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Jen encourages women to embrace both the beauty and bedlam of their everyday lives at BeautyandBedlam.com. A popular speaker, worship leader, and author of Just Open the Door: How One Invitation Can Change a Generation, Jen lives in North Carolina with her husband, five children, and a sofa for anyone...

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  1. Great, great ideas. Men are so incredibly pulled in a gazillion directions. My husband was once told he couldn’t be great at his job if he wanted to be a great “family man” (implying he needed to step it up at work and devote more extra–hours). It’s tricky to navigate through when you’re really trying to do everything as an act of worship to God.

    I love the practical ideas of this post – I think we need to include grandpa in these, too.

      • Yeah – for some reason I try to make Father’s Day special for my husband but don’t put enough effort into celebrating my own dad and father-in-law. Thanks again for this post. I think we’ll try the photo/cupcake tree this year. 🙂

  2. If only such thought and as much planning were put into Mother’s Day!! (wink, wink) Maybe I need to step it up this year for Father’s Day and use your wonderful ideas! Thanks!

  3. Thanks Jennifer. This came at a much needed time. I lost my own father a few weeks ago and have been having such a hard time with all of the Father’s Day radio and television ads, internet promotions and store displays. I just want to hide! But then I feel TERRIBLE because my husband is such a great dad and I don’t want to take away his special day in my grief. Thank you for these ideas (LOVE the ABC book – my kids are older – 12 and 15 – but we have hundreds of private jokes and stories we will be able to come up with because they are so much older!). They gave some much needed structure at a time when my creativity is a bit muddled. Hope your husband’s day is wonderful.

    • Oh Cynthia – I can’t even imagine having such a fresh loss. I am glad if this gave any small sense of structure.
      I pray that the Lord will wrap His loving arms around you on Sunday as you balance celebrating your husband, but also grieving for your own dad.

  4. Great ideas jennifer. I try almost everyday to tell my hubby that I love him and how special he is to me. I thank him for even the little things he does for our family.

    My dad turns 87 this year and I will celebrate father’s day by going to church with him & I have 2 small surprises for him. First I will be doing 2 songs “Between Jesus and John Wayne” by Statler Bros. and “Plan of Salvation” by Perrys. I will be doing sign language to both of them while someone else plays guitar and sings.

    My second surprise will be 3-5 plates of food for him to take home. I have chicken breasts, s tuffing with gravy and cinnamon apples for dessert. Living alone and on a limited budget it is hard to decide what to eat.

    Loved the ideas!

  5. What a day to celebrate! Father’s Day has always been very special to me. I am the only daugther with 7 brothers. Both my parents passed away in 2008 only 7 weeks apart from each other. This left a huge void in my life. Although I have 7 brothers, it was always that one daddy that made a difference. Yes, I was a daddy’s girl no doubt but how could I not have been? We had a very special bond. I would rather have been out in the garden with him than inside cooking with mother. She was a very sweet lady but when you have an amazing Daddy like I did, it was a blessing. This kind, gentle man was all that a wife and daughter could ever want. He was a man of God. He knew his duties and obeyed. I use to tell him how I thought of him as Today’s Noah. He was gifted in prophecy and tried telling people to get on the boat. To change their ways and get right with God. Of course, he was rejected by many of those closest to him but now he is in heaven rightfully sitting where God has placed him. The very first Father’s Day after his death was just as difficult as it was the day he passed away. I remember asking myself just how I was going to honor him. A soft spirit came to me and said the best way would be to honor my heavenly Father. As I did just that, I remember having a very peaceful thought – not only do I have a heavenly Father but I also have a daddy who is in heaven. How heavenly!!!! Since their passing, I always place something on their graves that would be honoring to both of them. Mother was a wonderful wife, mother and homemaker. She loved to quilt and read so I usually use a theme of her favoritie hobbies. This past Mother’s Day I placed a breakfast tray next to her grave which included a coffee cup with saucier, a family picture, flowers, empty bottle of her favorite perfume inside a trinket dish along with a pearl necklace. This represented the woman she was. Last year for Father’s Day, I placed a poster frame filled with pictures of Daddy’s garden, family, and lyrics to the song “In the Garden”. I also placed a 5 gallon bucket with plants from my own garden along with a small basket which held a few vegetables. This also represented the man he was. He gave of himself completely. In saying this, I plan on a much smaller scale, framing a beautiful Father’s Day card that tells of his many attributes. I am so thankful that God allowed me to be the daughter of a man who was so Christlike. Honor all Dads but don’t forget the one true Father, God.

  6. Also please take a moment or the time to include some children who do not have a dad in your celebration. For some this is a very hard day too and to sit at home and smell bbqs and fun and realize that this is missing from your lives or your children’s lives makes it even harder. So if you are having a party and know some one who has no dad or a dad in their life include them. Its a small random act of kindness that shows so much, so shine your light

    • Rebecca – absolutely! Thank you so much for sharing this. It is a painful time for many, and a time we can definitely be reaching out to others. He calls us to be a father to the fatherless, and my prayer is that men will rise up and stand in the gap for those families.

  7. Wonderful ideas, Jennifer! I will use a couple of them; however, with our son’s graduation party the day before, we will have to save the more involved ones for next year. I especially love the ABC memory book! Thanks.