Lisa-Jo Baker
About the Author

Lisa-Jo is the best-selling author of Never Unfriended and Surprised by Motherhood. Her newest book, The Middle Matters: Why That (Extra)Ordinary Life Looks Really Good on You invites us to get a good look at our middles and gives us permission to embrace them.

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  1. Beautiful words! I’m reading this while holding a 3mth baby girl to sleep and her 3.5yo sister is asleep in the next room. Love reading ur posts and also of the other ladies that post. I always find words that lift and encourage me when I’m down. God bless 🙂

  2. Lisa-Jo
    You always move me with your open, honest devotions, but today you have moved me to tears. I have 2 granddaughters who are 12 and 10, so I copied this off to give to them. It is so true! Thank you for being obedient to the Lord and blessing us with your words!!

  3. WOW!!!! Thank you for helping me have a conversation with my girls today!! This is exactly what they needed to hear before their first 2 weeks at Camp Kanakuk! Thank you!!!

  4. Oh my goodness, what an amazing post!! I just read it to both my girls. My 13 year old has had to battle mean girls starting in 3rd grade. Her best friend (popular girl) stopped talking to her, and in turn so did all the other girls. It left it’s wake generalized anxiety and panic attacks everyday before school. Not that it caused the anxiety, but it was the straw that broke the camel’s back.

    It was heartbreaking and impossible for her to understand why everyone deserted her. However, at 13 and now on her way to high school, she has matured, her anxiety is controlled, and she is much stronger.

    You’re right, the mean never stops. Even at 51 I still encounter mean women and it still hurts. However, the shield of God helps me continue to love ❤ and show grace. Thank you for your post.

  5. I agree and thank you – as a Mom to a mean girl. My precious one defaults to mean at any disagreement. Her little body dictates this as her infancy was in an orphanage and her body automatically interprets situations as threats. We re-friend her every day, we do all we can to build trust, love and teach her. But it takes everyone and others often don’t see her meanness as a symptom. Jesus has blessed us with a community that overall gets this so she has made healing progress. Pray for the mean girls! When you’re hurt too much by them and have to steer clear, don’t forget to pray for them. Each one has her own story like my little one.

  6. Thank you for this wisdom and insight! This last year has been overwhelming for my now 16 year old daughter and my family. My son was in a serious car wreck. Two months later, my daughter almost died in a car wreck (a year ago now). It left her bed-ridden for months and healing for the last year. She was also knocked down and messed up her ankle and foot. She was once again bed-ridden for a month and healing for 3 months. She missed her summer basketball season and her league BB season. Her best friend’s dad (that we were close to) died suddenly. Her best friends of 8 years unfriended her and so did her friend from birth. She was devastated. Her ex-friends (the now MEAN girls) have been bullying her to the maximum, to the point of cult/devil-worship type behavior. She had a crazy English teacher that bullied her and she received her first C in her life. She was kicked off her BB team BC some parents (including myself) reported her coach for inappropriate behavior and breaking CIF rules. Her father wrongfully lost his job for a period of time. So you see, with the continued bullying by the MEAN girls, it is just ridiculous. Thank God that my daughter is smart and strong. She is one of the most amazing people I know. Please pray for her and the MEAN girls.