A few months ago, I went on a trip with friends. Together, we spent a handful of incredible days without a single person demanding a single thing from any of us. It was glorious and I am still overwhelmed with gratitude for the time away.
However, my trip ended bittersweetly. The morning I was scheduled to return home, my phone blew up. In the span of a few minutes, I received an email, text message, and voicemail — all informing me that my oldest daughter’s school was on lockdown and that the district would keep us posted.
Keep me posted?!
As you can likely imagine, I immediately freaked out. I texted my daughter and asked if she was okay. I called my husband and asked if he knew anything more than what I’d read in the text message. He did not, but thankfully, my daughter replied quickly and said she was fine.
But still, what is “fine”?
As the day wore on, I learned that the issue had been drugs rather than violence, and my daughter was physically safe. But during that lockdown, she was stuck in a rather upsetting situation that began with bullying and ended with shouts and tears and countless hurt feelings.
I was miles and hours away, and my daughter needed me. I couldn’t get to her and, in her anxiety, she could not understand. She was not okay and, therefore, I was not okay — and I couldn’t do a thing about it.
Except pray. I could pray. And I did pray, a lot.
At every opportunity, I talked with my daughter on the phone and in between those tearful conversations, I prayed. I asked God to comfort my daughter (and me), to make His presence known and felt, to help her get to sleep, and help me calm down before my final flight. And while it was a rough day for both of us, we made it. God was with us, and we made it through.
Now, don’t get me wrong. She was still upset. I was still shaken by feeling such intense fear and concern for her while so many miles away. The next day when she told me every little detail of her horrible, no good, very bad day, she cried — and I cried too. Praying didn’t magically erase every problem or pain. But when I couldn’t fix what was hurting my daughter, praying reminded me that even separated by miles, we weren’t alone. It reminded me that God was with us both.
I’m so grateful we are created and loved by a God who wants to hear our prayers. I’m thankful He loves us so much He will meet us whenever we need Him and wherever we are — whether that’s in an airport far from home, the floor beside your bed where the kids can’t see you from the door, or the parking lot where you wait for the end of soccer practice or band rehearsal.
This world can be frightening and parenting (as well as marriage, ministry, friendship, or simply being a human) can be challenging. So many situations leave us feeling helpless and overwhelmed, convinced there’s nothing we can do to help. But the most important thing we can do when we feel like there’s nothing we can do is to pray.
No matter how unprepared or ill-equipped we feel, no matter where we find ourselves — in the break room at work, in the middle of a long list of errands that won’t run themselves, or in our child’s bed after another nightmare — we can pray. In every situation God is with us, ready to listen and comfort and guide us. He’s with us and saying, “Come to me . . . ”
Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest.” Matthew 11:28 (NLT)
Jas says
Thank you Mary! How scary for your daughter, yiu sbd your family. We are so blessed to have a God that wants to hear from us, all of us and gives love and comfort in times when needed.
Mary Carver says
Yes, what a gift that He truly wants to hear from us!
Ruth Mills says
“I’m so grateful we are created & loved by a God who wants to hear our prayers.” AMEN!
Mary Carver says
It’s a gift, isn’t it?!
Madeline says
Thank you Mary. I wish I learned this long ago. But, thankfully, I now know that God is with me and for me and I am not alone. Some of us take longer to learn these things.
Mary Carver says
Madeline, I’m still learning too. As I mentioned over on Instagram today, this article was as much a reminder for myself as an encouragement for others. Thankfully, our God is patient!
Kelley Spencer says
Mary, this is so spot on! The fact that God will never leave or forsake us makes all the difference when faced with hardship. My son had health issues for three years with no diagnosis. It was the most difficult thing to go through, but by fasting, praying and seeking God’s direction, my son received a diagnosis and treatment. Thanks so much for your godly wisdom.
Mary Carver says
I’m so grateful your son was healed! Thank you for sharing your story with us, Kelley!
Debbie says
This is something I’ve been working on! I want to go to God first in every situation.
Thank you Mary.
Mary Carver says
That’s the key, isn’t it—going to Him first?! He’s still working on me in this area, too.
Krista C. says
Mary Carver, you are a gift. Thank you for this timely reminder.
Mary Carver says
Oh, thank you for your kind words, Krista! I’m grateful this was encouraging for you!
Dawn Ferguson-Liitle says
Mary thank you for what you shared. It just goes to prove that no matter were we are. No matter what is going on when we are not there. God is there at all times. Like his word says “He will never leave us nor forsake us” We find this in his word in Deuteronomy 31:8 God doesn’t leave us. He is there and in times like this we can panic and say God why did this happen or why did you let it happen. No matter what it is we are going through. I believe in times like this God is also putting us through a test to see how strong our faith is in him. Are we going to really stop panicking stop and pray and put it all in God’s hands trust him for what ever we are going through. Then listen to God through his Holy Spirit speak to us to know what to do next. Especially if something like you went through Mary. You were not at home at the time to be there for your Daughter. But you did the right thing you prayed about until you could be there and next to your Daughter. Mum’s I not a mum because not brave enough to have kids. I do love them. But Mum’s think they are the one that can like a tricky plaster put on all will be ok. Kids sometimes think Mum’s will make it all better they will know what to do no matter what your are going through. But sometimes Mum’s don’t have the answer to make it all better. Just be there for you. If saved Pray for you and the situation hand it over to God. See what God saying to do through his Holy Spirit. I learnt that in my own life even though my late Mum was not saved. I was Childminder for years and years. I used treat the kids and still do my Niece’s and Nephews as if they were mine. If they had a problem I say what would God. I pray for them. Tell them in a way they understand how to deal with what ever they were going through. If needed to tell their Parents for them not to afraid to tell them. Even if was something they done wrong. See what lessons they could learn so as not to do it again. If needed to say sorry if hurt someone they could. Try make things right by telling the person they not do it again also. Tell God they were sorry to. But when you as Parent can’t be there for you kids until you can all you can do is pray ask God what you should do until you get home. God will give you a peace until you can be there and for the child you are worried about to help them. Plus give your child a peace until you get home to be with them. Then if you want you both when together can pray about it to know what to do next. I say Amen to this. In my pray incourge Love Dawn Ferguson-Little
Mary Carver says
I say Amen to this as well, Dawn. Thank you for being here today.
Janet Williams says
AMEN \0/ Mary.
Prayer is SO powerful!
I am glad to hear your daughter is okay oxox
Mary Carver says
Thank you, Janet! And yes, what a gift God has given us in the power of prayer!
Cynthia says
Thank goodness for the presence of mind, space to pray and ability to support your daughter during & after the events. It sounds as if lockdown brought out the best as well as sadly the worst in ppl. So glad your daughter is safe & well & has you to work thru the feelings. Flapping their wings is a way birds release trauma. Why not us? Shaking and dancing it out are forms of prayer to me.
Mary Carver says
Shaking it out sounds like an excellent way to process and pray!
mp says
I can’t tell you how many situations I’m facing – or know that others are facing – where it feels like there’s nothing we can do except pray. And yet, that’s the most important!
Mary Carver says
Praying for you right now, MP, that you’ll feel God’s presence, peace, and guidance in each of your challening situations.
Frances says
Yes, indeed, we must PRAY! When our kids grow up, we must pray God’s hedge of protection over them at all times. Our oldest son was a missionary in Africa & on a small vehicle like a motor scooter when he ran out of gas. He tipped it over & said: ” God, I know how you multiplied the loaves & fish so I ask you to multiply the gas”.. He turned it over & it started on what he said was fumes & headed for home when he saw a man with a table with bottles on it. He stopped and the bottles held GAS. He bought some and got home safely. He was in that mission field 15 years & other miracles happened. I can testify as a mom who could not be with my son 1000s of miles away that I knew God heard all my prayers. Praise God, He answers many prayers for missionaries! Keep praying friends!!
Mary Carver says
Wow, Frances, that is incredible! What a God we serve! Thank you for sharing your son’s story with us.
Nancy Ruegg says
Praise God he carried you and your daughter through a harrowing day, Mary! Prayer is such a precious gift, giving us a way to deal with our fears and worries, and the privilege of coming alongside our Almighty Father as he does his work!.
Mary Carver says
Ohhh, I love the way you described that, Nancy – coming alongside Him as He works. What a gift!
Beth Williams says
Mary,
Praising God He saw you both through that trial. There are many situations in this world that we can do nothing about except that is pray. Commune with God & seek His guidance & wisdom. Prayer should never be a last minute option but a first minute action.
Blessings 🙂
Sandra Destrempes says
Thank you!
Sandra Destrempes says
I experienced a stroke on 12/30/2020. My family is not near! Yet, as the Ambulance brought me to the hospital; I put my trust in Him. He would care for me. My church prayer team prayed for me! My friends supported me by phone to listen to the doctors. Two years later; my MRI showed the bleed had healed in comparison to an MRI in 2016! The Lord is always near through the Holy Spirit!