Thanksgiving has always been one of my favorite days of the year because it brings together people I love, spectacular food, and a tradition rooted in gratitude. And bonus: aside from harvest décor throwing up all over Hobby Lobby and Michaels, it’s not an overly commercialized holiday.
But, this year, I’m conflicted. The world feels a bit apocalyptic right now; merciless wars, political acrimony, mass shootings, and daily uncertainties are too many to name. Closer to home, my world has felt a bit apocalyptic, too. My sister was diagnosed with brain cancer. My husband’s job was eliminated after a company buy-out. My daughter-in-law is battling pain that doctors can’t quite figure out and relieve. My daughter quit her job to solo travel across South America for five months (which I would think is remarkable if it were your daughter).
Globally… personally… it’s all too much sometimes. Trials and tribulations don’t respect a calendar or care when it’s time to celebrate a holiday or special occasion. When life brings big and hard things all at the same time, despair, fear, helplessness, and pain conspire to demand our attention. And when we take our eyes off God and focus on the circumstances around us, we’ll sink just like Peter did when he took his eyes off Jesus.
So Peter got out of the boat and walked on the water and came to Jesus. But when he saw the wind, he was afraid, and beginning to sink he cried out, “Lord, save me.” Jesus immediately reached out his hand and took hold of him…
(See Matthew 14:27-31 ESV)
When Peter’s focus shifted from Jesus to his circumstances, he sank. But Jesus was right there to rescue him. What a relief that He does the same thing for you and me!
Without faith in God, His goodness, and the miracle of the gospel, I honestly don’t know how people get out of bed in the morning. The weight of the world is too heavy to carry alone. But that’s because we aren’t supposed to, right?
In Matthew 11:28-30, Jesus implores us, “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light” (NIV). And in Galatians 6:2, the body of Christ is encouraged to carry one another’s burdens. Over and over, I’ve learned how walking out life’s difficulties with others is so much better than all by yourself.
And, when I finally trust God with the exhausting, sad, and complicated situations I’m facing, there’s room for peace to quiet the noise.
In tumultuous times, we’re quick to run to God, and, thankfully, He’s always waiting with open arms. But, when all is going well, sometimes we forget how much we need Him, don’t we?
While it’s not always easy to be thankful when life gets hard, gratitude is an essential aspect of our faith. In the seasons when I’m struggling, it helps me to remember a few simple things to lead me to genuine and heartfelt gratitude:
Remember God’s Unchanging Character: When you find it challenging to be thankful, remind yourself of God’s unchanging character. Throughout the Bible, God is described as faithful, loving, and compassionate. He is the same yesterday, today, and forever (Hebrews 13:8). Even amid adversity, God remains constant. Trusting in His character can give you the confidence to be thankful, knowing that He is working all things together for your good (Romans 8:28).
Remember God’s Past Faithfulness: Reflect on the moments in your life when God has been faithful. Recall answered prayers, unexpected blessings, divine appointments, and God-winks. Maybe even create your own “altars of remembrance” in your heart, celebrating God’s past provisions. This kind of intention will encourage a heart of thanksgiving, even during difficulties.
Remember What Your Future Holds: It’s easy to become fixated on the trials of this world and lose sight of an eternal perspective. As believers, we are promised an inheritance that is imperishable, undefiled, and kept in heaven for us (1 Peter 1:4). Our present struggles are temporary, but our future in Christ is secure. Keeping this eternal perspective in mind can help us endure hardships with a heart full of thanksgiving, knowing where our true treasure lies.
Struggling to be thankful is normal for most of us at some point in our lives. But because of Jesus and what He’s done for us, we have the tools to overcome this challenge. By remembering God’s unchanging character, His past faithfulness, and our eternal inheritance in Christ, we can cultivate a heart of gratitude even in the face of adversity. In doing so, we not only honor God but can also find peace, joy, and strength to navigate life’s difficulties with heartfelt thankfulness. And not just the week of Thanksgiving.
Joanne says
Change the details and this has been my life for too long! But God!!! I am so thankful for His steadfast love! One day at a time, often just “do the next thing”. He gives “strength for the day, bright hope for tomorrow”. I am His and He is mine!!
Robin Dance says
Joanne…first (((hugs)))
But yes! We can’t change our circumstances but we sure can change our response to them. That seems to be what you’re doing and have done.
Amada (pronounced: a.m.a.TH.a) says
AMEN! HAPPY THANKSGIVING!
Robin Dance says
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Judyc says
Thank you for this today! When I get to feeling sorry for myself, remembering what God has already done for me always helps. I love what you said about creating “alters of remembrance” in our hearts. And when I remember that Jesus is praying for us (making intercession) it gives me great comfort. I am thankful for the (in)courage devotionals, and all of you wonderful writers!
Robin Dance says
Judy,
You’re a sweet blessing to me and our community today. Thank you for reading, sharing, and encouraging us right back!! xo
Terry says
Thank you so much for writing this! Hugs and prayers ❤
Robin Dance says
Terry,
Thank you for taking time to read and respond <3.
Jeri West says
Thank you
Robin Dance says
xo
Christina Vingerud says
This was such a good reminder! While I’m blessed to be in a season where I feel a lot of gratitude easily and am frolicking in fall, this was so humbling to be reminded that feelings of gratitude and thankfulness might not be coming so easily for my sisters in Christ. There is so much going on around the world and in the personal lives of our sisters that are visible and secret, let’s not forget to encourage, support, and be praying for them in this season!
Robin Dance says
Christina,
What a poignant reminder for those who might be in a similar season as you. Such a kind “other-minded” focus. This is lovely.
Brenda M. Russell says
I’m so thankful for those who share their stories with us. It’s not easy but it’s to help others reach out to God when they have struggles. We Pray and expecting immediate relief. When that doesn’t happen, we feel hurt and sometimes rejected in life. God had “perfect” timing. We don’t know that until we experience it.
I’m 64 years old and I am still learning to wait with a great attitude.
Life is a Journey, travel with God’s grace and mercy.
Brenda
Happy Thanksgiving
Robin Dance says
Brenda,
I’m thankful for others who share the truth of their circumstances, too. We NEED each other, don’t we? Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us.
xo
Cheyla says
Robin, thank you so much for this. I’m so sorry to hear about your troubles. Life can just be so darn hard sometimes, and I’m so thankful for you and all the (in)courage writers. You often put words to my pain and it helps! Thank you!
Robin Dance says
Cheyla,
Pain shared is pain divided maybe? It seems to always help me to know I’m not the only one…. xo
Robin in New Jersey says
Robin, I am so sorry to read about your sister and your husband’s job loss. While I can’t relate to the first, the job loss is all to familiar. Thank you for sharing your story and for being an encourager.
Robin Dance says
So good to hear from you, Robin <3. Sending you love and encouragement now and throughout this holiday season.
Beth Williams says
Robin,
When I get to feeling down I make a thankful or gratitude list. The list has 150+ items on it. They range from home in Heaven & salvation, car,, house, hubby, on down to small things like living in mountains, nice weather & pens. Never thought to call it my alters of remembrance.
P.S. Prayers for peace & God’s healing hands to be on your sister. Asking God for a new job for your husband & for God to send calming peace while you both await His perfect timing. May God guide the doctors to a cure for your sister-in-law. Prayers for safe travels for you daughter & some peace & calm for you.
Blessings 🙂