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Mary is a writer and speaker who lives for good books, spicy queso, and television marathons – but lives because of God’s grace. She writes about giving up on perfect and finding truth in unexpected places at MaryCarver.com. Mary and her husband live in Kansas City with their two daughters.

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  1. Mary,
    Not that I have enemies, but God has been challenging me to love those who have hurt me and those who are hard to love. It’s so easy, fun, and rewarding to love those who are appreciative and reciprocate, but God says that anyone can do that. As Christ followers, we are called to love the unlovable, the prickly, the abrasive, the downright rude. Easier said than done, but I’m trying. As the old adage goes….kill ’em with kindness. More than that, I’m trying to love like Christ loved. Thanks for this post that urges me on!
    Sunday blessings,
    Bev xx

  2. Mary, this is wonderful preparation for Sunday morning immersion in the lives of my church family!
    Blessings to you, and thanks for pressing into relationships and asking the questions.

  3. Mary,

    Sometimes people just need us to show up & listen. Be an understanding ear and encourage them. I have two groups of people that eat out once a month. One group-some church friends- are trying to befriend a woman. Our aim is to love her where she is and try to get her into church. We listen to her and show her God’s love. Another group-“the final five”- is my old co-workers. We meet intentionally to catch up on each other’s lives. We pray for each other and occasionally give gifts. The point is we are there for each other. Showering God’s love on everyone.

    Who can I love deeply today? Anyone and everyone I meet.

    Blessings 🙂

  4. if God is love, the enemy is the opposite of love. Tempting to think this is hate, but I think it’s actually indifference.

  5. Mary I think it was very thoughtful in the way you reached out to your friend. Sometimes even though we mean well we might not understand, and overlook those needs.Thank-you for reminding us to look deeper, reach further, and love one another well.

    Have a blessed day all,


  6. On Bev’s reply, I didn’t think I had enemies either, but you might be surprised where the real enemy has used other people’s insecurity or jealousy, to hurt you. Only God knows people’s thought, though they sooner of later come out their mouths. I’m convinced there are some that won’t be killed by kindness. In the south, people “stew” on things. And for the crazy friend, she’s not crazy just worn out, you can only stand so much, Jesus said there would be ” sufficent ” evil each day, and when it piles up, yes, you question your sanity. It’s bad for people to say, ” just get over it.” Or why can’t you just do so and so? Thank you for being a friend that loves at all times. God bless.

  7. Mary
    This goes right along with this morning’s service. My Pastor spoke on Paul and Timothy. They loved and cared sincerely, submissive and selflessly. And as Christ does, so are we. Many don’t get it. People need love. And that comes in hugging, helping, serving and NOT judging. Thank you for sharing this. We could at any moment be in the place of needing, and I, usually am. As you do to the least of these….