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Melissa Michaels is the NY Times Bestselling author of Love The Home You Have and The Inspired Room book. Her blog, The Inspired Room, was voted Better Homes & Gardens Readers' Favorite decorating blog in 2014 and 2015. Melissa is a church planter's wife and a mom to three human kids and...

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  1. I love the basket idea. Early on in our marriage, I was challenged to not let the spark go out and to remember the passion I felt for my husband and why. Remembering is such a major theme in the Bible and a key to faithfulness in my relationship with God and I believe my spouse as well. I began keeping and stashing every card and love note I received from David. I also began keeping the notes and cards I wrote to him (If he didn’t store them himself) I have them in his undies drawer, my drawers, cook books, silverware drawers….. I come across them frequently and take a moment to read them now and again. MY notes remind me of the passion I felt/have for for Him and what I loved about him. His notes remind me he does love me and what about me he loves. Though these notes are years old, they still spark memories, emotions and passion in my heart for him. I posted a 3 part series titled “Pants on the ground: Keeping the spark alive” that explained this more in detail.

  2. My mom lives quite a ways away from me (She in Florida & I in Michigan). We were all eager for her 5th year of being breast cancer free to occur (September 2012) when the horrific news came in last week that the doctors have discovered another lump. My mother is very spiritual and loves God. I envy her for her deep faith. If I had a basket like that I would fill it with pictures and mementos of all of us who love her and are praying for her along with Get well cards, hand made pictures made by the grandchildren, letters and spiritual books…all to help her along during this difficult time. She means the world to us.

  3. How about creating a smaller “I Love You” box, where you can drop notes in about things you really love about each other.
    My husband and I had a long distance relationship and wrote letter to each other daily for 9 months. I miss those love notes and think this would be a great way to resurrect some.

  4. I love it! Other ideas???
    Start a scavenger hunt with the first “clue & gift” in the basket…could be set up around the house, or out on a big adventure ending at some hotel somewhere 😉
    I will set up my basket today for my hubbs for when he gets home later…Thank you!

  5. Great idea! I love it!
    My hubby and I have also done something special to keep us on our toes.
    We call it our Notebook. Each of us have a small sized notebook (personal size) and each day write something we love about the other person. Then we leave it for the other to find. Somedays it’s not as easy to come up with a positive…but if you dig deep God will soften your heart to find something good to say.
    It’s a great way to keep a loving heart.

    Often we get frustrated with little things in our marriage and this is just a way to remind each other that you care and not let the junk build up and overwhelm you.

  6. This is a really sweet idea. After having two sons leave home and having my daughter left. I am beginning to fret about what my husband and I will do once she is gone, too. I think rekindling and keeping alive that flame is so important.

  7. My husband bought me a puzzle this Christmas so we could spend face time together. He said we could frame it and remember that like our love it had all the perfect peices, and it will stay together if we take care of it. I love that idea for the basket.

  8. We have just (about 20 minutes ago) finished “the marriage course” by Nicky & Sila Lee, we have just entered the ’empty nest’ stage of our marriage and chose to invest in our relationship by attending the course – what a fantastic investment it has been.

    I will try many of these ideas – find out which ones work for us and keep working to ensure our marriage stays strong.

    We are dealing with the added change in my illness having more and more impact on my mobility and confidence, it would have been so easy for me to retreat into my shell and my wonderful husband do more and more around the house that there would be no time to talk, hug and have fun – we will make sure this doesn’t happen now that we can see the slippery slope we were on.

    Thank you all – God’s timing is perfect as always 🙂

  9. Wonderful ideas! I had no problem keeping the spark early on in marriage–it’s the later on that’s hard for me. Between stressful work for him, long drives, & not much sleep–it can be hard.

    Thanks for the ideas!

  10. Your post made me smile because it brought back such sweet memories. I, too, read Emilie’s book as a new wife. I remember how everything was so new and exciting when we were first married. I always loved the Love Basket idea. Thank you for the reminder!
    Blessings~

  11. What an intriguing idea! I love all the nifty suggestions of what to put inside to create specialized date nights and how this encourages all of us wives to really pay attention to what it is our husbands love to do.
    Thanks so much for the idea. Now I am thinking about what I can do with one of my own baskets. . .

  12. I am going to look for that book, even though I know it all. *ha ha ha*

    We have a tiny mailbox with a flag we put up when we have something in it. Candy, notes, cartoons, what have you. We only use it about once a month….but now with two kidlets….creating sparks is HARD. I used to be the sexy one, now I am TIRED. so I think I will challenge myself to do more with the mailbox…toward that end!