This week, I encountered several conversations about divorce. Some people who are married view divorce as ‘an easy way out’ or a ‘quick fix’ to a problem. I have to tell you as I heard and read these explanations of divorce, my heart ached.

Here’s why: you will not find a person who will cheer you on in marriage more than this single mom right here. I feel like part of my ministry is to encourage my married friends to stay married.

Everything changes.

You suddenly don’t fit in anywhere.

Even the Christian community changes the way that they view you and your life…and your service.

I can look over the past two years of my life and provide you with journal entries that prove that divorce sent me reeling to the very bottom. You are forced to face life alone. To start all over and build a new life from the pieces that are left.

I was not prepared for the toll that divorce would take on me emotionally, mentally and physically. It was devastating. The shame that goes along with being a divorced person is enough to sideline even the strongest soul. I wish I would have had someone who had been through divorce to tell me what to expect and champion my marriage. But, for the most part, we suffered in silence, ashamed that we even found our lives at this place.

But, if you ever find yourself entertaining the idea of divorce, I pray that God will remind you of this blog post. I pray you will add my email to your address book.

I pray that you will give me the opportunity to talk you down off the ledge of divorce back into a restored relationship. Because I couldn’t very well call myself your friend if I didn’t warn and try to protect you from the pain of divorce. Ask a person who is healing from divorce and I think they will agree…