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Melissa Michaels is the NY Times Bestselling author of Love The Home You Have and The Inspired Room book. Her blog, The Inspired Room, was voted Better Homes & Gardens Readers' Favorite decorating blog in 2014 and 2015. Melissa is a church planter's wife and a mom to three human kids and...

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  1. Wow, that is me, always worried about the wrinkles and sags and aging ‘imperfections’ – I think to myself he must be disappointed. Yet, I have a husband who affirms me often, how easy it is, as you said to focus on the flaws. Thanks for the reminder…

    • So just like me!!! I am constantly avoiding the mirrors and when I do have to look at myself, I cringe. My daughter in law and others tell me that I have facial and body dismorfier, but I don’t like what I see. I have to remind myself that what’s on the inside is what is important. I know that I am a good person who sees the good in others, I am soft hearted and although I am human, I do my best to live the Christian life. Thank you for the positive outlook and for sharing your story.

  2. Thank you for sharing these precious thoughts. As a single woman with similar insecurities about “curves”, I need to constantly seek contentment in God’s affirmation and love for me – just the way I am. Online Christian dating has been devastating because of the barrage of rejection I feel as men pour over photos of “less curvy” women and decide who is worthy of their time based primarily on appearance. I am rarely chosen as desirable to get to know. Yet the Lord is teaching me contentment. How wonderful for those with loving husbands. Cherish your gift.

  3. Beautiful story. So reflective of most marriages, and even the way many barriers begin in relationships.. All in our imagination ! Thanks.

  4. When I start thinking about my flaws and how my husband might see me, I think of how I perceive him. I don’t see his flaws but the man who he is. All his good qualities, especially how he is inside is what I “see”. Then I realize that is how he sees me, since he doesn’t dwell on my flaws either.. even the ones inside. I am so blessed.

  5. Beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder. That why we should see Jesus as altogether lovely and look at ourselves the way He does.

  6. This does hold true. My husband has never told me I am gaining weight, when clearly I’d put on 30 lbs that winter!
    He has always told me I look fine, with my hair all over the place, and my makeup smeared from the night of sleeping in it!
    How God’s light shine through those examples in our marriage. Thank you♡

  7. Melissa,

    I have a tendency to put myself down easily. One mistake or misspoken word and I’m in a tizzy. To often I do the same with my hubby. I try to compliment him often. He does it with me. I will say “I’m fat”. He says I like you just the way you are. You are beautiful. Makes me feel good. Now I’m going to go compliment my wonderful hubby!

    Blessings 🙂

  8. I can totally relate to this Melissa, I often feel self-conscious about my ‘curves.’ I have sometimes thought that they might even be preventing me from meeting my ‘husband.’ Ultimately I know that this is a lie from the enemy, and that the man that the Lord has for me will love me for who I am!! Right now though, I’m learning to receive God’s love and see myself the way he does. I have realised how important it is not to compare ourselves to other women, and especially not to let the media define how I “should look.’

  9. As a plus size woman what makes me feel comfortable in my own skin is doing what I need to do to feel presentable, especially when I leave the house: clean hair, minimum of mascara, foundation and lip product and clothes that fit well (in other words not clingy). Years ago I had a woman tell me she could see my light shining and this was a woman I knew at church so she was seeing God in me and I try to carry that attitude no matter who I am dealing with in public.