I was recently asked by a kind-hearted soul, “so when will we be able to read your book on being single?”
To which I immediately laughed. Loudly.
Because there are a large amount of topics that I want to write about before I write about being single. You know, things I’m actually good at.
Maybe I could write a book about how to connect with students- I was pretty great at that when I taught elementary school. Or maybe I could wax poetic about the ins and outs of youth ministry- I enjoyed volunteering in that world for over ten years. Sheesh, I’d even write a book on how to fold a fitted sheet before I’d write a book about being single.
It’s not necessarily that I’m unhappy being single. (In fact, I love my life.) I’m just not sure I’m the best one to write a whole book about it.
Because I’m not so good at it.
No one wants to read a book from an unsuccessful author. We aren’t all hurrying to the store to buy a cookbook from someone who always burns the biscuits. We don’t sit around and chat about a gardening book by an author who has a yard full of dead plants.
Books should be written by authors who are enthusiastic about the subject matter and are experts in the field.
I don’t think I should write a book about singleness because I’m no expert at this.
After turning 30, I still wear singleness like an ill-fitting coat made of vinyl.
(You don’t want to read a book about an ill-fitting coat made of vinyl. It would be, well, uncomfortable.)
When I think about being single, it still sometimes makes me cry and sometimes I feel confused and sometimes (and this is full-on confirmation that I shouldn’t write a book on being single) I wonder why God hasn’t answered my prayers.
So don’t wait on a singleness book from me.
I find that life is far more enjoyable if you aren’t focused on what you DON’T have. Though there are plenty of absolutely splendid books on being single, for me to write one would be for me to sit at my computer for hours upon hours thinking about being single.
And I don’t wanna.
I’d rather live.
I’d rather hang out with my friends, serve in my church, and make a delicious recipe from scratch. I’d rather spend my time sitting on a porch with a sweater wrapped around my shoulders and watch the sun set. I’d rather dance at weddings and laugh at the park while playing frisbee.
I’m not real good at being single.
But I’m learning, every day, how to really live.
And at some point in the future, I may try to write that book.
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