need to keep holding the lies we are feeling and ultimately believing up against the Truth (what God’s Word says about what He thinks of us), and if they don’t match up, then we need to kick the lies to the curb. Easier said than done, but like you said….it’s a choice. Praying that you and all women young and old will choose to believe that in God’s eyes they are enough. God’s Word says so. Without Jesus- no we don’t have a prayer. But, with Him….we are absolutely PERFECT!! Wonderful post!
    Blessings,
    Bev xx

      • love your response ms. bev! (i particularly love your icky spelling and grammar reply…bahahahahahah!) i absolutely agree with you about the comparison trap. it slapped me so hard in the face one day, that i forwarded the email to my best friend and told her it was a trap. the subject of the email was something to the effect “Compare your salary to that of others in your field.” i was so glad i was able to recognize it and not fall victim to it. i deleted it and realized it would only make me feel either inferior for not making as much as or superior for making more. why would i do that? while i still find myself comparing in different areas, i find that i am more aware of my comparing and do more to combat that spirit. i should probably get rom. 12:15 and psa. 139:14 tattooed on the backs of my eyelids because i say them so often! (jk! that would kind of hurt!)

        thank you for imparting your wonderful words of wisdom!

        • Karyn,
          Good for you for not falling prey to the trap…..practice and repeat (over and over again). Keep His Word on your lips. It will help you find your identity in Him and live to an audience of One (not caring what the rest of the world is up to). You are His beloved. Choose to believe that. If Christ is in you, then you are already perfect.
          Love and ((hugs))
          Bev (and no eyelid tattoos….ouch!) 😉

    • I am an 80-year-old woman who grew up in a society that was not so self-absorbed. I have never worried about “being enough.” I am thankful that I was not taught that “you can be all you want to be.” That is a total fallacy. Everyone has different gifts and abilities, and dreaming about becoming a concert pianist when you were born tone deaf is self-defeating.

      I was taught to give my best effort in everything and above all else, to serve others. Only then would I feel good about myself. There are many young girls and women today who follow that same prescription and never worry about being “enough.” Let’s get the focus off our own needs and commit to putting someone else’s needs and wants above our own. I know from experience that this brings tremendous self-satisfaction.

      • Happy Great Grandma, I like it! Thank you for sharing a very real lens!

        P.S. I enjoyed the post but you are correct in that we live in a self-absorbed society. It’s going to be tough following Jesus the servant when your constant desire is affirmation and that to be served. Help us Lord!

      • Happy Great Grandma,
        Ahhh….the wisdom of the ages. If we all got out priorities straight: Jesus first, Others second, and You (ourselves) last then we wouldn’t have time to be so self absorbed. Not surprisingly the acronym of Jesus, Others, You is JOY!! Keep speaking into this world. We NEED your wisdom.
        Blessings,
        Bev xx

  2. Oh Aliza
    After the days I’ve had it was such a well I needed to hear this. It’s like God speaking right to my core with your words, that I need to read this again!

  3. What a joyful anthem you’ve sung over my morning — and I can just barely wait to share its melody with my tiny granddaughter. And this is huge motivation for sharing Christ with our searching sisters, for only in Him can we experience this fullness of joy.

  4. Aliza, yes I so relate to all of this. Self-worth is not mine, it is God’s for He has created me and yes it is a choice that I too make daily, and sometimes moment to moment….
    Thank you for stating, that this is not a feeling, IT IS A CHOICE!
    Beautiful post! xo

  5. Beautiful, encouraging words….sing them over again to me! “If I am good in God’s eyes….Why am I not good in my own?” A thought provoking question. I have been thinking over how important it is to compassionately love and accept all of me, the good, bad and ugly, as God does, and trust God will transform me according to the purposes planted in me at my making. Thanks for your words!

  6. Oh that I could really grasp this! I fight every day, and I am weary. I have 2 young adult daughters who have decided I’m not “good enough” to have a relationship with. I have a husband who has communicated through actions & passivity that I am not “good enough” to relate to. I have 4 other adult children and dear friends who tell me I am “good enough”, and Jesus who tells me I’m His. But so many days I can’t hear “I’m good enough” because the “not good enough “ is whispering in my ear or shouting in my face. And then the voices from the past are never positive.

    Please pray for me. I so want a breakthrough. I am blind: I can’t see that I have anything to give, but Jesus is not calling me home yet. I am struggling with gratitude for life, and for how God made me. How do we get to the point of wanting to choose to believe? How do we get to the point of believing?

    Thank you for giving me a safe place to struggle.

    • Oh, my sweet sister, Martha. I hear you and I understand where you are. And more importantly, God your Father hears you and understands better than I. He loves you with a Steadfast Love and He longs for you to turn to Him and talk to Him. You have His attention, He knows you better than you know yourself, and He is longing for you to seek His counsel and to say to Him all the words that you need to speak. He will not judge you, condemn you, or forsake you. He will not turn away from you. He is your Source, Strong Tower, Deliverer, Redeemer, Help, and Comforter. In order for us to get to the point of wanting to choose to believe is to ask God to help us to choose Him, to help us believe with Faith that we are who He says we are. He will answer! He says “I am the One who helps you, declares the Lord; your Redeemer is the Holy One of Israel” (Isaiah 47:14). I’ve been where you are many, many times throughout my 49 years in this world, and I know what it’s like to be blind and struggling to find gratitude for life. Jesus has saved me from four suicide attempts that should have either permanently disabled me or killed me. I know the sorrows and pain that are in the ugly pits of darkness very well. But, I also know the Joy, Peace, Salvation, Light, Love, and Redemption that is in Him, only in Him. Currently, I’m learning about Redemption in Christ Jesus in a Bible study by Angela Thomas-Pharr, called “Redeemed: Grace to Live Every Day Better Than Before.” I’m learning how to pray for myself by reading, meditating on, and praying the Psalms over myself every day. God is showing me in the verses how to pray His Word, and I’m learning to trust Him like never before. It’s amazing that I find verse after verse that completely resonates with what I wanted to say to God, but didn’t know how to. Ms. Pharr explains it this way, “Will you say out loud to God: God, I believe that You love me with a Steadfast Love. I want to receive Your Love for me with gratefulness and humility.” And, if you can’t yet say that, will you say: “God, will You help me believe Your Steadfast Love is meant even for me? And then will You, God, help me to receive Your Love?” She says that to believe we are included in God’s Steadfast Love requires humility and surrender. Receiving God’s Love means learning to lay down our defenses, our doubts, our rebellion. Oh sweet Martha, surrender yourself before Him. He is right there with you everywhere you go. He’s waiting with wide open arms, a radiant smile, and longing to fill you with His peace and exceeding Joy. You are His daughter and He loves you, loves you, loves you. He says to you “I have loved you with an everlasting love; therefore I have drawn you with lovingkindness (Jeremiah 31:3). He says of you “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future” (Jeremiah 29:11).

      This is my prayer to the Father for you, Martha.
      You have searched her Lord, and You know her. You know when she sits and when she rises; You perceive her thoughts from afar. You discern her going out and her lying down; You are familiar with all her ways. Before a word is on her tongue You, Lord, know it completely. You hem her in behind and before, and You lay Your hand upon her. Such knowledge is too wonderful for her, too lofty for her to attain. Where can she go from Your Spirit? Where can she flee from Your presence? If she goes up to the heavens, You are there; if she makes her bed in the depths, You are there. If she rises on the wings of the dawn, if she settles on the far side of the sea, even there Your hand will guide her, Your right hand will hold her fast. If she says “Surely the darkness will hide me and the light become night around me,” even the darkness will not be dark to her; the night will shine like the day, for darkness is as light to You. For You created her inmost being; You knit her together in her mother’s womb. May she praise You because she is fearfully and wonderfully made; Your works are wonderful, may she know that full well. Her frame was not hidden from You when she was made in the secret place, when she was woven together in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw her unformed body; all the days ordained for her were written in Your book before one of them came to be. How precious to her are Your thoughts, God! How vast is the sum of them! Were she to count them, they would outnumber the grains of sand — when she awakes, she is still with You. Search her, God, and know her heart; test her and know her anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in her, and lead her in the way everlasting (From Psalm 139).

      I love you in Christ, my Sister,
      Shelley

    • Martha, I do pray that Jesus will, at this very moment, surround you with His love in a way you have never known before. I pray that you will know that love in the very core of your being. You are loved and valued by your Heavenly Father. Today. Tomorrow. And every day after. Much love to you.

  7. “If I am good in God’s eyes why am I not good in my” touching statement. Thanks Aliza. I am Good in God’s eye therefore Ivsm good in my eyes.

  8. Thank you, Aliza. I am that girl who rarely believes I am good enough. I find so much fault within myself, so many failures on a daily basis. I see confident and beautiful women out there (several who work with my husband) and then I beat myself up saying I can’t compete. Why is it I feel I have to? I have nothing to offer. Why do I let the enemy convince me of that? How can God even call me “good”? Yet I know it’s true, He does and I am valuable to Him. Just last night I told my husband I am NOT going to feel this way anymore. I am so weary of feeling inferior. You are right that it is a choice to believe we are good enough and can be used by God but getting there isn’t going to be easy when I’ve spent a lifetime thinking I don’t measure up and my insecurities are worse now (at 63) then ever before. However, God is speaking to me through your words today and I am listening. Blessings.

    Cindy

  9. that was just what i needed to hear Aliza! thank you for reminding me that being enough is MY CHOICE! there are times when i feel like i am just everything i am supposed to be. then there are days, moments, seconds, where i have to battle to remind myself that i am enough. the problem is that no one says i’m not enough. my eyes and the lens through which i see things makes me think i am not enough. i’ve been working on a few things lately (it’s still a work in progress, but it’s a work nonetheless). when i’m having my “not enough” or insecure moments, i remind myself that His thoughts are far greater than mine! furthermore, if He looked over EVERYTHING that HE made and said that it was good (that includes me 😀 ), who am i to disagree?! Aliza, thank you so much for sharing!

    • Karyn, remind yourself in those “not enough” moments what Jesus says about you – that He loves you with an everlasting love. Ever. Lasting. No matter what! Hang tight to this truth girl.

  10. Every woman feels that way from a little girl to an old woman. And though I agree, we should not be self absorbed, it’s not about us, it’s about Jesus, we still have that enemy. The closer and more sensitive to Jesus you are, I think you are more bedeviled, but don’t let the accuser of your heart do that to you, He overcame, that’s why we do.

  11. I can really relate to this. I struggle everyday with feeling I’m not good enough for my 4 adult children and my 7 grandchildren. I get up every morning feeling like I’m not good enough to go to work because I have friends here that I feel I’m not good enough to have. At least that is what my husband tells me all the time. He doesn’t want me to have a life accept with him. He is an alcoholic and tells me all the time that they aren’t really my friends. That they only talk to me because they feel sorry for me. So now I think that I’m not good enough to have these women in my life. These women that I call friends don’t really do anything with me outside of work and that also is what make me feel like I’m not good enough. Sometime I feel like I’m not good enough for God. Now I am trying to start a little business selling the things I crochet and my husband makes me feel like I’m not even good enough for that. I struggle so much every day feeling like I am not good enough for anything or anybody. I don’t know how to get over this feeling. I have tried to commit suicide twice because of my husband accusing me of something so horrible and because he makes me feel like I’m not good enough for anything or anybody. Please pray that I can find peace with myself and that I am good enough for others and God.

    • Oh Gina….I would encourage you to memorize Jeremiah 31:3, and speak it over and over until the truth of it gets burned into your very soul. You are loved my sister. Infinitely loved. I pray that our good and kind Father will remind you of this each moment. I am praying that you will find the peace that comes from Jesus today.

  12. Hey, Aliza:

    Thanks for reminding us of our worth. It isn’t easy in today’s society to remember how much God loves us and with him we are enough. Your article will help me and many more to have positive self talk throughout the day. Thanks for your caring and compassion.

  13. “Enough is a choice, not a feeling.” Yes! Yes! Yes! When we choose to see ourselves as God sees us, we can relax enough to be ourselves and that is always enough!

  14. I love this, I’m going to print it and save it to give my daughter in 5 years when she becomes a teen, and again in 10 years when she’s an adult.

  15. Aliza,

    Great insightful post! Much needed in this self-absorbed world we live in. It is so easy to compare ourselves to others & feel like we fall short. We must remember Psalm 139:14 “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;” When God made men & women He said we were “very good”! We must remember we are made in His image. Whatever we think of ourselves we are calling God that same thing-not enough, etc. Sometimes I compare myself to others-only to remind myself of all the great things I have.

    Young girls/women must stop listening to pop culture & reading all those “magazine”. We must insert the word of God into ourselves & make ourselves believe that we are enough just as we are. Each one of us is special with specific talents to help the kingdom advance!

    Blessings 🙂