Congratulations to Lis! She was randomly selected to win the gorgeous canvas below!
Mrs. Anthony, never one to let a learning opportunity pass, brought her classroom to life with applications that made indelible impression. Arguably the best second grade teacher of all time, she wasn’t interested in teaching us only reading, writing and ‘rithmetic, she made sure we learned important things ~
- using good manners
- respecting authority
- living the Golden Rule by treating others the way we wished to be treated
Nearly 40 years later, the mere mention of her name floods my heart with sunny, affectionate memories….
Like when we glued and glittered, doilied and stickered Valentine shoeboxes to collect the cards we exchanged. Her directive was simple and no one even considered disobeying–
Cards for all or cards for none.
Mrs. Anthony didn’t play favorites and she didn’t allow her students to either. She couldn’t bear the thought of anyone being left out, and now as a mom, I appreciate her concern all the more. She slathered love so thick on me and my classmates, I think I’ve still got a little behind my ears. She loved from the center of who she was.
Second grade is the year Valentine’s Day became my favorite holiday. Even now it conjures warm fuzzies mostly because it’s a month of remembering to
love one another.
There are several words for love, each with its own meaning–
Eros relates to physical passion; its gratification and fulfillment.
Phileo is tantamount to friendship, the strong bond existing between people who share common interest or activity.
Storge is the love between and among family members.
Agape is unconditional love, the love God demonstrates to believers in and through Christ. “Agape” is the specific word Jesus uses in John when he says,
A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”
Agape has nothing to do with feelings and everything to do with actions. The tradition of classmates and friends exchanging Valentines is action that expresses love for one another in a simple yet meaningful way–especially if candy is involved :)!–and DaySpring has a darling card selection: Veggie Tales for starters, but it’s worth a few clicks to see their wide selection.
The message of Romans 12:9 (pictured in the canvas above) is clear:
- Love must be sincere
- Hate what is evil
- Cling to what is good.
Continuing in verse 10, Paul presses further–
- Be devoted to one another in love
- Honor one another above yourselves
Would you be willing to share how you “love one another”? Write a post (or re-post one from your archives) and link it below by 2/15/11. And just because we wanna show you how much we love our readers, one of you will win the beautiful canvas pictured above!!
by Robin Dance, author of PENSIEVE.
Living the Balanced Life says
I saw this at picture at Blissdom and would love to have it!
Bernice
Robin ~ PENSIEVE says
Me, too, Bernice :). But I’ll have to BUY it ’cause I’m not eligible to win! I haven’t yet clicked thru to the links, but I’m looking forward to reading those shortly! Hopefully, I’ll find yours in the mix!
erin m. says
I love that you pointed out that agape love is about actions not feelings. That is something the Lord convicted me of at the beginning of this year. I was allowing my love to be influenced by how I was feeling. I realized I am able to CHOOSE to love, even if I do not FEEL like it. A much needed lesson in my life. Thanks for the reminder 🙂
Robin ~ PENSIEVE says
Erin,
Yeah…tell me about it :/. So often we–I–act based on my FEELINGS! I wonder how much better this life would be if I just trusted TRUTH. I’m sure Jesus didn’t f e e l like loving us the way he did…his action was an unimaginable indication of unfathomable love.
A choice to love in action…oh, how grateful I am that Jesus led by EXAMPLE :).
Jules says
I love how you gave the definitions… sometimes we think we can’t express love to others unless we are in a relationship with that “special someone” but God’s love is for everyone… We all have that longing inside us to be loved and appreciated… So you nailed it with saying love is verb… it has to be action…. We can tell our friends we love them everyday or we can show that love and express it so our friends feel the love we profess!!
Blessings!
Robin ~ PENSIEVE says
Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Jules :). Don’t you think verbally expressing love is absolutely meaningless without attached ACTION? If I SAY it but everything else in my life contradicts it, wow…bitter lip service.
When you think about it, it’s a wonderful thought that love is spoken best without words….
Hmmmm.
Beth Williams says
How I love:
I love the way Jesus loved, by doing things for others. My husband says I’m always thinking of others. I try to do small little missions around town for friends, family & even those I don’t kow.
That way I’m showing God’s love to everyone and letting my “Little Light Shine”!
Robin ~ PENSIEVE says
Shine, girl, SHINE!! I’m a believer in the “little things” you’ve mentioned. To me, they go a loooooooooong way!
Dottie says
There is a differance between LOVE and Love in actions. Its not enough to say I love you. Its my actions that follow the words. It is selfless love. Thinking of the feeling of others before your own. We choose to love. Its not easy but the rewards are great.
Robin ~ PENSIEVE says
Dottie, I’ve already alluded to what you said here in my above reply; saying “I love you” without companion ACTION leaves painful void. The choice to ACT shouts from the mountaintops!
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Rebecca says
Beautiful picture.
So thankful that He shows how to love and be loved…
Robin ~ PENSIEVE says
Rebecca,
Your last two words have ME thinking now. I easily think about how Jesus demonstrated love to us, but acting as example of how to BE loved? I need to think on all the implications of that! Thank you :).
Rebecca says
Robin,
It’s something He has been speaking to my heart and I’m slowly (hopefully) catching on. 🙂
Shawn Bensley says
There is an old song that talks about “My Fathers eyes, eyes of love compassion” I try to remember that song when I am dealing with other people. It reminds me to look at them thru my Father’s eyes.
Robin ~ PENSIEVE says
Great point, Shawn! (And I know this song of which you speak…I’m old school Amy Grant!)
To see people as God sees them? How can you NOT love in action when that’s your M.O.? Lovely….
Beth Werner Lee says
Not sure if I can link up, haven’t been able to do that, so I’ll just mention something here and then write more on my livejournal account (a baby blogger).
We decided to make Valentine’s day a day of love and chocolate for everyone, so we host an annual chocolate fondue open house. Chocolate in warming pots, lots of things to dip, skewers for all, and welcome! Some neighbors bring extraordinary things to dip. But it’s our hope that folks who have no valentine date will consider this their valentine love in community, much like your second grade experience for adults: cards for all is chocolate for all!
Robin ~ PENSIEVE says
Beth,
Now THIS is what I’m talking about!! Open, non-exclusive and other-minded. GREAT idea!
xo
Tammie says
Thanks for sharing. This is exactly the kind of thing my husband and I want to do when we finally get our next house. We want it open and welcoming to all, and this is a great idea. 🙂
Jennifer Mantle says
I was honored by friends and family when I was without a car to let me borrow theirs for my errands instead of trying to take the city bus. It was then that I took the opportunity to be able to do something for the car owner by washing the car, cleaning it out, or even paying the personal property taxes on it as a gift. It really gets fun to figure out ways to surprise people who bless me.
As far as blessing the absolute stranger, sometimes there isn’t enough time more than a hello with a direct look and smile. These days it can be hard to find people not looking at the floor as they go about their day. Sometimes the “Hello” has to come first before the smile can be realized.
Robin ~ PENSIEVE says
In a nutshell, Jennifer, you’ve nailed it. Thoughtfulness, generosity to others–and that doesn’t have to mean great expense! Creativity goes a LONG way! I love how you’ve gotten me thinking about new ways I can love others. 🙂
Tammie says
Love your creativity on surprising people who bless you. I’m not nearly creative – I just wash (inside and out) borrowed vehicles – though once and awhile when friends are over chatting with my husband I’ve been known to wash their car on the sneak. lol
Jen says
The Lord is teaching me so much about love lately. I am walking through a tough season of losing a longtime friend—not to death, but to a loss of relationship. What I have learned is that sometimes showing love is the act of letting someone go and truly releasing them to the Lord to let Him do the work in them. There is a love that never fails, and I’m realizing that it’s a love born in the heart of our Papa, who wants life and healing for all his kids. So, as my efforts to reach out in love are met with distance and silence, I continue to love her through the Lord’s heart, hoping that He heals her heart enough to receive all he has for her.
Thanks for letting me add to this. New to the whole blogging/commenting world, but I love this blog. Totally life-giving, girls! 🙂 Thank you.
Robin ~ PENSIEVE says
Jen,
Right back atcha, friend…your words here are life and light!
I do feel your pain, though; does it sound awful to say in some ways it’s “easier” to lose someone to death because of its finality; that can’t be reversed. Living with rejection hurts in a different way because the other person is still around. You sound so healthy in your response–I’m proud of you even though I don’t know you. It’s a sure sign of maturity to be able to see the God’s perspective when life hurts and I see this in you.
Welcome to the blog/commenting world!! I’m SOOO happy to meet you! xo
Monica Snyder says
Reminds me of Andrew Peterson’s song,
“Now, love is not a feeling in your chest
It is bending down to wash another’s feet
It is faithful when the sun is in the west
And in the east
It can hurt you as it holds you
In its overwhelming flood
Till only the unshakeable is left
“This new command I give you,” He said,
“Love as I have loved”
So brother, love her better than yourself
And give her your heart
For the love of God
In the name of Jesus
The groom who gave his life
To love his bride”
Robin ~ PENSIEVE says
Monica,
Out of the ballpark, friend. Thank you.
Rachel Elefson says
Love is indeed a verb! “Silent gratitude isn’t much use to anyone. ~G.B. Stern ”
Love LOUDLY!
It has made all the difference in our marriage when I learned to love in DEED.
Robin ~ PENSIEVE says
Rachel,
I haven’t heard that Stern quote before but I **like** it (thanks for thinking to share it). As one who believes in living loudly, I like the spin to LOVE loudly.
Gosh, y’all are awesome!
🙂
Laura @ Perfect Love says
I love my enemies. Whenever someone at school is the least bit rude to me, it’s my sign that I should be loving them MORE! It’s amazing what it does to their attitude. They just don’t expect it. But it’s not my idea, actually. I got the idea of this guy…what was his name? Jesus, yeah, that’s it. 🙂 Jesus =D He has good ideas. 😉
Robin Dance says
Darlingest comment I think I’ve ever seen. Darling and important. How wise to understand you should love ’em more when the natural response would be to love ’em less.
Jesus has lots of good ideas…wonder why I don’t pay better attention sometimes!
Alisa says
I teach third grade and I will have your sweet niece, Erin, in just two years! Thanks for the reminder of how I am impacting lives for the future. I do not have fond memories of my 2nd grade teacher… funny how those things stick with you. It is my greatest prayer that my students will remember me, fondly, as one who pointed them to the greatest of all lovers. I am looking forward to meeting you on Saturday at the tea party!
Robin Dance says
ALISA!!!!!!!!!!! I feel like I DO already know you kindasorta through Bebe :). OH MY–I have a vlog going live tomorrow and I talk about the Valentine Tea!!! I hope you get to see it (although as I say that, I’m wanting to duck for cover…!).
I bet Erin will LOVE having you for a teacher; and your primary goal in teaching? Well, I wish my babies could’ve had you!
Robin Dance says
(and it’s implied but I can’t wait to actually meet you, too. 😉 🙂 )
Rachel says
I’m showing my son these definitions tomorrow – he thinks love is all about hearts and flowers and kisses. Which he is totally against. (He’s 10, what can I say?) But there’s much more to it than that, which I’ve been trying to teach him!
And by the way, the title of this post made me bust out singing some old-school DC Talk. =)
Robin Dance says
Rachel,
Don’t you think it’s easy for a child to misunderstand or flat out MISS ALL the subtleties of “love”? Heck, grown-ups miss ’em. I DO hope these simple definitions broaden his thinking; even at 10 I bet some lightbulbs come on :).
hehe, gotta love old school DC Talk :)…I wondered if anyone would mention that.
Roberta says
This post and your header had me hearing “The Youngbloods”…guess I’m showing my age 😉
Robin Dance says
DC Talk reference I know; the Youngbloods I don’t (but now I’m wildly curious!). 🙂
Roberta says
“Come on people now, smile on your brother. Everybody get together try to love one another right now.“ The Youngbloods, 1967
Sorry I’ve been out of town and just now catching up on my blog reading 😉
Sally says
Your words are lovely. Thanks on a day I needed to hear them!
Robin Dance says
Sally,
Well, THAT blesses my heart in the best of ways! You’re welcome :).
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Bonnie Holmes says
If ever I needed something to hear, it was this. That plaque immediately grasped my attention and I wanted to know how to get it. My last month has been plaqued by a major depressive episode. I didn’t want to love, I didn’t want to pray, I didn’t want anything. But my dearest friend reminded me that love would carry me through if I could just find my center and love from my center. Sounds familiar, huh? I have finally broken out of the depressive episode and life is slowly returning to normal. Thanks for the post!
Robin Dance says
Oh…Bonnie…I wish I could reach through my laptop and hug you! I’m so thankful you’re on “this” side of “that” and that you sense normalcy.
Whenever I write for (in)courage, I often wonder if my words reach anyone–if I’m really hearing direction from God or if I’m only imposing my own agenda–and then I am gifted with a comment like yours. I’m SO thankful for your friend who offered sweet encouragement.
And if you’re interested, you can get this canvas 25% off this month; plus, there are two versions–a larger canvas and a smaller plaque. (See the code at tope of page. 🙂 )
Erin says
Hey Robin – I was just wondering when those who entered would find out about being selected to get the canvas. Only reason I ask is because, well, I’d still like time to purchase (maybe) if I’m not the lucky one before the month is up. 🙂
Liberty says
The action part kinda trips me up at times… I would like it to be all warm fuzzies, honestly. and this reminds me that if we are willing ot pray for somebody, we ought to be willing to put action behind that too…
*Blessings*
Ginger says
I have linked my birthday post from my wonderful husband to show how he has beautifully expressed God’s love to me in such a special way.
Lis says
Excited to participate in my first link up.
Great topic!
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Lis says
Thank you so much!
Such a step of faith I took! Glad I did!
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