My mama’s extended family usually meets every two or three years for a reunion in different cities where clusters of our cousins live. After four years of waiting because of the pandemic, this year we gathered in Detroit, Michigan where my mom was born. We weren’t sure how many would actually show up because of high travel costs, canceled flights, Covid cases hanging in the balance, and other life challenges.
On the first night, we were delighted to discover 140 cousins had made the trek for this epic gathering. (Think My Big Fat Greek Wedding, but Italian style with all the signature food, generations mixing, and stories of the old country.) Some of our traditions at these reunions include a picnic in the park with a bocce ball tournament, a banquet with music from all different eras, and lots of time around the table telling stories about aunts, uncles, and grandparents who have gone on to Heaven.
My mama’s great grandparents immigrated to the United States from a little town called San Giovanni en Fiore in Southern Italy. Their three sons represent the three main branches of our family tree from which the various generations originated.
More than three decades ago, my mama started researching our family tree. She filled in the spouses and children, the new branches of descendants that extended from the original branches. I remember hand lettering and coloring the poster boards. Some form of the family tree is always displayed at our reunions. Behind every name and every branch is a story. These stories weave together our past and present.
Through the years, we have also welcomed unexpected branches and stories into our family tree — a cousin who married a Japanese-American woman, several who have spouses with Latin roots, and my mama who married my mixed-race dad, who is Filipino, Chinese, and Polynesian.
Now it’s more the norm to find names among the branches that are different from the Tonys, Marias, Franks, Angelas, and Guiseppes, which were more common in the first generation. It’s the beautiful mixing of cultures and settling in new cities that make our family tree unique today.
Truth be told, sometimes family trees can be messy. The branches become gnarly and tangled. Some branches are broken off way too soon because of divorce, separation, or death. We might be tempted to hide these stories, but they are an important part of God’s redemption story too.
In my case, my husband Ericlee died of cancer at age forty. We could view that as a broken branch of our family tree, but God brought my new husband Shawn and grafted him in. This year he is officially adopting my three daughters — another piece of our redemption story.
As we read through the Bible, we discover that God’s family tree had its share of twisted branches and unexpected stories as well. His family tree brings together people of diverse nations and backgrounds.
I think about Rahab, the Canaanite prostitute who hid the Israelite spies sent to scope out the Promised Land. Members of her family were the only survivors of Israel’s attack on Jericho, because she helped them escape. She married one of those spies and was invited into God’s family tree, moving from outsider to insider because of her courage and reverence for God. She is one of five mothers mentioned in Jesus’ family genealogy in Matthew 1.
Then there was Ruth, a Moabite woman who married into a Jewish family. Historically, the Moabites and Jews were enemies, but God creatively brought together branches of His family tree to include Ruth.
In Ruth 1:16, we read Ruth’s pledge to her widowed mother-in-law Naomi that changed everything: “Your people shall be my people, and your God my God.”
These words mark a shift in Ruth’s life. After she was widowed, Ruth was released by her mother-in-law to return to her own family. Yet, Ruth steps into an unexpected story and proclaims her trust in Naomi’s God, Yahweh. She leaves her family and accompanies Naomi back to her home in Bethlehem.
Ruth meets a man named Boaz, who happens to be the son of Rahab and a relative of Naomi. Through a wild weaving of unexpected events, the two are eventually married. Because of her courageous choice to follow God, Ruth is grafted into His family tree.
Not only is Ruth adopted into a new family, she’s also blessed with a son and eventually becomes the great-grandmother to King David himself. We might be tempted to skip over those lists of names and genealogies in the Bible, but they are significant. If you check out the family tree Matthew records, that means she’s great-times-forty-grandma to God’s own son Jesus, our ultimate redeemer relative.
Like Ruth, we are invited into God’s family tree when we choose to believe in His Son, His death, and His resurrection. Friend, you are chosen for God’s family. You are not an accidental or peripheral branch. You were invited in on purpose. Your story may just be unfolding like a new shoot on the family tree.
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Bomi says
Amen!!!
This is beautiful on so many levels, I can’t stop smiling 🙂 🙂 🙂
140 cousins – wow wow wow 🙂 That’s amazing!! I look forward to having a reunion like this with my loved ones as well. Beautiful!! Blessings to you all!
And thank you so much for sharing your life story and journey with us. It is always so heartwarming to read your family updates 🙂 Big hugs and blessings to you, Shawn and your precious daughters!
Finally, this made me smile so much: “[Ruth is] great-times-forty-grandma to God’s own son Jesus, our ultimate redeemer relative.” That is so beautiful, I love how specific it is!
Overall, this post is a wonderful reminder of God’s grace, mercy and redemptive work on us all, through all of our ups and downs. Praise God!
Dorina says
Bomi! Your heart and enthusiasm are an encouragement to me! Thanks reading! I love that I get to be in the same family tree with you!
Bomi says
YES! Me tooooo!!! 🙂 Such a wonderful thought!!
Courtney says
Loved this! Thank you, Dorina!
Dorina says
Thank you for reading!
Janet Williams says
What a beautiful story Dorina. Thank you for sharing.
The story of Ruth is one of my favorites!
Dorina Lazo Gilmore-Young says
Thank you for reading, Janet! Your words are encouraging to me!
Diane Bailey says
My father’s mother came with her family from Italy. My Father’s dad signed in at Elis Island from Wales. And yes, I get the Big Fat Greek Wedding reference! I love hearing the stories. It’s like I can hold them in my heart when I hear about them.
I love the women of God in the Bible too. They are my spiritual ancestors. And their stories encourage me.
Thank you for sharing and stirring sweet thoughts of family, both spiritual and physical.
Dorina Lazo Gilmore-Young says
Hi Diane! I love how you said the women of the Bible are our “spiritual ancestors.” That’s so true! I’m so glad this stirred up stories from your family experience!
Dawn Ferguson-Little says
Dorina thank you for sharing this. Alot of what you said I can relate to my Family on both my Dad’s side of the family and my latest Mum’s side of the family. As some have remarried because their Husband have die due cancer. Some devorced. Some have kids and no man in their lives. Some living together and not married and have kids. Others just got a man to get a child. But not living together. So we are kind of mixed up family and the story goes on. But none of them saved. I along with my Husband are the only ones saved in my Family. I pray for them all. But your so right Dornia God family it a bit like our mixed up family. As we all come from all different back rounds when we get saved and different lives. We could be devorced or because our first Husband died for what ever reason re married again. We find when we find God and come to know him and ask him to be our saviour we find. Everyone has different story or how they go saved. We all notice we all come from different back rounds. But the good thing is we got saved are all part of God’s big wonderful Family. He expects us and loves us no matter what. Welcomes us into to bring part of his family. No matter what back round we come from. God loves us no matter what he is so glad we go saved. Made God Father of our lives. All the other Children like me and you are all our Brothers and Sister’s in the Lord that are saved. We through time get to love them and pray for them. Thank God for this wonderful family he has made us part of. That is something wonderful to know. Love Dawn Ferguson-Little. In my prayers. Xx
Dorina Lazo Gilmore-Young says
Dawn, thanks for sharing a bit more about your family tree!
Nancy says
As I read about your family tree I chuckled as I remembered my daughter doing ours in 3rd grade. Everyone else had a piece of construction paper and she had to use a poster board and that’s just first cousins. Our family tree is big but the love of God and our faith keeps us together.
Dorina Lazo Gilmore-Young says
I love that faith is the trunk of your family tree! Thanks for sharing!
Jennifer Haynie says
Dorina,
I love, love, loved this post, I think because I love the story of adoption. And what a joy to hear about your kids. May that be a true blessing and a celebration for all involved.
Dorina Lazo Gilmore-Young says
Hi Jennifer, Yes! I’m so grateful for the new story God is writing in our family and my husband adopting my girls. It’s a sweet redemption!
Beth Williams says
Dorina,
You are blessed to have a large family that stays connected. My biological family is spread out over countries, & states. God has blessed me with great church family. I have friends that I will treasure always. The Bible is filled with stories of twisted family lines. People you would never guess are in the lineage of Jesus. Rahab, Ruth & the woman at the well are three women who are grafted into the Christian family tree. God invites everyone into His family tree. We must believe in Him, His life & Resurrection. Congratulations to you & your family on the adoption of your girls. Happy for you all!!
Blessings 🙂
Dorina says
Hi Beth! I love how you noted your church family! That is such a gift!