Twelve years ago, I read a blog post titled “Trailblazer”. There aren’t many pieces of writing I can remember in great detail from over a decade ago, but this one struck a chord. Like a small seed planted in the ground and watered over time, its roots have gone out and made themselves at home in the soil of my life.
Seasons have changed and years have passed, but to this day I remember the message and encouragement in Annie’s 2012 (in)courage article.
“You’re blazing a trail with your life for the younger women behind you,” Annie F. Downs said. “They will have their own overgrowth to challenge them, and they will lead the way for others. But for today, would you be intentional about cutting back as much brush as you can? Because you are making a way for them, saving them some pain that your bloodied arms prove is real, and honoring their footsteps by providing a clear path. Someone is watching. May they learn to blaze with integrity, honesty, faith, and heart.”
Annie wasn’t talking about me specifically, but there’s no doubt about it: In many ways, I’m one of the women walking the trail she helped clear.
Her words came to mind recently as I read 1 Chronicles 22.
At the beginning of the chapter, we see King David intentionally gathering materials to build the temple for the LORD. But just a few verses later, we learn that he’s actually making preparations for those who will come behind him. Instead of becoming bitter or angry when God said “no” to David building the temple, when he learned that his own son would be the one to do so, David responded by “making extensive preparations before his death” (1 Chronicles 22:5b NIV).
Verse after verse outlines the materials purchased and “craftsmen beyond number” that David purposely prepared so that when Solomon was ready to do what David himself longed to do, the path would be cleared in advance. In other words, David spent his days blazing a trail and opening doors for the next generation.
At the very end of 1 Chronicles 22, instead of grumbling over the “no” he received or becoming frustrated by the years dedicated to something he wouldn’t see to fruition, David speaks a blessing over Solomon’s work, life, and legacy.
Like track and field runners passing the baton in a relay, he gave everything he had for the one coming behind and then said, essentially, “It’s your turn, and I bless you as you go.”
I’ll admit, as I sat with this passage of Scripture, I was humbled and challenged by three questions.
- How do I react when someone else receives the “yes” I long for?
- What path can I intentionally clear for someone else?
- What doors can I open for another, even if I never walk through them myself?
This doesn’t make receiving a “no” easy, and it certainly doesn’t mean we can’t talk to God about our grief, confusion, or disappointment. After all, nearly half of the Psalms written by King David are psalms of lament. But maybe, just maybe, there’s an unexpected gift tucked into every “no,” an invitation into a larger story, a baton to pass, or a trail to clear.
While writing this, I went back to re-read Annie’s words from July 2012 and gasped halfway through. In it, she mentioned being 31-years-old. It’s a minor detail, except that it’s now July 2024 and I’m a 31-year-old woman who is amazed yet again by the God who sees the whole story and yet still cares about the smallest of details.
He’s the One who cleared the ultimate path, who opened every door, who walks with us every step of every trail . . . but knows the tiny things we’ll notice, like breadcrumbs of manna along the way, a gentle reminder that He’s been right there all along and will guide us all the way Home.
Sometimes those breadcrumbs look like someone just up ahead saying “I’ve been this way before. Let’s walk together.” Sometimes the metaphorical door is opened before we raise our hand to knock, the key left in the lock. Sometimes the words or work of another seem small or even ordinary in the moment, but turn out to be exactly what is needed years later, like the materials David prepared in advance.
It can look one hundred different ways, but always, the One who is the Way and made the Way provides what and who we need each step of the way. And then He invites us to pass along what we’ve received, to push back the brush as we keep our eyes on Him.
Not everything is ours to do, but may it be said of us that even when we receive a “no,” we bless the ones coming behind.
May we be women who choose to celebrate instead of compete, who cheer instead of compare, who live and lead and love well. May we trust that there’s kindness and an invitation even in the “no,” and may we, as Paul says in Hebrews 12, run the race that’s set out specifically for us. May we give thanks for those who came before and may we pass the baton when it’s time.
May we walk with “integrity, honesty, faith, and heart.”
Amen.
Jill says
Beautiful words that resonated with my heart this morning.
Kaitlyn Bouchillon says
Thank you so much for reading, Jill!
Ruth Mills says
Amen! Amen! Amen! Thank you for this beautiful reminder! Blessings (((0)))
Madeline says
Amen!
Jill says
Love this, Kaitlyn. “May we be women who choose to celebrate instead of compete, who cheer instead of compare, who live and lead and love well.”
This describes a sisterhood that I would be proud to be a part of. I will be looking at the women who are coming up behind me (I’m 58) with a fresh perspective and will be more intentional in finding ways to help and support them. Your words were a blessing.
Kaitlyn Bouchillon says
I love that… you have so much to offer!
Julie says
That was beautiful! A good reminder that having a humble encouraging heart, in God’s eyes, has the same worth, as building a temple.
Kaitlyn Bouchillon says
What a thought-provoking reflection from this… thank you for sharing with us, Julie.
Dawn Ferguson-Little says
Love your words Kaitlyn. Sometimes as Women we are some of us not used to hearing the words no. We most of them except to get our own way. Maybe it good the no. As we women can’t have our way all the time. Know God has something better for us. Thank what we like. That we think is good for us. When God knows better. We have to trust God when the no comes that he has something better. I not good at hearing the word no. I expect to get my way. I have been there and looking back God’s no just as been the right thing for me. As what I wanted in the end was not good for me. What God changed it too. Has been far better. I glad then in the end I was not given what I first wanted. So I trust God knows best not me. Even when I think I do. Love today’s reading. Love Dawn Ferguson-Little Enniskillen Co.Fermanagh N.Ireland xx
Kaitlyn Bouchillon says
A great point, Dawn… there’s goodness in the “no”… even though sometimes we can’t see or understand it, yet.
Beth Williams says
Kaitlyn,
Many times recently God has said “no” to me. I didn’t understand why. Then I remembered Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord. Plans to prosper you and not for harm. To give you a hope & a future.” His plans & ways are far better than I could imagine. Giving God all the praise for everyone who came before & helped me get where I am.
Blessings 🙂