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Angela Nazworth is a shame-fighting storyteller who writes mostly about the beauty of grace, faith, friendship, vulnerability and community. She is a wife and a mother of two. Angela's also an encourager, a lover of good books, coffee, girl's night out, sunshine, and waterfalls. In the 15 years since she...

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  1. Angela,
    Oh how I needed this after my day yesterday. Like you, I can throw a pretty elaborate pity party. When I read this spot-on post, it struck me that having a pity party is static…it’s stuck…not going anywhere. Whereas, processing your emotions, leaning into God, persevering…those are all active, moving forward kinds of words. It’s okay to have those feelings, but God doesn’t want us staying stuck there. I so needed this reminder to remember the joy of the Lord when my day is crazy-making. Not that I’ll be all happy happy, but I can remember my ultimate reason for joy. This pity party planning girl needed this post!
    Blessings,
    Bev xx

    • “It’s okay to have those feelings, but God doesn’t want us staying stuck there.” – Yes. This exactly! Hugs to you, Bev!

  2. ” She reminded me that everything that happened to me that day didn’t deserve the power to keep tripping me up. She was right.”

    Love this. God deserves everything I have to give, not daily frustrations. I want to refocus.

  3. Thank you Angela for this beautiful post-I needed it so desperately in this time of trial. Praise to the Lord for this wonderful teaching. Praying that we all look to Him for victory in perseverance through His love 🙂

    • His love provides so much comfort. Praying for you this morning as you walk with Him through tirals.

  4. “Faster than a $50 bill at Target…”SO TRUE! I feel you. My most well attended and sadly…most memorable pity parties for my family to remember are Sunday mornings. Always struggling to get out the door, trying to not elevate my Mom voice (scream), and things always go so wrong. Its a typical Pastors wife morning of drama. Thanks for the reminder to see that most of the time, we stay at the party far too long!

    • Oh Sunday mornings! The devil loves Sunday mornings! Let’s band together and have a “No Pity Party Sunday!”

  5. Angela,
    Yup, I can certainly relate to the chain of events that could lead to the Pity Party. And I know from experience that acknowledging where we are in the moment, and calling on the NAME OF JESUS works to help us process the emotion. There are times I literally have to call his name aloud to gain footing and not wallow. Here’s to putting my dancing shoes on having a praise party!!!

  6. So so true, my friend. I fall into the pity party trap more often than I’d like to admit. Thanks for sharing the truth of it, and pointing us the right way. Loved it! Needed it! 🙂

  7. Angela, wow, you are a party girl! Love that. What you described in your day is what I refer to as “Being nibbled to death by a duck”. I borrowed this term from someone else, and it means all of the things individually isn’t anything big, but add everything up together and it gets really stressful. And yes, it is important to acknowledge our feelings, press into Jesus, and change our self talk, and then our feelings change with our self talk and our focus on scripture. Still need A LOT of practice with this. But, it does change me. Thank you for this timely reminder! Blessings, Joanne

  8. Thank you, Angela, for your honesty and insight. You are so right that pity parties are actually detrimental, not therapeutic. And I greatly appreciate the strategies you implied for leaning into Jesus: expressing faith in him (and perhaps listing the reasons why) and affirming applicable promises. What better ways to weaken the power of pity over us?!

  9. Thank you for this little wake-up call, this reminder to me of the difference between coming to God and pouring out my heart, as it says iin Psalms, and just stewing about all that is wrong in my world and burning off the ears ofr whoever will listen. The Psalms often list all kinds of hrash thinh=gs happening, but they almost all without fail say something like “Yet will I praise you, O Lord. You are my refuge and strength. In you I have all I need, I have victory.

  10. Angela,
    Yes! May we press into our Jesus with all we are when the world is heavy. I love how you made a distinction between the two ways we can process and how on leads to life and the other death. Thanks for reminding us with your words.

    Chara