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Mary is a writer and speaker who lives for good books, spicy queso, and television marathons – but lives because of God’s grace. She writes about giving up on perfect and finding truth in unexpected places at MaryCarver.com. Mary and her husband live in Kansas City with their two daughters.

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  1. Mary,
    I love your friend, Sara’s attitude…”If this is where I am then this is where God is too…” What a poignant reminder that no matter where we find ourselves…God is right there with us. He has also promised that His grace is sufficient for whatever we are going through. He doesn’t give His grace when we imagine the worst, only when we walk through the worst do we experience that deep abiding presence and His grace to put one foot in front of the other. I can say, confidently, that God has always been there for me. He has been true to His Word and never forsaken me. He has walked with me through deep valleys, but He has never left me stuck. He has walked me THROUGH to the other side. And when a thorn has remained in my side…He gives me grace for that too. Thank you for this reminder that God is always, always there/here with us in whatever we are facing.
    Bev xx

    • Bev,
      Mary write a beautiful book detailing Sara’s incredible outlook in the face of crippling pain and an increasingly poor prognosis. It’s called “Choose Joy,” and it’s lovely.

    • Good Morning!
      I am getting ready to attend the Home Going Services for a college student who tragically lost her life driving after her last class before the Christmas holidays. It goes without saying that the waves of grief keep washing over her family making them feel as if they are drowning. Their numbness and yes even pain keeps them from feeling God’s presence, yet He is there. Thank you for sending me on my way with the full knowledge that God is indeed with us.

    • To both you Mary and to you Bev, well put well said. I pray that these words touch those who are hurting today, those who have lost a loved one or those praying for survival. God is with us, God will see us through to the other side. The other side of pain or the other side of this world. God is truly with us and for that, I am utterly thankful.
      Thank you for your words
      Sometimes the words just don’t come.
      In His love

  2. Mary, this is a wonderful reminder of God’s presence — so good to know that we never go through anything alone, no matter how hot the fire or how deep the water.

  3. Thank you! Exactly what I needed to hear this morning. Its been a rather trying week and one top of that my chronic illness is flared up. Thank you for the reminder that God is always with us.

  4. Thank you for this precious reminder that God is always with us. He is with us in the good times and the not so good times. He loves us and we are truly blessed by His love.

  5. I too love this very much! Thank you for the reminder that God is ALWAYS with us no matter what. I needed to hear this today. I need to believe this everyday!
    Be blessed!

  6. YES, Emmanuel, God With Us. We have to fight to keep this truth before us always. It is very hard though when life happens. Thank you for this sweet reminder.

  7. Hello
    I shared this on facebook because I believe May people need to hear this today. This is really a great post. Thank you for sharing it.
    Many people are dealing with so many trials including me and we all need to be reminded that He is with us.

  8. I wrote this quote in my journal, shared the post on FB, and text it to other friends. So perfect for me and so true. When I look back God has always been with me, from my birth and near death, through divorce, through the death of my husband, through loss of jobs, through financial struggles, through dealing with others addictions, and my own eye issues. He never fails! My Good Shepherd goes before me, preparing the way, watching over me, walking beside me, carrying me when necessary. I am so blessed today and I rejoice in His goodness and grace. thank you for sharing this with us all. May God bless your day and your gifts used for Him.

  9. I was reading John 4 today as part of the SRT study on John – this chapter includes the story of the woman at the well. Something that really struck me was that Jesus did no chase the woman. He simply met her in a place where she came every day. Her routine. Her responsibility. Mundane, daily work. Jesus came there.
    But he also met her in a place of desperation. Of pain. Of shame. In meeting her in her “here, now” he also met her in her darkest places.

    It is so comforting that God will meet us and be with us anywhere, in any season. Good or bad. Dry or abundant. Dark or light. Lonely or redeemed. He is still God and he is still good – and he is with us, always. Amen! Thank you for these beautiful words today!

  10. Not sure how I found you today but I am so thankful that I did. Thank you for encouraging words!

  11. A beautifully written reminder. Its so easy to forget about God when the pain of the world rears its ugly head. At least it is for me. Your words are timely and so appropriate for me today!

  12. The timing of this post is, of course, perfect. My husband and I left our home at Thanksgiving to be hospice care for my father-in-law in his home, 9 hours away. It is both a beautiful and a painful time. It is stressful. And I sometimes feel helpless and lost. But I am not, because I have God with us.

    He is here, He is with my daughter back home at her doctor’s appointment today, to discuss the mass they discovered in her abdomen. He holds us, holds her even when I cannot. I have peace because He brought it and continually brings it.

    Thank you for bringing it, from Him, to me yet again, through your obedience to Him in writing.


  13. Thank-you Mary for the touching reminder, “He Is with Us”, so comforting. I will be forever grateful for the countless times He’s been there for me.

    Prayers for your friend, I’m so sorry to hear of her loss.

  14. Emmanuel, God with us. I understand that we often feel we need to beg things from God. But we are not orphans, all we have to do is ask. I pray for these grieving people that God will give them a clear path over come it.

  15. Thank you for sharing the experiences you have gone through and reminding us that God is with us, no matter what we are going through in life. I have suffered with depression (as does one of my sisters) and have lost both my parents (who decided that suicide was the only way out) and it’s difficult to see the light at the end of the tunnel; but I have to trust God, as He is sovereign and as long as we can put our trust in Him and not let the enemy take over our thoughts with negativity – we can pull through. I have a loving husband he is supportive, and I thank God for that!

  16. God is so gracious, and frugal. He NEVER wastes our pain or challenges. Just as we are reassured in knowing He is always with us, we can also take comfort in knowing hurt helps us, or others, to grow. Thank you for your candor and encouragement.

  17. Thanks Mary for such timely words. ‘God with Us’ has been the recurring theme in my life these past few months, dealing with illnesses and diagnoses and recovery and prognosis for my sister and I. But through it all, He is still faithful, giving gentle whispers reminding me of His presence.

    Like you said, “Sometimes when we pray, when we beg God for answers or healing or provision or repentance, it seems as if His answer is “no.” Even when we know that answer may actually be “not yet” or “not this way,” the pain of this world can be brutal and impossible to bear. But even when the answers are not what we so desperately want, God is still with us. He may not give us our earthly desires, but He never walks away. He stays. He is with us”.

    Emmanuel. God with us.


  18. Beautiful reminder that Emmanuel isn’t for a season, but for a lifetime. So blessed…so grateful for His faithful presence.
    Thanks for sharing, Mary. ((hug)) Happy New Year!

  19. Such true words! Each Christmas, at my church, during Advent, we sing a simple little chorus called Emmanuel. A few of the words are: Emmanuel, Emmanuel, His Name is called Emmanuel. God with us, revealed in us, His name is called Emmanuel. I cherish this chorus and find it so comforting that I asked that we sing it at my Mother’s funeral service in2007, even though she died on Good Friday that year and was buried the day after Easter. To me, these are timeless words of comfort, that God is always with us. Thank you for your beautiful post.

  20. Mary,

    I have been through some rough times lately, and yet always God was there to see me through. There were times it felt like He wasn’t there and didn’t hear my prayers. All the while I knew He was there answering them in His way! This post reminded me of a song by Matthew West “Day After Christmas”. It states simply that even though Christmas is over the Light of the World is still here.

    Here comes the letdown Christmas is over
    Here comes the meltdown, there goes the cheer
    But before we have a breakdown, let us remember
    The light of the world is still here
    Happy day after Christmas
    And merry rest of the year
    Even when Christmas is over
    The light of the world is still here
    The light of the world
    Come January I’m ready for summer
    The Super Bowl’s over and I’ll settle for spring
    Sometimes we all need a change in the weather
    But it won’t change the reason we sing
    Happy day after Christmas
    And merry rest of the year
    Even when Christmas is over
    The light of the world is still here
    The light of the world
    The light of the world
    The light of the world
    So take down the stockings, take back the sweaters
    Take down the lights and the star and the tree
    But don’t let this world take your joy after Christmas
    Take joy to the world and just sing
    Happy day after Christmas
    And merry rest of the year
    Even when Christmas is over
    The light of the world is still here
    The light of the world is still here
    The light of the world
    The light of the world
    The light of the world
    The light of the world
    The light of the world
    The light of the world
    The light of the world

    Have a blessed 2017!! Blessings 🙂

  21. Hi Mary… I get these inCourage updates every day but I honestly rarely get them read…. tonight I was going through my unread emails from yesterday and today and the title of your post pulled at my heart strings and I felt the need to read this one (for the first time in months) – and then I discover… it was written by you… and then… there were words from Sara. What are the chances?? She is watching over me still and I love to feel her spirit around me. Thank you for this wonderful gift. As I was reading I remembered when my dad was killed in a car accident and I felt so abandoned and forsaken by God. Of course Sara pointed out all the ways that God was present that day… she made me understand that “God doesn’t want bad things to happen to us… but He’s the one that’s there to lift us up when they do.” Gosh I miss that girl. She taught me so much in her short life… Happy New Year Mary…

  22. Thank you, thank you, thank you! This could not be written more beautifully or come at a better time. Just opened my email this morning to news that one of my oldest and dearest friends’ cancer has returned. This lifted my heart and was a lovely reminder of what I know about God and His great love.

  23. Mary, this is beautiful and powerful. I know you don’t write these words lightly. There is something faith-building about hearing someone who has experienced hard things say that God is with us. Thankful for your words.