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Wendy is the author of Totally Desperate Mom: Keepin’ it Real in the Motherhood. She is also a former child/teen actress who now loves to entertain her 3 young children. And she likes to blog blog, bake, and boogie.

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  1. Wendy,
    Thank you for this post. My husband and I just lost our fourth baby to miscarriage yesterday. We are truly devastated beyond words. Right now, nothing describes where we are in life more than a desert—alone, lost, searching. I am waiting on the Lord right now for comfort and direction. I know He loves us and has a greater plan for us and that is what is comforting me at the moment. I am so sorry for your loss. I am thankful our babies are wrapped in His love now.
    Gwen

  2. When God meets us in that place…it is bittersweet. Sweet because He draws near, bitter because often we are asked to surrender our heart and the things we hold dearly to.

    Wendy – thanks for sharing your story. God is real and He does love you!

  3. Isn’t it funny how we envy those around us because they feel hardship and therefore closer to God than we do? I have been in that place and then found out very shortly that I was in my own time of hardship and should have just enjoyed my “up time” with God. I am deeply sorry for your loss, but see that God has used it in your life greatly! My mother lost a child a few hours after he was born due to a growth defect of his skull. It can be such a devastating thing, but you have turned it around for good. Thank you for sharing something so personal.

  4. “The desert is not really a desert when you are seeking God.” Yes, Wendy, so good and right and true. Thank you for this beautiful, honest post. It reminded me of Psalms and how David struggled through the hard back to hope. Thank you!

  5. This is absolutely beautiful and I totally get it. And I’m kind of in the opposite situation. God is so completely obvious to me right now. I see Him everywhere. Every day. And I wonder…what is He preparing me for? It’s like I’m waiting for the other shoe to drop. It’s so strange.

    But seriously, these words spoke to me this morning. Thanks so much for being real and honest. It is appreciated!!

  6. Gwen, I am so so so sorry for all your losses. Praying that you would receive God’s love and comfort and presence and that you would feel arms wrapped around your babies as well as yourself. I definitely don’t understand His ways or His timing, but I know He loves you. He loves you specifically.

  7. Thanks Stacey!
    April, Sometimes it is just hard to live in the space we are at. To be content with wherever God has us. We are crazy, but God is good.
    Holley, Oh how the Psalms of David did comfort me through it all!
    Rebekah, What a great place to be! So great to be able to see Him like that!

  8. I needed that reminder. In my own personal desert, I sometimes forget to seek God, and I can feel it. Thank you for reminding me of His love

  9. Yes – writing it down is so good! So good to reflect and remember where we have been and what He has done. Especially with my postpartum mush, I mean, brain. I forget just about everything these days . . . my kids’ names, what I did yesterday, where I am supposed to be tomorrow . . .

  10. Yes Jeri – writing it down is so good! So good to reflect and remember where we have been and what He has done. Especially with my postpartum mush, I mean, brain. I forget just about everything these days . . . my kids’ names, what I did yesterday, where I am supposed to be tomorrow . . .

  11. dear Wendy,

    precious daughter of the Abba Father…how you speak of His love and giving Him all things and that verse given even before…

    thank you for blessing with your story:)

  12. Wendy, Thank you so much for sharing this. I just lost twins at 10 weeks gestation. My good days are outnumbering my bad and God is so wonderful to me. Some days it just helps to know that I am not alone.

  13. Wendy, I have tears in my eyes because we lost a baby, too. And my faith has been very much deepened as is my awareness of God’s love for me (and His love for my sweet baby boy that also as you say, “ditched us for Heaven” Ha!). Thanks for sharing this story of yours so beautifully.

  14. Rachel,
    The babies in heaven club. The one no one wants to be in. But what Satan meant for harm, God uses for good! Glad you also got a deepened awareness of God’s love for you in your journey of loss.