A few weeks ago, I got sick with a fever that wouldn’t go away. On one of the worst nights of my sickness, I slipped away to the couch, so that my tossing and turning wouldn’t wake up my husband.
I tried ibuprofen. I tried Tylenol. I lit a fire in the fireplace. I tried cough drops and hot tea. And finally, the very last thing I tried was prayer.
I am not proud to say that prayer was my last line of offense.
I know I’m not alone in the this. Sometimes, we don’t pray because we overestimate our self-sufficiency. Other times, we undervalue God’s concern to tend to the little things in our lives.
It goes like this:
We tend to grade matters by their seeming significance. Grade-A Matters are things like war, injustice, kids with cancer, and failing marriages. Those things are important and deserve our attention with prayer. But the truth is, even when the world at large is suffering, we’ve all got something going on – right this very second. And it all matters to God, even the things you think are Grade-D Matters.
Know this: God’s hands are large enough to hold all the Grade-D Matters – the late-night fevers, your concerns over your kids’ grades, that plumbing problem in the basement, or the fact that your friend hasn’t returned your texts.
So I have a question for you: How are you really doing right now with “the other stuff” going on in your life, the Grade-D Matters?
When something big happens in our world or our community, we tend to minimize “the other stuff.” We don’t want to burden our friends, or God, by letting them know what else hurts right now.
I’ve said it before, but there have been times in my life when I’ve been reluctant to share with my Bible study girls about an emotional struggle, because someone else was just diagnosed with cancer. I categorized my pain as Grade D, and hers as Grade A.
I’ll tell myself things like, “I shouldn’t be this sad or worried. It could be worse.”
It’s also possible that you’ve been the victim of the “my life is harder than yours” game. It happens when you share your hard, but according to someone else, it isn’t hard enough compared to what they’re going through.
We do ourselves a disservice as sisters when we track each other’s pain along a scale, as if it can be easily categorized along one of those smiley-face charts on a doctor’s office wall.
Here’s the thing: God doesn’t stop caring about your “other stuff” just because other people, this nation, and this world are walking through really big trials. Hard things in other people’s lives do not negate the pain you are carrying personally:
With your finances.
With your baby’s erratic sleep schedule.
With your anxiety.
With the disagreement you had with your dad.
With the pressure of those deadlines.
With your ANYTHING.
Recently, I read Paul’s second letter to his buddy Timothy. He spends most of the letter writing about the big stuff: godlessness in the last days, suffering for the gospel, sound preaching. And then, toward the end, he gives Timothy a final instruction: “Bring the cloak that I left… also the books, and above all the parchments” (2 Timothy 4:13, ESV).
It’s the cloak that gets me.
At this point in the biblical narrative, Paul was an older fellow getting close to dying while locked up in a cold prison — and his only coat was many miles away.
I don’t know why that bit about the cloak is in there, but I do believe that Scripture is God-breathed, and that every word is there for a reason — even the hardest and weirdest parts of the Bible. Every word has something to teach us about God or ourselves.
I wonder if that tiny sentence about the cloak is one way that God is letting us know that the little things matter. Little things like coats, new tires for your car, your class schedule, your job, and a fever that won’t let up.
God is big enough to care about the little things.
Nothing is too big for our Lord. And nothing is too small either.
Brynn says
I am so often guilty of thinking my struggles are not big enough to complain or be concerned about. Even though I know God cares. That is my only reassurance at times. Thanks so much for this reminder.
Jennifer Dukes Lee says
I’ve been right there too, Brynn! May all of your matters — Grade A to Grade Z — find their way to God. And I’ll be practicing what I preach!
Angela says
The podcast version is not the same as the devotional.
Becky Keife says
Oops! So sorry about that! We’ll get that fixed. The correct episode is up on the (in)courage podcast, available on your favorite podcast player.
Jennifer Dukes Lee says
We’re so sorry about that, Angela. Thanks for letting us know!
Tiffany says
What I needed to hear today. Thank you Jennifer.
Jennifer Dukes Lee says
I’m glad to know this spoke to you, Tiffany. May you know today that it ALL matters to God.
Ruth Mills says
Oh Jennifer what a great encouragement! Our God is so vast He doesn’t have to prioritize needs. He can handle them all!!! Thank you for sharing. Blessings!
Jennifer Dukes Lee says
You’re so right, Ruth! And it’s our joy to serve you here with our words. So glad this spoke to you.
Madeline says
I definitely keep things to myself out of fear that I may seem petty to others. And I feel guilty praying about these things. So I appreciate what you have shared.
Jennifer Dukes Lee says
Knowing this meant something to you …. means a lot to me. God bless you, sweet Madeline.
Jenny says
I so loved this reminder that no matter how big or small things are to us, they all matters the same to God! Thank you!
Jennifer Dukes Lee says
You’re welcome, Jenny! Have a good weekend!
Kellie Johnson says
I’ve done this all this week unfortunately. After going to my doctor Wednesday, and getting the news that I actually had an issue that required antibiotics, I finally let myself admit how uncomfortable I had felt the entire holiday weekend. We were hosting company and I kept smiling and minimizing my issue so I wouldn’t draw attention to myself while our guests were here, sharing their own struggles of a new season they were in. This reading is a great reminder not to compare or analyze or graph the weight of our struggles against others. Thank you.
Kellie
Jennifer Dukes Lee says
As women, we just try to power through sometimes, don’t we? Just keep pushing, being there for everyone, putting our needs aside. I soooo get that! I am grateful to know this post spoke to your heart today.
Rachel says
Thank you for this today! With so many huge problems in the world, it is easy to decide my own “little” problems aren’t worth bringing to God. Your post reminded me of something I heard years ago in a sermon about Philippians 4:6. My pastor said, “The question isn’t whether anything is too small to pray about. The real question is, is any of it NOT small to God?”
Jennifer Dukes Lee says
That’s a wise pastor! Thanks for sharing these words, Rachel.
Maura says
Oh how we all minimize our own needs. A good reminder that God sees all pain and wants is to remember our own need for a cloak.
Jennifer Dukes Lee says
Amen, Maura! Thanks for reading along. Glad to know this encouraged you.
Cathy says
Thank you Jennifer for this timely message….even a car accident and not enough money to fix or repair….switching to public transportation perhaps….
Jennifer Dukes Lee says
Oh Cathy, it sounds like you are faced with some obstacles and hard things right now. Know that I have stopped to pray for you this afternoon.
Angela says
I tend to do this when I’m praying for something I deem low on the list of importance. When I do this, I’m often praying aloud and it might go like this: God, I know you’re busy, you have a lot going on, with the war in Ukraine, gun violence, and homelessness – but — if you have a minute, I really need help with… (insert Grade D concern here). Thank you for loving me and caring about me. Amen.
Jennifer Dukes Lee says
And he hears that prayer for sure! Thanks for sharing, Angela!
NancyM says
“I do believe that Scripture is God-breathed, and that every word is there for a reason — even the hardest and weirdest parts of the Bible”… what a good point! I tend to skim over things, looking for the deeply strong words written. A great reminder – “bring my cloak” – God sees all, even the little stuff, and is here for us.
Jennifer Dukes Lee says
So glad this spoke to you, Nancy. And like you, I’ve done the same thing. I came across the little line a couple years ago, and it really stuck with me. I had read it before, but sort of glossed over it, I guess.
Irene says
Dear Jennifer, this is lovely. Thanks for reminding us to “not sweat the small stuff”, but turn those things over to God. He can handle it!
Jennifer Dukes Lee says
He has broad shoulders! Thanks, Irene.
D says
Jennifer, what great encouragement as I sit in a hospital room realizing that today may be the beginning of transitioning to being a caregiver. Thanks so much for the reminder that God cares about all the details of my life!
Jennifer Dukes Lee says
Oh D …. for whatever you are facing right now, I am asking God to draw near, offer strength, and give you discernment as well as peace.
molly says
Fantastic reflection. So timely for me personally. Thank you!
Jennifer Dukes Lee says
I am so glad to know that, Molly.
Gail Noe says
THANK YOU!!! I needed this confirmation
Jennifer Dukes Lee says
You’re welcome, Gail! xo
Sallie Scott says
Yesterday I had an MRI on my back. They needed to put dye in. The person assisting tried several times to get the needle in a vein with no luck. Another woman was called to try and we both prayed after her first attempt failed and, miraculously, but not surprisingly it worked. Praise God! That should have been my prayer with the first person.
Jennifer Dukes Lee says
I love that the woman who helped prayed with you! HOW AWESOME IS THAT?!?!?
Dawn Ferguson-Little says
Yes God is big enough to handle all our problems. We most not think we have to do it all in our own. Because no one else will help or they have there excuses why the can’t help. When they can do something simple to make your world easier. See Jennifer my Dad is 82 in February next year. Needs alot of things done round his house for him. As he fell 6 or 7 months ago and broke his hip. Can’t walk as well as he used to has physio coming to house to help him that is helping. But he stil needs alot of help. I do his house. My two sisters visit in every evening I do his house every day. Plus walk his dog. Even though they are working during the day have kids. There kids not babies they are teenagers. They could walk my Dads dog to give me a brake. So could my sisters when visiting my Dad. Out of the half an hour or hour in the evening when visiting him plus do a we bit round his house for him. They at time do some but not enough. They just chat our Dad. If I left clothes to dry. They never some times go check them and put away to ironed. They leave them. Yes they bring him meals. But I just go on and do it. I did say something to them about this out came the exudes. So I just kept on doing it said no one else going to do it. Now tiredness has got the better of me. I taken a nasty dry cough. I was that tired with the cough. I had to phone my Dad say. I will not be round to walk his Dog. Plus I had bad dry cough. I didn’t want to give it to my Dad. I felt God saying Dawn your going to have to take more rest. My Friend and my Husband said that. Or you end up ill. I felt God say Dawn your only human. People will let you do it all if willing. But you know what your body will not let you if does not get enough rest. You have to think of yourself. No one else going to. What you said in today’s reading you wrote Jennifer has spoken to me. We have to look after ourselves too. Remember Jesus took time to rest and be with his Father. We must do the same. Don’t get me wrong I not running my sister’s down. Yes I understand they have kids and work. But they could do a little more to help my Dad there Dad when visiting him. Get the Grandkids to walk the dog more often for their Grandfather our Dad. He so much appreciate it. To give me rest. So I going to have to listen to God and my body. Take one day a week of. Tell my Dad that. Don’t get me wrong I love doing it for the Love of my Dad and on to the Love of Lord. Or I be no good to any one. Love Dawn Ferguson-Little xx
Jennifer Dukes Lee says
Dawn, I am so glad that you are listening to God and to your body. You have a LOT on your plate right now. I know that you love your Dad. And I was in the same spot not long ago. My Dad passed away and went to heaven on September 4 of this year. I am so grateful that I had all of those months of helping to take care of him. Precious, precious memories. Sending my love to you!
Beth Williams says
Jennifer,
Nothing absolutely nothing is to small for God to care about. He loves you enough to send His only son to die a horrible death. Don’t think that your headache, school tests, job interview, etc. are to small to pray about. He already knows the situations & is working on your behalf. Each day at work I pray for all my ICU patients (ICU clerical). Ask God to heal the patients & comfort their families/caregivers. Also pray that God would help me in my new position. Guide my steps & help me to get done quickly. Give me the strength to endure each day. Friends don’t be afraid to pray about ALL your trials/tribulations.
Blessings 🙂
Anna says
I was a small-town/farm girl at college and would frequently loose my keys. (On the farm, we fastened the keys to the steering column with wire because if you drop keys in a field–good luck finding them.) I frequently prayed in one syllable, “Dear-Lord-help!-I-can’t-find-my————-KEYS!!-thank-you-Jesus!”
So, later when I am getting down on myself for being a hot mess, “Lord…….. I’m sorry for bothering you so often about my keys….”
………..”Bothering me? Dear child, what makes you think it’s a bother?”
“…um…well…”
………..”You see, I keep a count of the hairs on your head–just for fun. So, it’s not a bother. Instead, think of it as an acknowledgement that I am The Omniscient, Omnipotent One (that always knows where your keys are) that loves you–and I love it when you think to come to me. When you do this you are being obedient–How else would you be able to ‘pray without ceasing’ if you don’t pray about the ‘small’ things too?”
“…so, it’s not a bother…?…”
……..”It bothers me when you don’t ask.”
“Ohhhh….I think I get it…maybe…”
The world has a lot of “little” gods that by definition care about “big” things like war, famine, cancer. But only a BIG God cares about and involves himself with the “little” things.
Nancy Ruegg says
I too have been guilty of self-sufficiency instead of prayer-sufficiency, even after all these years of walking with God. Lord, help me to turn to you FIRST! I can see intimacy growing deeper between us as I step closer to you when trouble starts–even the small ones. Thank you, Jennifer!
Ariel Krienke says
This was such a beautiful message that really touched my soul. I really needed it. People often tell me my problems are too small and to just get over it. But I’m alone in my life with no support group in person. We don’t have strong churches here and people cave when presented with standing up for Christian values so you don’t feel like anyone is with you. But it is encouraging getting these messages and knowing this community is here for me and I will experience them in person when we all are in heaven. I truly look forward to it. I pray the Lord God gives me the strength to get through this life. I greatly desire a hug from my Savior and to hear him say well done good and faithful servant. You all keep me pressing on. I can’t thank you enough. I wish I could purchase more of your stuff but I have to pay down debt. Thank you again dear sisters
Heather Edwards says
Great timely devotion today, Jennifer. I felt the same way about my need to lose weight. I felt I shouldn’t pray or even ask for God’s help since I got myself in this predicament of being overweight. A godly weight loss program spoke to this exact issue, us feeling like we can’t go to God for anything…little….problems we got ourselves into…..anything. He knows and numbers the hairs on our heads! And since asking God for help with my health journey I have lost 65 pounds in the last year and half. And I agree with you about Paul’s cloak, I just red that passage few weeks ago and it made me laugh. I also think it helps us see Paul as a person just like us, with needs just like us, and thorns in our sides just like us.
Lisa Marie says
I am finally realizing that God is truly in control of the small things and the hard things.