I was checking out of the grocery store the other day, with my children, and the only thing going through my mind was the song, “I Will Survive.”
I couldn’t shake the song, so I finally looked at the woman standing behind me in line and said, “I will survive, that song? Should be every moms anthem.”
I was sweating, because, well, checking out with my three kids and it was that kind of grocery trip.
We made it to the car and all was well. But I still decided that day that “I Will Survive” is a mom’s anthem. At least those three words, because I’m pretty sure the rest is about love gone wrong. Or something like that.
What I’m saying is: Moms, you will survive.
Here are some tips to help you do just that.
5 Ways to Survive the First Few Years of Motherhood
(Based on the lyrics of “I Will Survive” by Gloria Gaynor. Yes, I realize the song is about a break up. Bear with me.)
At First I Was Afraid
If you’re afraid of how you’re going to get through the sleepless nights, the crying, the crazy, know this: you will, and you aren’t alone. Motherhood during the little years can make you go a little nutso. Totally normal. Just remember, it’s okay to feel afraid, even petrified. You are completely normal. Don’t let anyone make you feel badly for your honest emotions/fears/struggles. Motherhood is hard. You know what else it is? Of course you do. It’s amazing and beautiful and even in the trenches, it’s glorious.
As Long As I Know How to Love
We know how to love because He first loved us. You know how to love, so you just keep on lovin’ and cuddlin’ and smiling at those babies. Don’t try and do too much else. Let it go, if you can. Just sleep, eat, snuggle. It’s okay. It’s okay to just survive for awhile. What you’re doing day in and day out is exhausting. Love will help you persevere.
You’d Think I’d Lay Down and Die (Oh No, Not I)
I just can’t even do it. I can’t even. I. Can’t. Even.
I know. I’ve said those words, I’ve felt those feelings. I know. But.
I promise you’ll get through it. It will not always feel this desperate. One day, you’ll look back and breathe. But friend, do reach out. See if you can find someone to help you from time to time so you can get away, or get rest, or find some sanity. Don’t feel guilty for needing some help. God made us for each other, for community, and being alone can be dangerous. Reach out. Talk to your husband. Ask God.
Now I Hold My Head Up High
Eventually, you will gain confidence. Eventually, you will even sleep. I know! Isn’t that the best news ever?! For real though, you will, and it will be glorious. Hang in there. Also, all that motherhood guilt, let it go. Do your best, don’t get too neurotic, and know that your children think you are a rock star. I mean, you’re a mom, you’re kind of a big deal (as my friend Kat Lee says). Those babies, they grow up, and they even sleep in. You will get there.
I Will Survive
Sing it loud, sing it proud – “I will survive!!!” Just don’t sing too loud or you’ll wake up the baby.
Friend, you are in a long line of mothers; you stand in solidarity with those who have gone before you, who are all around you, and who will come after you. You are a beautiful legacy. Don’t you give up. What you do changes lives and impacts the world.
You are mother. Roar. Or, you know, snore. Because for real, you need your sleep.
Love, Sarah Mae, author of Desperate: Hope for the Mom Who Needs to Breathe
Related: It Doesn’t Help Anyone to Not Be Honest About Motherhood
This giveaway is now closed. The winner is Nelli Kalinyuk! Congrats!
Today I have three fun things for you just because I like you! And, well, because it’s the one-year anniversary of the release of Desperate: Hope for the Mom Who Needs to Breathe. 🙂
Up for grabs…
The Discipleship & Discipline: Practical Parenting Help for the Desperate Mom Course! This course was created with myself and Sally Clarkson and is in a Webinar (video teaching) format. You can read all about it HERE.
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Two copies of Desperate: Hope for the Mom Who Needs to Breathe – keep one and give one to a friend!
Thank you to everyone who commented! The randomly drawn winner is Comment #169: Nelli K!Leave a Comment
I feel so blessed by your posts, and subsequently your friend’s posts, that I stumbled across in total desperation a little over a year ago. Thank you for your love, guidance and totally relatable advice and inspiration! It’s making this journey called motherhood so much better! 🙂 I’d love to read your book – it’s on my wish list 😉 Thank you for shairing your wisdom with us! Be blessed!
I really needed to read that this morning. After a screaming temper tantrum and a walk/drag 4 yr old to school, I was feeling a bit battered as a mama this morning. I found the incourage website a year ago through a friend posting a link to an excerpt of your book Desperate. Over the last year I have been so helped by your writing and wise words. Incourage has become a daily touchpoint in my day to take a moment for my soul to rest. Thank you so much for what you do xx
Such a wonderful post to mamas of younger children. Quite encouraging!
Parenting truly never ends! The demands/needs do depending on the day. I have an adult (23) yrs old and an 15 year old. I can remember when I took my baths between 2am and 4am in the morning when the world was still and I could relax I still have intense moments but I call on Jesus immediately instead of trying to handle everything myself first and then when I can’t handle it anymore then call on him. The struggles have made me stronger and depend on God more! For that I’m sooooo thankful.
Bev Duncan @ Walking Well With God says
I believe that, in God’s eyes, mothers (especially those of young children) are precious beyond belief! What a high calling motherhood is so hold your head high and declare to the world, “I am a Mommy!” Also enjoy this time that your children see you as a “rock star”. These days will morph into ” Mom doesn’t know diddly”. But, take heart, that too will pass and one day, that seems like light years away, they will rise up and call you blessed. Wait upon the Lord and you will not only survive…you will shine! Thanks for a wonderful post!
Needed this message. Thanks!
loved the verse about God ‘gently leading those with young’ when my kiddos were 3 small ones. now they are all in grade school, and it is all smoother in lots of ways.
brittnie (A Joy Renewed) says
This post comes at just the right time for me! I have a 20 month old special needs daughter, and we will be welcoming our second daughter into our family next week! Needless to say, I have been a tad stressed about the change in dynamics that will soon happen, and wondering how in the world I will incorporate a newborn into my oldest daughters crazy/busy therapy schedule. Thank you for these important reminders to just let stuff go and be. And snuggle! 🙂
Jennifer Watkins says
Writing these words feverishly before a toddler wakes up….thank you for such an encouraging post. And, with a newborn on the way in four weeks (!), I’m sure I’ll be revisiting this article often in the wee hours with bloodshot eyes. 🙂
Several women I know just became first time moms. Thank you for this post. It articulates well what I have been trying to communicate with them. I’d love to give them your book.
Thank you for sharing this life-giving encouragement! I have two young children and can relate so well to your grocery shopping experience. Thank you for being authentic in your writing to encourage others…what a blessing. And moms, we will not only survive, but thrive as moms but we need the grace of God and lots of support. Thanks again!
Leslie S says
I needed to hear this today! My 3 yr old and my 20 month old havent slept in weeks and we’re preparing to move in the next few days. Then baby #3 will arrive shortly after 🙂 I’m tired! I gave up yesterday and just sat on the floor with them, building Legos for over an hour. Then we cuddled and watched movies. They were positively beaming by the time Daddy came home! Thank you for reminding us that its perfectly fine if all we can “do” in a day is love the little ones we’re blessed with.
This post made me laugh (the song lyrics!), and was such a good thing to read today. It is hard to not get “stuck in a rut” of feeling like we’re not going to survive, and then comes the mom guilt. Thanks for being another voice to rally us all with truth!
Thank you so much for the encouragement! Things lately have been a struggle. Two sons ( 3 1/2 and 9 months) who are amazing but a handful, a full time + job, and a husband who recently lost his job but refuses to do anything to help except watch the kids while I work – I am in the survival mode. Sometimes we all just need to be reminded that we will survive this. There is a end at the light of the tunnel. I have you book Desperate and can’t wait to read it!!
Thank you for your wisdom Sarah! We fellow moms appreciate you so much.
Oh how this makes me smile this morning, as my kids woke up at 5am!!! Going to be a long day, but I will survive!!
This was just what I needed this morning. You are so right! With 2 daughters ages 3 and 1 I know that often I just enter survival mode, but now I’ll try to play the song in my head to help me throught it! Thanks for all the encouragement you post.
Amanda Burt says
Even though I am out of the baby stage I am very much in the throws of the littles. This post was very encouraging for me. Thank you for that.
Great post, and so encouraging. I know I will be singing this song and be encouraged. It is funny that this wa your post since lately I have been singing the Yes, Lord song when I’m feeling beat down as a mom. Especially the, “beat down, but not destroyed” and “your joy is goin to be my strength”.
Love this! Thanks so much for sharing and the dose of encouragement! With twin 4 year old boys and “baby” boy who just turned 2 (but more like 3!)…this was a blessing to read!
Cute article! Love it! 🙂
Lauren Simms says
So needed this right now. Treading water trying not to sink the past few months.
Thanks for the encouragement!
Cassie D says
I really needed this article this morning. My hubby are entering the trenches of a place we never really prepared for. We have a friend that moved in with us. Her and her 5 beautiful girls. Twin 2 mo, 3 yo, twin 7 yo. Which in itself has been a crazy mess. Well the mom needs a bit of healing in all areas of her life so she is going to be taking time to do so away from her children. That leaves me in charge of those 5 girls plus our own 9 yo daughter and 16 yo son. Plus I provide childcare for a 3yo bundle of energy and spunk and a 14mo. I’m feeling tired right now and I haven’t even begun the sleepless nights with the twins yet because mom is still currently home but will be leaving on Friday. So thank you for these words of encouragement they are very helpful this morning.
With 3 kids and one on the way … Thanks for the encouragement/reminder. I fight the battle of wanting to keep house and get everything done, but I need to remember to let it go and just give my kiddos me/my time. And to relax and enjoy all these moments. Thanks!
Janet Ulrich says
I do remember those years! Now I’m in the throes of surviving the teenage years of my 3rd and 4th teenagers (2 done, and then 2 more to go).
Patty ottum says
Great article – and I know just who to send it to this morning! Would love to win the books so I can share one with this special friend!
Loved this article. I have to admit, my oldest is almost 5 and my youngest is 3 and I finally feel like I can breath again 🙂 I have been so thankful for this and have been sure to lend that extra helping hand to friends who are still in the baby days. My turn is coming again soon, as I have another little one expected to arrive in June 🙂
Thanks for your honesty. Desperate was so helpful to me if love to pass on the book to friends who are about to start their mommy journeys 🙂
I have been needing to hear these words for a long time! I am a mother to 2 wonderful girls with autism, and it’s so rewarding but also exhausting. Thank you Sarah Mae for your words of encouragement!
I am forever grateful for you and Sally to write ‘Desperate’. Changed my life! And now I am desperate for a new copy since I gave it away to a friend 🙂
I love the picture at the top, I saw it and was like “that will be ME!!” I have a almost 4yr old girl (very spicy I might add!! 🙂 ), 2yr old boy and another little many due to be born in April!
Blessings to you!!!
So so encouraging!!!!! I really appreciate you!
The title of this post really jumped out at me. As mom of two boys 3 & 1 sometimes surviving is all I hope to do each day! It is a reminder just to love them with His love. One day I will look back and miss these messy moments 🙂
I have two boys, ages 5 and 3, and our daughter is 2. Plus I work from home. Managing mommy hood, work, getting in my quiet time with God and being a loving wife are all too much for me to handle most days. I am “desperate” for sleep and encouragement. I am so thankful for your posts. We are starting up again with memorizing scripture.
Anna Radchenko says
Seriously. When I first read the end of this post, I thought you wanted us to write “Good ‘luck!'” as the comment… it was early, don’t judge.
We met at Allume at your book-signing table. You liked my hair. I wasn’t a mom yet, but desired to be and you signed my book anyways 🙂
I’m still not a mom, but that may change within the next couple of weeks, God-willing!
Even though I am not yet a mom, I know many young ladies in my church who are. I just visited one of my friends and her three-week-old beautiful girl.
If I win, I would love to pass along these gifts to some of the moms I know 🙂
This post as well as your post a little while ago about marriage were very encouraging. Sometimes just knowing someone else goes through it too makes things easier. Thank you for your honesty!
Melanie M. says
Wish I could have received this encouragement 8 months ago! 🙂 Nice to hear I’m not alone and “…now I hold my head up high!” and try to encourage others — sharing your posts is one way to do that! Thank you!
Thanks for the wonderful reminders!
I always try to remember “that this too will pass.”
Thank you for the reminder.
Brooke green says
Thank you Sarah Mae! Definitely an encouraging word I needed to hear today!
Dana Butler says
Appreciating this post this morning!! Rough mom-day with my 2 littles yesterday and was just laying here in bed wondering how I’m going to do it all again today. 🙂 thanks for the dose of perspective and grace. 🙂
Thank you for your words of encouragement. They have blessed me during this season of life.
I’ve been up with my son since 2:30am, it’s currently 5:15am. I need to be up an going in a few short short hours to school my oldest and kep the middle two occupied. This isn’t woe is me. Just saying, what a perfect post for my moment now.
Angela M says
Thank you!! I needed this. I have felt like I’m drowning with my three (ages 5, 2, and 3 weeks). Great reminder!
Thanks for your wise and relatable words! Even though my kids are now older, I still can use that advice of “eat, sleep, snuggle” because some days are just made for that.
Thanks for the encouragement!
Sonja Z says
Just needed this post today as I didn’t get a lot of sleep with 2 sick kiddos and a couple of bed changes last night! I will survive!0
Denise Lilly says
Creative writing and encouraging message! I’ve got to return to the doctors today – the place where my son threw himself on the floor in a tantrum a few months back. I will survive! 🙂
Thank you! I needed this post this morning.
What a wonderful reminder of God’s grace! I love the part about we know how to love because He first loved us! I am constantly questioning myself if I give enough love to my daughter. Loved this post. Thank you.
J S says
Such great stuff! Thanks for sharing!
Laura G says
I needed this this morning. I was up til 3am with my 7 month old and ” I Will Survive” is my theme song for today.
Thank you! I’m facing a third day of being snowed in today and I needed this! Maybe we will venture out to have that kind of grocery trip.
erica camacho says
I love this post and how amazingly relatable that song is! I will definitely share to pass along the encouragement!
Suzy Berryman says
I am always so encouraged by everything that you post. My husband and I are older parents of little ones and don’t really have many friends our age with children our age, so it sometimes I start feeling like I am all alone being a mommy. It is so nice to see your posts because it makes me feel like I am not completely alone in this parenting thing. Thank you so much!
I LOVE this! It’s so true!
Mandy Mom says
I love your humor! (And I sing those parts a lot, so I agree… It makes a good anthem!) I am over 40 weeks pregnant with my sixth and feeling pretty guilty about not being able to function normally with my kids, so this was a timely message!
Thanks for all you do to encourage us and for being “real” in front of so many.
Ahhhhhh loved this encouragement today:). Thank you thank you thank you!
Andi T. says
Thank you so, so much for this! Desperate is next on my list of books to buy / read… I needed this today – in the midst of my son’s high fever and just wanting to cuddle on the couch. I’m trying to remember things can wait and that we WILL get through this…
Oh man! I’m laughing. I’m crying. I needed this big time, today. Thank you!
This came at just the right time for me! Thank you
Christy Stroud says
Thanks for this post. It’s timely for me as a first time mom with a four week old. Today also happens to be the day my husband goes back to work so I’m on my own for the first time. I know I’ll get through this period & we’ll all survive!
Love this! I remember when my oldest child was a few months old, and I was completely overwhelmed. Another mom made a simple comment, “it’s ok to feel that way”, and that changed me forever. It’s tough, but with God, it’s possible! It’s only with Him that I can survive!
Michelle S says
Thank you! I am in that “survival mode” right now. We are going past 2 weeks of sickness, the nasty respiratory coughing kind and the last little one to get it is our 8 month old. She has RSV, yuck! Just when we think we will be getting a night of sleep, we don’t. We will survive though, we have before, it is just hard to see that in the thick of things.
Nicole stone says
This missionary momma needed that. As I didn’t sleep much last night 🙂 thank you. I will survive!!! Amen!
Thanks for the encouragement! With a newborn and a toddler, I genuinely appreciate perspective from those “on the other side” who have survived these early days.
Perfect read before I start my day with my 3 little loves. I will survive!
Your posts have really opened my eyes to a lot of things! Being a parent educator, I take a lot of your posts and turn it into reality for the families that I see. They enjoy my little posts from you!! 🙂
Fawn B. says
What a great perspective for moms of young ones and especially needed when we are desperately on edge and struggling to just. breathe. and. survive the day!
Heidi W. says
I’d love to win! great post!
WOW! Awesome. Its so refreshing to read something honest about motherhood.
Such a good reminder! I’m about to start our homeschool day so thanks for the encouragment!
Thanks so much for your encouraging words, especially for us moms who have non-sleeping kiddos and still have to get up and go to work the next day!
Great tips for new moms. I always say it takes a good 6 months to get adjusted, a year to start looking and acting like yourself again and a good 2 years before you feel like yourself and like you have things relatively under control. It is an adjustment but am amazing one. Thanks for all the encouragement!
Christina Burrell says
Sarah Mae, your blog is such an encouragement for me as a Mom. Thank you for your honesty and love.
I needed this post today! I have a 6 month old, and a 5 yr old and 3 yr old. I’m trying to work a part time (one hour a day) job, keep the house up, keep up w/ the kids school and work out….I’ve been needing some encouragement to realize the working out is not a priority right now…yes I want to be healthy, but this season in my life it’s just not that doable for fitting in workouts…I need sleep!!! Thanks for this!
Sarah Mae, Thank you for your words today. “I Will Survive” has been my anthem these past two weeks with my husband’s schedule. I love solidarity. Have a great day!
At 4 months pregnant and with a toddler pushing the boundaries, I so needed this encouragement!
Julie Sunne says
Sure wish I had this kind of encouragement, say, 18 years ago. 🙂 Young mothers, soak it in!
Amanda Robbins says
I needed to hear this today – thank you. I’m so glad I’ve discovered this source of support. A speaker at our church mother’s group mentioned Desperate as a good book and I’ve had it on my wish list. I’d love to read and maybe get together a small group for discussion. Thanks again for your message of hope to weary mommas.
Ashley Bodley says
Thank you, I needed this.
I’ve read the first few chapters of Desparate with tears rolling down my face. Thank you, for being so faithful, and writing this book for other mommies.
Beth B. says
Needed this today with my 3 under 5! Today is a new day, THANK GOD!
I will never think of the “I Will Survive” song in the same way again….and that’s a good thing! Thanks so much for your message this morning using the lyrics to that song. There are many days when I’m at that brink where the only thing I can say is that with God’s help, I will (my children will) all survive this day and then there is always tomorrow and the Lord’s mercies are new every morning…thank goodness! I’m trying to work on cherishing the beautiful moments more so that I don’t dwell as much on the tough ones. I’m also trying to work on getting rid of the mommy guilt too. So hard to do sometimes! Thank you again so much for your encouragement!
Good to know I’m “normal.” 🙂
Your articles are always a breath of fresh air as I wake each morning anxious at the day ahead with my two “wild ones”.
I would LOVE to win the Disciple and Discipline!!!! I have been wanting to order it but we don’t have the extra $$ at this time. I feel like I’ve read and tried every single approach out there, and nothing seems to be helping much. I could really use another resource!!!!
Missy June says
I would love to read these – need encouragement!
Love. I think I will just sit & cuddle my baby instead of putting her in her crib so that I can tend to laundry. I deserve enjoying this time with her….it helps me survive. Thanks!
I would love to win!
Sooooooo needed this today…
My hubby is a firefighter & is currently working a 48 hour shift… My oldest school has been delayed every day this week due to the weather… My youngest has been attached to my hip… Add to that the fact that I work a full time job in addition to my mommy job :-/
I just needed to hear “I WILL SURVIVE” today. Thanks!
Laura K says
I have a beautiful niece who has 4 boys ages 18 months (twins) to 5 years. Right now we have been taking care of my mother who is ill and she has been very stressed. I know she would love and benefit from reading your book! I would definitely say she is a survivor and lover of God!
Blessings to you…
Such an encouragement, thanks 🙂
Kirsten G. says
I definitely needed this! No one tells you how hard it is to be a Mom.
This was just what I needed to hear this morning. Thank you for sharing 🙂
Grace D says
I needed this when I woke up. Thanks! I still need your Desperate book and haven’t been able to get it yet.
Encouragement every mom needs
Stacie heisler says
Found you today through incourage… Thank you! I really needed this today! The webinar would be perfect, as I battle all day long with my extremely strong willed 5yo
I really needed to read that this morning. I’ve been feeling very inadequate lately when it comes to mothering. Mom guilt for not being able to play with my son more since I have a baby to take care of. And with a deployment looming in my future, i have a feeling that I will be singing that song quite often. Three Little Birds by Bob Marley also helps.
I needed to hear the part about being afraid of the sleepless nights. 🙂 My two year old has been a fairly good night sleeper most of his life, and that’s definitely the biggest thing that makes me feel anxious about number 2 coming in June! I love your reminder that “we love because he first loved us” means we know how to love. So just keep on doing it. And I know when that little person is finally in my arms I won’t have any trouble getting up for him or her! It’s just the anticipation of long nights that’s the hard part 🙂
P.S. This is kind of disjointed. (This baby is already interrupting sleep!) But thanks for your encouragement 🙂
Thank you for your post, much needed!
Christina Howell says
Thanks for the encouraging reminder! 🙂
Praying blessing for your ministry.
Thank you for this and thank you for writing Desperate. That book touched me deeply and led me to start a Bible study for other “Desperate” moms. They’re an amazing group of women who have been a huge blessing to me. Desperate, and the study group that came from it, have completely changed my approach to motherhood.
Love your perspective on things. I have been struggling with mommyhood and I needed this!
This is me. Cooped up for over 2 weeks with 2 sick kids feeling discouraged, overwhelmed and well, handcuffed to my house. Thanks for the reminder that I will survive. Take a deep breath and let myself receive the grace God has surrounded me with. Would love to win one of these giveaways!
Angela m says
As I read this, this morning, I was nursing my one month old, while my 16 month old swatted at me with a stick and trying to talk my 8 year old into going to School. I’m feeling overwhelmed and thinking how did I get myself into this crazy world of three boys, what was I thinking, what was God thinking?! Ok I’m tired and a little dramatic but seriously, your post could not be more timely for this Momma who is feeling utterly defeated and very alone. I will call a friend today though (one who will love me even though my sink is overflowing with dirty dishes and I’m wearing the same pajamas I wore all day yesterday) and have some tea, and let someone else hold this sweet one month old while I love on my toddler. Thank you so much for your wisdom and encouragement <3
I need this today. Thank you!
Heather Brown says
Cute! So true. I always have an urge to warn my first-time pregnant friends but I do t want to scare them.
Summer I. says
Great post. My son is turning 1 on Monday. Many things in the last year didn’t go how I had hoped but the love I have for my son is so much greater then any of that. He is a miracle and blessing to me.
Amen! Just love on those little ones and know that it will get easier. Good message!!!
ashley morris says
My little is 3, she still has a rough time sleeping through the night, and the potty training…why would you no
t care if you’re wet!.
And she loves to be underfoot when I’m cooking. I needed that reminder that she won’t be small for very long.
Elizabeth K says
I needed this today! I’m (usually) in “I will survive” mode these days…but three days into post-Christmas-break snow days, I’m just about to officially cross back into “You’d think I’d lay down and die.” Thank you for your words!
Jessica Aherin says
Thank you for the encouragement…hope I win! 🙂
thank God for your ministry blessing. i passed the link to my daughter-in-law who just gave birth to my 1st grandchild, a baby girl! She’s a preemie at less than 5lbs and just left the Neonatal ICU. Thank God for His many, many blessings including yours.
Rebekah F says
Thanks for your encouraging words.
Ha! Thanks a good laugh to start my day off. Good to be reminded that I’m a rock star!
Shannelle Falk says
After the last few weeks I’ve had, I really needed this! (By God’s grace alone) I will survive!! 🙂
I love this giveaway! I have read Desperate, but I know I will need to read it again soon as I am reentering the newborn years!
I’d love to win this!
Thanks for your encouraging words!
Sheila Jones says
I LOVE it and I will never hear the song the same again!! It is true, some days are simply survival, thankfully some moments when they just get out of the bath, are snuggled up in bed, when they first say I love you or draw you a picture…. you thrive too, makes the road worthwhile.
I have a few girlfriends just starting motherhood, this will be perfect for them to read. 🙂 Thank you for the inspiration!
Agreed! I’m still in my season of little ones. I have 3 too~! 4, 2, and a baby:) Things are fun and crazy around here. Some days are better than others… but one thing is certain. It changes every 15 minutes! So everytime things get a little crazy and I start to stress….. I just take a deep breath and say “In fifteen minutes everything will be different”…… Very similar to this season in our lives. It is fleeting and will be over before we know it!
Wow! Totally needed this today! Thank you!
I love this post and am forwarding it to my daughter, whose sweet, demanding baby is two months old. I’m entering this contest for my precious girl, who is a rockstar mom, although a very tired rockstar. Thanks for this opportunity!
Kristi D says
Desperation seems to trending right now. I thank you for this! xo
Michelle Grimes says
You always know just what I need to hear! Thanks for the encouragement!
Michelle Marquez says
Thanks for being an encourager to Moms everywhere and reminding us we aren’t alone!
The Lord always meets us where we are at! After the night I had with my 5 month and looking ahead at the crazy day I have with both kids. I NEEDED this encouragement! Thank you!
THANK YOU! 🙂 I am currently reading your book and really enjoying it.
Thank you for the gift of reminding me I’m normal and not alone. It’s so easy to feel like I’m the only one messing up and fumbling in this desperate place.
Becca holt says
A great reminder as I feel like a terrible failure of a mother every morning when my head hits the bed! Thank God for new mercies every morning!
I’d love to win this giveaway to bless two new mothers in our church! They both are very dear to me!!
Danielle Hull says
Love it! I lead a study of Desperate last summer; I wish more young moms would have come! My older kids provided the childcare, so I’m in that stage of having older helpers and little ones, which is exhausting yet hopeful 🙂 I’m still tired, of course!
The tears are streaming. Homeschool mom of 4, ages 8, 5, 3, and 6mos; all who seem to wake a little earlier every day, baby takes only short naps and is still mostly in my bed every night, and with -33 degrees with windchill, we’ve been cooped up together for days! A group of us young moms are soon starting this Bible study and I would so appreciate the book 🙂 Thank you for today’s post!
This was my experience yesterday, so funny! Thank you for your encouraging and REAL words:)
I love how real you are, Sarah Mae! Our little ones will grow up quicker than we realize.
Brandee Ratliff says
Oh, how fitting! I read this as I sit here on my bed nursing my 2-week old daughter…while my 3-year-old daughter climbs on and off the bed, giving baby and me and good shake with every move she makes. My 9-year-old daughter is standing in front of my full-length mirror performing and rearranging her pony tail every few minutes. I do good to sip my coffee with my free hand between shakes. I am reminded of the homeschool and housework that needs to happen and I quickly feel guilty and overwhelmed. Thanks for this gentle push to just let it be…to just nurse this baby and enjoy these girls. This season shall pass. I have the rest of my life to clean my house!
Marywhite griffith says
Your posts keep me going each week dear Sarah Mae, thank you!!!!!
I “survived” the first two years with a little one, and am expecting another in a few months. Sometimes I think I am crazy – why am I willingly going into those sleepless nights again? But then my daughter runs into the room and flings her tiny arms around me, and I know why. I remember trying to wish away that first exhausting year – now I wish I could take it back because they grow up sooooo fast!
Thanks for the encouragement!
Thank you for this! I SO remember these days with 4 little ones under the age of 6. I never thought I’d sleep again…but you’re right, I finally do! Thank you for the encouragement and the blessing you are to me!! 🙂
nicole Schink says
This post spoke deeply to me. The reminder that “this to shall pass” and I will survive. I am currently shepherding the heart of a very strong willed 17 month old and looking forward to welcoming his little brother into our family in April. Thank you for the encouragement. ♥
Sarah B. says
So there right now!! Two littles with a new baby on the way makes for a very frazzled mama!! Yesterday we took the day off to just rest, snuggle, and play and it was wonderful. Thank you for your encouragement!!
Becky Mazurek says
I am the GrandMom now but ohhhhh how I remember these same struggles. I have two brand new grand baby girls and my children were born very close together. Love the perspective, community sharing, honesty and support. I am passin this wisdom on to my girls and to the young beautiful moms that I know. God bless your journey.
I definitely needed to read something like this today. It has been a very hard, exhausting few weeks with my two year old son. There have been so many moments where I just wanted to crawl into a ball under the covers and cry because I didn’t know what else to do. Thank you for your sharing your honest feelings.
erin m says
Love this! If I had been behind you in the store, I would have smiled and given you a high five, too. 🙂
Would love to read the book!!!
Helen G. says
This would be a great gift to a good friend! Thanks!
Thank you for your insight and encouraging words. They blessed me today.
I, too, will survive.
I discovered your blog through a FB post. “Maybe your two year old just needs you.” Your posting was spot on with where the Holy Spirit had been working in my heart. I too have 3 children, 5,3, and 1 1/2. And most days my mantra is “I will Survive!” I loaded “Desperate” to my Kindle 2 days ago and am soooo thankful for the book, encouraging mom blogs, and the every present help of my heavenly Father.
Anna D. says
Thank you and amen! 🙂
Amber Housley says
This is so timely as I have a one week old baby in my arms. 🙂
Thank you for such a great reminder! Someday I’ll do more than just “survive,” but for now, it helps to remember that I’m doing the best I can, and it’s enough. 🙂
Kelly H. says
Thanks so much! we need all the encouragement we can get!
Thanks for the encouragement! And for the chuckle! 🙂
Thank you for the inspiration and a catchy tune to sing it! I will survive!
So true! It’s crazy how hard it can seem some days, just to survive the day until bedtime. But I do, and I will! Love the encouragement.
Thanks for this post. I’m the mom of a wonderful (wld) 3 year old with another on the way and sometimes I wonder how I am going to do it 🙂
Michelle v says
What great words of encouragement!
I am now a grandmother of 19 and great grandmother of 2. How I remember those times, I had 5 birth children and acquired a few more along the way and was a truck drivers wife and than divorced. So much on my own. I remember calling an older women whose children were grown and asking her if I could runaway. She was quite (I know reflecting) and than she said no softly. I carried on. Thank you for sharing and being honest with your feelings and circumstances. It helps to see you are not alone.
Man, I needed this…I have a three year old and a two month old and they are my world. They are my joy and my irritation (I can’t believe I just wrote that thought out!), and I love them more than my life…But sometimes……Man, sometimes when I’m going on no sleep and my husband can’t help because he has to go to work in the AM or get some semblance of sleep so that he can go to his retail management job without killing everyone, I just think, “God, why did you pick me to do this? I’m not fit – I. Can’t. DO. THIS.” That melt down lasts until I sleep (That night, funny how God works, huh?) and then I realize that…God is God. He doesn’t make mistakes. But the Mommy Guilt is even harder to deal with! I almost never – if I had to put it to a percentage, I would say 98% – go anywhere without my kids. I feel like I’m taking some piece of joy away from them if I don’t include them. And I, so often, feel like I need to conquer this/do it on my own/be super woman/super mom. Like I’m a bad mom for asking someone to watch my kids for an hour so that I can just sit………Somewhere else. In peace. In quiet. Without a baby at my breast and a toddler yelling for my attention. Because having kids is giving attention, right? 100% of the time…No time for Mom until the kids are grown and out of the house, right?? That thought creeps into my head A LOT. A few friends have been reaching out to me to say they’d watch my kids for an hour, and I have a hard time taking them up on that. SO, thank you for this….This to shall pass…I have a savior that died on the cross to give me LIFE, not so that I can sit in self shame and half neurotic from no sleep and refusing a time of refreshing for myself….LIFE….Thank you.
Entering for my daughter who is 2 weeks away from having her first children…twin girls.
thank you for this encouraging post! now off to get some guiltless sleep after working a night shift 🙂
Thank you, thank you! Perfect words for this mama and many others.
As a soon-to-be foster mom, and the unique set of challenges it will present, I find myself worrying about how I will “do it all” as I will also be working part-time (at least that’s the plan right now!), but I know this ministry is what God is calling my husband and I to do….This post is balm to my heart today. Thank you!
Thank you for the encouragement! Very much appreciated for those with young children.
Nelli k says
This was so encouraging and beautifully said! Thank you for sharing… Motherhood I’m learning is embracing the seasons and learn to live in a lot of grace 🙂
Angela Yost says
I can so relate to this song “I will survive” as my anthem or mantra. My husband works afternoons/evenings and a lot of times I just need to get out of the house or run errands…and it is me with 4 children 6 and under. Being outnumbered by little people can be crazy! Thank you for reminding me to breathe, that it will be okay…that I will survive! If I ever meet you in person I will give you a big hug for speaking the things that many don’t dare let others know they go through or struggle with. I may just break out in song the next time I am at the checkout lane and the kids are having one of “those” kind of days. 🙂
Brenda F says
Thank you so much for speaking the truth in love. Mom’s need to hear this! Shout it from the roof tops!!! 🙂
Ali H says
Ah, it’s nice to know I’m not alone…..I figure if we’re all fed, clothed, and alive by the end of the day sometimes that’s all I can ask for. Thanks for the encouragement….keep it coming!
Chelsea Green says
Amen! I needed a good reminder as I sit here nursing my third baby for the millionth time today. I’ve also been reading your book- so uplifting!
You are right! I will survive is a great mother’s anthem! I would have smiled and agreed with you if I was in that checkout line. 😉
I have gotten past the sleepless nights, for the most part. My wild child is now 10 years old. The surviving part gets past the sleeplessness, but then takes on different forms. A mother’s stress never ends. 🙂
Thanks for writing this book and thanks for the chance to win.
Amanda S. says
Man, I need this after the terrible morning I had… full of anger, yelling, and tears from everyone. Printing this for my bulletin board at work. Thank you!
“Motherhood is hard. You know what else it is? Of course you do. It’s amazing and beautiful and even in the trenches, it’s glorious.”
I so needed that right now.
Great post!! I loved and enjoyed it!
kathy cleaver says
Being the mother of three grown children and (grandmother)/mother to a three year old and thirteen year old, these words still encourage me. Wonderful post – I relish reading your posts every day.
Amazing how posts like this show up, right when I need them. I need to get the book and read it again ASAP!
thx for ur encouragement!!
loved it. i did survive.. when i thought i couldn’t…at my most desperate mom moment, God showed me his heart, and the love of a parent… His grace and mercy got me thru.. once i told God how unfair he was.. he had no teenagers… i think he got a chuckle… i have some great memories of what God brought me through as a married mother doing single parenting! My kids are now my best friends! Thank you for your post! – a survivor in Michigan
Me. me, me!!!
Great encouragement to this mama!
I love some girl time. Thanks for this.
As a Mom who is currently struggling through food allergies along with all the other behaviors of a 5 and 3 yr old, I can feel so desperate at times. Like I am gasping for air or one split second of peace. Thank you for writing this book and I look forward to reading it!
Heidi K says
Love this! We moms can do this!
After being up every hour last night with my two babies, this post was very encouraging this morning. Thanks so much for sharing all you do with us!
I would love to win!
Jennifer M says
I love the book Desperate. I often find myself going back to reread so many parts when I feel Desperate. Love the encouragement. The little years are tough but worth it!
I’m four weeks away from having my first child – thank you for encouraging words when my perspective of the mountain ahead looks so daunting!
Fantastic analogy!!! With the increased incidents of mothers’ harming themselves and/or their children, mother’s need all the encouragement, real concern & support they can get…grounded in faith but very honest about the day in-day out exhausting routine. I would have smiled at you and sung along!!!!!! 🙂
Chrissy O. says
As a mom of four children, three of them being under the age of 5, this post was much needed and very encouraging. Thank you!
Thanks for the daily encouragement you bring me.
Bluebonnet B says
HaHa! This totally cracked me up because I ACTUALLY did used to sing that song when both my boys were itty bitty. Although it has gotten a wee bit easier, I still find myself singing ‘I Will Survie!” and you know what; we will. Thanks so much for you post today!
Love to win!
As an empty-nester, I look at these sweet blogs and wonder where all this great advice was when I was mothering and working and wife-ing and paddling upstream fighting to survive! But, I also know that this time was my greatest accomplishment as a mom as well as pursuer of Christ. I am now blessed to be a mentor to a couple young women who think I have some wisdom to share with them and these resources will be wonderful to share.
In all my God-given wisdom, let me reiterate “YOU WILL SURVIVE”!!!
Summer Nicole says
I am in a house full of sickies today (including myself) and it’s hard not to want somebody to come and take care of me, make me soup, and all that. But today that is not an option. I do, however, have an opportunity to instill love and care into the other sickies in my home as we snuggle together and get through this day. I had to laugh when I saw your post as I am having an “I will survive” kind of day. Thanks for the encouragement. Much needed and some good laughs!
Motherhood is all the things you said and more. I am blessed to have raised three boys which have grown into amazing men. Their children’s mothers are also amazing mothers and women. God has blessed me to be part of the process and to see the cycle continue with me grandchildren. Thank you God.
I loved this post! I have had that very song/anthem go through my head: I Will Survive! I also know that I will survive because I trust God to get me through it all and there have been so many moms before me! I plan to share this post with other moms I know. Thanks for your encouragement and the giveaway opportunity!
Loved this message on motherhood! It is so wonderful. I am out of the sleepless years and it seems like forever ago. God give you that ability to forget. Motherhood is the greatest gift!
Thanks for this giveaway – now that the holidays are over, I think so many moms will just be exhausted (even more than usual!) and will be in need of this type of encouragement. Wonderful timing!
Thanks for sharing this today! So what I needed!
I have 3 kids and I can attest to the truth of some days it’s pure survival mode! My kids never slept thru the night and would always be awake and ready to face the day at 4:30am! Yikes! Some days I thought it’d never make it to the end of the day. And I thought I would never sleep again haha. But my kids are older now (youngest is 5) and all are sleeping thru the night and sleeping in!! hallelujah! so for those moms who are in the early stages, trust me, there really is a light at the end of the tunnel and it includes your warm bed for sleeping 🙂 would love to win your book Sarah Mae!!
Thank you for this post, and for the giveaway. I would love, love, love to read your book! I checked with my library system and they don’t carry it 🙁 I feel like I’m just barely surviving.
I really needed this encouragement today. I have a four year old and a four month old and our lives stay pretty hectic. I try to remember everything is a season and one day I will laugh about our crazy times.
Thanks for the encouragement! No matter the age of the child(ren), we all need to remember that “We Will Survive”! God Bless! Thanks again!
Hi! Mother of 6 here (ages 10,6,3,2,1,and 1 month)! I love this post!
Joy C. says
A baby with colic + 3 kiddos = survival. I would love to get to thriving though =) Thanks for the giveaway!
thanks for the much needed encouragement!
I will survive. Thanks! 🙂
I am a young mother of a 3 yr old and 7 month old…. This book has saved my life, literally! I thank God everyday for my blessings and pray that I live a long life to serve him, my family, and my communty!
Sounds like a book I should be reading… 🙂 Thank you for the suggestion!
Jessica Daggett says
I SO appreciate your heart! Thank you for the reminders that it’s okay to feel crazy sometimes.
My motto has always been,”You’ve got to laugh, or you’ll just end up crying… A LOT” 🙂
Thank you, thank you, thank you!
Ha! Thank you for this post! It will be my new mantra!
Thank you so much for this. I could not have read this at a better time!
Thank you for this post. I have felt the tug and pull of so many other ‘obligations’ in the ‘little’ years that I’m afraid I’ve lost some moments with my little ones. its never too late to start, right?
More cuddles and more ‘no’ to the things that someone else can do. I’m the only Mom to these beautiful kids God has given into my care.
Jezz Kay says
Grateful for the post! It was very encouraging for us moms! Learning and growing to be a mom is a huge blessing. We have many hard moments and are so desperate for The Lord when things are seeming overwhelming which is quite often for me. Please keep up the encouragement it helps in this fight. – God bless!
I love this analogy!! And I would love to share your book with 3 of my 4 daughters who are raising their own families!! Thank you!!
Denise Jordan says
I’m fairly new here and I’m so thankful for finding you. Your website is a joy to read and I know I will be welcomed into the fold of your readers because we see Christ in you and others responsible for the content. I’m a grandmother and I have a daughter and her husband and a daughter- in- law and our son who would be so grateful to receive these. They both have young children and could use encouragement and the good ideas in these. You know, a mother and grandmother can only give so much advice, but books can always speak! Thank you for offering these to be won by a few blessed women 🙂
This was EXACTLY what I needed today. I have a 2 week old and a 21 month old, and I feel like all I’m doing is surviving. I can’t even think about anything other than the next feeding or nap time. I’m exhausted, and frustrated, half the time.
THANK YOU for this post!
Sounds like a great read.
These are so totally true, but for some reason so hard to remember when you’re in those hard moments.
This would be such a blessing right now!
Timely. Yesterday I was concluding I am not cut out to be at home full time… Still trying to overcome PTSD and its effects… And be supermom to our 3. So glad I ran across this post today. Thank you for putting into words what so many need to hear!
You are right!
This was a fun one to read. 🙂 I’m smiling!
Thank you so much for the encouragement! It’s all so true, but we need to hear it often and be reminded . . . especially on the hard days. 🙂
Thank you! I’ll spare y’all the details but just had a horrible time and felt so discouraged!! Sometimes the demands seem too much and too hard. I end up feeling like I’ll never make it and then GUILT! Its a constant cycle and sometimes it feels endless and hopeless! Gotta persevere right? Again thanks for the reminder! 🙂
Today, I needed this!
I absolutely loved your post! I saved it to my computer to pass along to my friends and family new or soon to be new Moms. I’m a SAHM to two boys ages 8 & 10. When my boys where 2 and 4 God answered a prayer and sent me a very dear friend who became the encourager and one person who I could turn to with how I was feeling as a Mom and she taught me it was okay and normal what I was feeling and to turn to God cause he would bring me through. Your post does the same thing and I know it will be great a blessing for so many Moms. God Bless you for your honesty about Motherhood!
Thank you so much for your encouraging words! They are so true! I have six children ages 2 – 10, so I can attest to it! And thank you offering the giveaways!
Malynn Percy says
Thank you for sharing this today. I have a 3 year old (this one is mine) and three older children ( one 8,9 and 15 that I consider mine but we are sheltering them). Not just trips to the store but everyday in our home it is like this. i have tried all the methods I know to cope it takes more than what I have. God is showing me to just start praying and if I can’t cope ask them to go to their rooms and give me 5 minutes. Which honestly ends up being like two because they all ask can we come out now. If it were not for the help of our entire church body whom are edifying the Lords word and practicing that fact that it takes a village to raise a child I would be lost. I am very thankful for this reminder today to that I don’t have to be perfect and that mistakes will happen. May the Lord bless you today and continue pouring out his favor and anointing upon you. 🙂
Natasha Grimes says
Motherhood is never easy but so worth every minute! Great giveaway!
Loved this. Very encouraging. Thanks.
Sarah Bredemeyer says
This would be a perfect gift to win to give to a sweet friend of mine who is struggling with being a new mommy. A great way to fellowship with her and help her to grow in her new role!
Tami Lewis says
Here is my comment! Thanks for the chance to win some encouragement!
Thank you so much for your wisdom and encouragement. Your cheerfulness is contagious. God has certainly used you and I am so grateful!
Becky J says
Oh, yes…what a gift mothering is….there was no Christian peer support close by 20+ years ago when I began raising my family and godly books were my mainstay! My hubby and I are enjoying the fruit of that hard labor with our beautiful 3 children ages 21, 18 and 14…they are treasures!! God bless all you Mommas!!
Lisa K. says
I really needed this message today! I feel like I want to embrace the age that my children are at right now (5 & 2) but all I can do somedays is survive! Thank you for this uplifting message!
As always, you’re speaking to my heart! Thanks so much!
Stephanie O says
Love this – thank you for your inspiration!
love this and your honesty! thank you for that encouragement and affirmation that this stage is hard but glorious all at the same time. my focus this year is rest, rest in God’s grace, not just for others but for me, meaning slow down, just be with my kids and do the best I can, covered in grace each day!
Thank-you Sarah Mae! These are valuable, refreshing tips! May the Lord richly bless you as you continue to bless others! Heather
Thank you! I’ve been encouraged by this post and many others I’ve read on your blog:) if I don’t win a copy of “desperate” I plan on ordering it soon! I have to gear up for a grocery trip with my 3 littles later this afternoon;)
Thank you so much for these encouraging words! With a very spirited, high energy 3 yr old and very badly wanting to grow our family this just brought tears to my eyes. The fear of not sleeping again, possibly having another colicky baby, and figuring out how to manage 2 is overwhelming. And your advice of asking for help and not feeling guilty, I needed to hear that. So encouraging to remember we are not alone.
Oh my thank you thank you thank you. I have a 19 month old and one on the way and I sit and wonder how I will survive this next time around. This puts things into perspective very much. Thank you so much.
I needed this! I’ve had 8 straight days of a sick 2 year old and then sick myself at 38 weeks pregnant! I will survive! And I know I will get through this, but it has been rough. And I know I am in for even less sleep in a couple weeks. 🙂
Lindsey Bell says
What a great giveaway! I would love to be entered. Thank you for the opportunity:)
I’ve been parenting for 13 years-11 of them as a widowed mom. Every single thing you said is so true, and still applies when you are parenting a teen!
ESL Joy says
I’m in the midst of those little years right now. Sometimes I think of my mom, and wonder how she did it all with the 5 of us . . . or at my grandma with 8 children in 7 years (3 sets of twins). I admire them all the more.
This is so great! And so where I’m at right now. 🙂 I have 3 ages 5 and under and while about half of the time is beautiful, the other half is, well,…not. I read Desperate and loved it.
Katrina Lewis says
Oh I so needed this! I can’t even begin to tell you how much I needed this right now. Thank you!
Your book is so needed in this crazy world – Thank you for the chance to win! And thanks for all your encouragement!
Becky from Purposeful Homemaking says
Would love to share these resources with my mom’s group!
Great blog post! Would love to read your book 🙂
kk @ the mom diggity says
Love this!! Being in the thickest thick of it is hard, but we will survive!!! 🙂 Thanks for this amazing reminder!
Mary Beth says
I was in these “little” years almost 50 years ago. You know what, young moms? You will survive those years, and as your children grow, you will see the fruits of mothering them well. Then there will be grandchildren to love and snuggle and teach. At this point I wish I saw them all a whole lot more, but none live in the same state as I do, so it’s hard. At times, I miss their bodily presence so badly, that it hurts my heart. But I thank God for phone calls, email, texting, and Facebook, because, with these, I can be in daily contact. Here’s something for everyone from an unknown author: “On particularly rough days when I’m sure I can’t possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far, is 100% and that’s pretty good.”
Thank you, Sarah, for your encouragement and your honesty about motherhood! Desperate is one of my favorite books. I have gifted several copies to my MOPS friends. You are such a blessing!
Jo Lance says
I would love to win those books. With a 3 year old and a 9 week old, I definitely need to breathe!
Shaloma Allen says
I have 3 kids 5, 3 and 1. I’m pregnant with number 4!! This one was planned and is already such a blessing, but I have been terrified about having three young kids and a newborn. I WILL survive. Thank you for the encouragement. Children are such beautiful and wonderful blessings from God. I can’t wait to meet this one.
Being one the other side, with a daughter some would call a tween(!) I still need to breathe & sometimes feel as if I haven’t taken a breathe…all this time – is that even possible? Thanks for the opportunity.
Amanda Hearndon says
Definitely needed this reminder today! Thank you!
Michelle R says
Thanks for the encouragement. I needed it today!
Joyce H. says
I loved reading the “5 Ways to Survive the First Few Years of Motherhood”. Seems really important because one of my good friends, her daughter who is almost 20, is pregnant. They have been bickering back and forth about the responsibilities of raising a child. Mom is worried that the daughter is not responsible enough to take care of a baby. If I happen to get chose for the books, I am giving a copy to the my friend and her pregnant daughter. I hope they realize that a baby is a gift from God even when the circumstances might not be right. Thank you!
Thanks for the awesome encouragement!!
Courtney Schreiner says
I would love this. I’m right in the middle of reading your book and find all of it so fitting, but also refreshing to know others have struggled like I am.
Thank you!! Like I have said before, I no longer feel so alone. I do struggle a ton with motherhood guilt and it is hard to let go. I need to give myself a little bit more grace. How I much I would love to win this!! big sigh…
Thank you its nice to know im not alone or crazy!! 🙂
Your stories / information / writing are so wonderful. They really helped me when I was feeling lost / alone / lonely … thank you. Thank you for your honesty. Thank you for your authenticity. Thank you for speaking to my soul.
I am a single mom to an amazing 3 year old boy who has single handedly changed my life (for the better) and I would not change a thing. Except maybe sleep. I would like more sleep 😉
I need some direction with discipline … I don’t want to be like my parents …
Again, thank you
Christina Kelly says
A word of encouragement. Thank you!
This was a good read for me as we have our first baby on the way! I am filled with mixed emotions of excitement and nervousness.
I love this! So encouraging….and I definitely will be thinking about this post next time I hear “I Will Survive” 🙂 Thank you for the giveaway!
Carrie Everett says
Thank you for your encouragement always! Your words are always so helpful to me and my soul!
I won’t be able to hear that song the same way again! Thank you for the encouragement, the humor, permission to feel overwhelmed at times, and a tiny bit of space to breathe. 🙂
Would LOVE to win this book! What a great giveaway!!!Thanks!
I will survive! I think this is an important thing for Moms to hear. Then I think you also have to remind us that it is important to LIVE and ENJOY as you survive ~ it makes life soo much better when you truly see the blessing of each day from the Lord.
We all will survive! Great reminder today! As a mom to 3 little ones I know I will sleep again and I will miss these midnight cuddles! The days are long but the years are short!
Dana Foster says
I would love to have the Desperate Mom’s Course for our Mom’s Group!! I’ve been reading the book and really enjoying it!!
Loved this! I have four young children 3 of whom I homeschool. So this was super encouraging! My youngest two are wild children, and there are times when I go to the store at 11pm because I know if I go with them earlier in the day it will be “one of those trips to the store”.
Julia Hutson says
i just love your blog. you have no idea how much we have this raising children thing in common. you encourage me so much. thank you.
I can totally relate to the grocery store scenario! I feel like I pray myself through the shopping each week:) Thanks!
Surviving here!! 7 weeks and just-turned-3… it’s an adventure every day. An exhausting adventure. And I’m pretty sure naptime just ended.
Thank you so much for this wonderful article! I am a first time mom to a beautiful 9 month old baby boy. I have passed it along to my other new mom friends… and possibly my husband who is a stay at home dad.
Tessa McKnight says
Thanks for hosting this giveaway!!
Thank you, Sarah Mae for all the encouraging posts! It was really helpful for me to discover your website a while ago, and realize that is normal to be a “desperate mom”. 🙂 I just feel that I have more strength after reading your posts! May God bless you!
Just the encouragement I needed today! Thank you!
Cheryl / Mimi says
I just wish I had this book to share with my daughter who has two little ones and is still waiting to sleep… after three years! thanks for sharing!
Kristy Harris says
Thank you for your wonderful website – such encouraging messages and it is great to able to get words of inspiration!!!!! THANK-YOU!!!!
I will survive – thank you for the reminder!
Janette McLaughlin says
I read Desparate just about exactly as soon as it was released on Kindle. When my wild and wholly daughter was a younger toddler I was truly desperate. Read a majority of the book whilst sitting outside her bedroom door during “naptime”, which was more of tear-off-diaper-poop-in-crib time. Yep. I have that strong-willed, marvously spirited little girl. She is beautiful, funny, and strong. God’s girl. Thanks for being part of my journey as a new mom. And now I have the privilege of minstering to other moms in my church’s mommy group. I would love to host a book group with this book, or at least encourage another mom who is feeling desperate.
Motherhood is such an incredible gift! Thanks for the post:))
Thanks for the post:))
What an encouragement your ministry is to my life! Keep going, never give up!
Anna walmsley says
Thanks for this post. I have just learned the hard way to get help, and so today I read this post and write this comment child free. We live in remote australia where there is little reprieve from the day to day of kids so Thankyou for this post, I will survive with ring out in arnhem land
Heather R says
Loved Desperate! Life changing.
You have no idea how badly I needed to read this today. My daughter just turned 8 months old–and I just started a new job–and lost my best friend of almost 14 years (my dog,Macy) just before Christmas. And, yes, I know my life sounds like a country song. I would LOVE to (have time to) read your book. Just breathe…right? Love this community of women and blessed to have found you! Thank you!
Are you my next door neighbor writing this post about my life? lol
Thanks for the reminders.
I so needed to hear this. I have 2 boys under 4 with autism and some days it can be so difficult and challenging, it’s hard to breathe. Neither have slept well since the day they were born, so sleep deprivation is part of my life, some days it’s auto pilot mode and some days it’s so rewarding to see them grow and learn and absorb like little sponges. I know that Christ is ever present thru all my good and hard days and this gives me peace.
Thanks for this post! I am very much in the “I will survive” stage. I have almost 3 year old twins and a 5 month old. Each day is yup, just that, surviving… well and doing my best to love and cuddle my adorable kids. It is definitely a challenge and I appreciate your words that let me know I’m not alone. In fact it seems there are many of us out there! 🙂 We will survive!!!
Shelley quiroz says
The other week my husband asked me if I did the grocery shopping. I replied that yes it got done, but we barely survived ( my two year old was making loud shrieks just for fun, my 6 year old whined and provoked said 2 year old, and I had to jiggle my newborn in the carrier to keep her from crying ). His response was “Good!” “Good that we barely survived?” I asked. “No. Good that you got the grocery shopping done.” You know what? That is what matters, do what needs to be done even when things don’t go perfectly. The day will come to an end and the little years will be gone much too soon and we will be left with only memories of footed pj’s and sticky kisses.
Rachelle Lozano says
We WILL Survive!
Laurie W says
I checked out “Desperate” from the library and would LOVE to own a copy. And I totally need your seminar!
Thankful He is there in abundance even when we are simply in survival-mode.
Thank you for this…I need to read this probably every.single.day. I found your site from themoneysavingmom.com and instantly “liked” you on FB as well as subscribed to get your blog updates! Sometimes (no…all the time) it is so nice to know that we aren’t crazy and that we shouldn’t feel guilty for being so exhausted ALL the time :/ and frustrated with that exhaustion. Your words are incredibly encouraging! Thank you again and God bless!
I’m not a mom yet, but I hope God will bless our family with a baby soon and I’m sure it will be hard at times, but I can’t wait for the blessings!
I love your encouragement! And… realness as a mother. Dreaming of sleep 🙂 zzzz…
Just what I needed after 2+ hours of trying to get my 3 children to sleep while Dad is working night shift. We will survive! Thank you!
Boy, I sure needed to hear those words of encouragement, thank you for your blog. Alas, I feel a sense of relief knowing that I am not the only first time mom going through these emotions. Truly enjoyed your honesty about motherhood and its multi-faceted challenges, gives me hope that I can bear all things with the strengh of God.
Ronda Shelman says
This is so true !! as a” empty nest mother ” I can testify the truth in this I have SURVIVED even when I dint think I (or they ) would !! I now can encourage others and wait on GRANDCHILDREN !!! Thanks for your encouragement to moms everywhere .
I needed to hear this today. The first two years have been rough (my son’s 2.5), but we have come a long way! We’re expecting baby #2, and I’m trying to prepare myself (& not get “sucked down” in the meantime!). Thank you – thank you!
Teresa Gumap-as Dumadag says
Thank you for this post! It’s so timely for me. I have two small kids, one is still breastfeeding on demand and the other tandem feeds with his younger brother at night. Today is one of those days when I also believe that I Will Survive is a song that I should sing. 🙂 Great reminder!
Thank you for this post today! I so needed to read this!
Surviving… that’s a great goal.
Neisha Teer says
As a homeschooling Mom of 4, many days I am in survival mode wondering how to do this without wishing it would pass quickly! Thank you for the reminder that it does pass and there is no need to wish it would!
April R. says
Thank you Sarah Mae for your words. You have been a HUGE help this past year teaching me what motherhood is all about. THANK YOU! <>
Jen L. says
I needed to be reminded of this tonight! Thank you for the encouragement!
Jessica W says
Thank you for your transparency in your posts. They are always so encouraging and always leave me inspired to be a better mom and wife…. <3
Glad I stumbled on your blog. Great post, and reminder for me to pause and enjoy my girls. Sleep, eat, and snuggle sounds perfect!
Jessica Robinson says
Thank you so much! This is exactly where I am!
Thank you for being so real & so encouraging.
Even as a “Grammie”, how well I remember those feelings. I’ve always tried to be available to help my children with my grandchildren even if it wasn’t convenient. I truly love spending time with the grand kids even though I’m exhausted most times when they go. I think God intended for families to help each other, even our neighbors. I once kept the baby of a much younger co-worker, whose parents lived in another state, so that she and her husband could eat out together. Believe me I truly had the greatest blessing.
Just what I needed this morning! Thanks!
I will survive! Thanks for this post:)
Malisa Price says
Would love to win. What an encouraging post
Elizabeth S says
“I will survive …” Particularly appropriate when you’ve been housebound with littles during the snow – even too cold to let them work the energy off outside! One moment at a time, we will survive 🙂
Thanks for this post! Children are a gift from The Lord! WOW!!! INCREDIBLE…
Soon to be a mom of 3 little ones under the age of 3!! Yikes…I needed this! Thank you! I will survive (by Gods grace!)
Debbie C says
Encouraging words! Now the song, “I will survive,” is stuck in my head!
I figure, if my mom could survive me, I can survive my babe. Thanks Sarah!
Christina Wilde says
After reading Desparate and Parenting a Wild One, I have become more encouraged to enjoy this life with 3 littles under the age 6 and step out in faith and initiate more in friendships and “live in the moments.” I know exactly who I will give the book to. Thank you Sarah Mae for your being real and sharing your life with us Desparate mamas!!!
Hillarey Yoder says
I know exactly who I would give the books too! My sister gave me the Desperate ebook and it’s helping me so much! Today I invited 4 other moms over for lunch after story hour at the library. There were 7 children under the age of four 🙂 One of the mom’s said, “It’s so good to go to some one else’s house and eat nourishing food and just be there.” Thanks Sarah Mae and Sally for the words that have given me courage to open my home and initiate friendships!
Encouraged by this post! Maybe you could make it a new series with more songs. 🙂
thank you for your honesty!
susanna usery says
Wow. Yes I have been there and done that on those same grocery store trips. With three boys three and under it is hard but I know with Gods help we will all make it through! Thank you for your honesty.
Oh my. This hit the spot today. After reading my facebook status, a dear friend and fellow mother to little ones shared this link with me. I am a mother to 3 year twin daughters and 3 month old twin sons and life is beyond craaaaaazy right now. Last night was a horrible night with one fighting illness and one refusing to sleep. I think I may just have to pick your book up for myself and hope to gain some sanity. A chance to breathe would be amazing…
Love this. I totally agree…. I Will Survive is EVERY mother’s theme song! 😀
Tonight I am struggling. I jumped on the internet to escape from the stress of the day. The first thing that came to my mind was go read Sarah Mae’s blog, and in read about your grocery trip, it’s been one “of those” kind of nights. I needed to be reminded that I will survive, thank you! Would love to watch parenting a wild one, seems I have 2! But, His grace is enough, that’s always true, even when I feel down….He is constant. Thanks got the chance!
So true! Though I still think growing an extra arm would be useful…
I’m a new mom (six weeks now), and I’m so glad to hear I will sleep again!
Good stuff! I am a brand new grandma and will pass this on to my Rock Star daughter. I made it through and she is doin’ it too. Thanks so much!
This is absolutely amazing to know I am not alone. How great to see this resource helping so many to get encouraged. Many blessings to the author!
OH thank you..I so needed this. Coming up to the end of a 6 week TDY where my husband has been out of state for military training. I’m 6 mo pregnant, homeschooling my 5 year old and 2 year old and we’ve been down with fifth disease and a massive long cold that I’m just now starting to kick. Haven’t slept in weeks and feeling so run down. I feel this way every time I go anywhere with my boys..just praying to Jesus to survive the trip out of the house..lol. Hubby comes home Friday and has a 3 day weekend..YAY!!